Here's the plan Part Two.

dreamdaisy
dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
edited 3. Feb 2013, 08:21 in Living with Arthritis archive
Well, basically, it's not going to plan. :) One of my bouncey balls rolled off the coffee table to under the sofa, various sweeps with a walking stick have resulted in nowt but I did clear out the box of pretty stretchy bands - blast. :wink: I overdid the whole wifely-cooking thing yesterday so paid the price last night and today with very sore scars, achey wrists and a general sense of gloom 'cos everyfink else is twanging away as a gentle reminder that I am washed-up at a comparatively young age - mind you, it was a double immuno-suppressant week with both humira and meth so I guess they too have contributed to that feeling. Life has been further complicated by the continued presence of my husband: he wasted about three hours in total yesterday in driving sixty miles or so trying to get to work, thirty out then thirty back so he was grumpy, then he couldn't go to London today due to train faults and he won't be going in tomorrow due to possible adverse weather - hence a greatly increased workload for me in making tea, coffee and food.

In order to give myself a break from being indoors I grabbed the Clatterator and toddled off to the viaduct, back up the hill to opposite the Fat Cat then home because it was cold, bright and the opposite pavement is completely clear of ice etc - blowing away cobwebs (I was smothered in 'em) has helped a little but stuff is now twanging with more energy. Once cannot win, yes?

So the new plan is this. Do nowt until the weather has eased and he's out of the house. I can then return to my slightly more indolent lifestyle with a clear conscience and fit in some gentle exercising as a result. I am, quite honestly, too busy being arthritic to cope with anything extra. It's meatballs tonight, made from scratch without bits from horse, starling or next-door's goldfish so it's to arthriticity and beyond for me! :lol:

I hope you are all as snuggled up as you can be - my appetite has shot up which I think is due to the cold - has yours done so too? DD
Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
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  • stickywicket
    stickywicket Member Posts: 27,697
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    OK so, just sit down for a minute, clear the head and open the lugholes.

    It seems to me that the exercise is very much in operation even if the exercise plan(s) are in abeyance. The gentle exercises you had planned sounded good but real life dealt you a different kind of workout. I know, all too well, the additional daily strain of having extra bodies in the house to water and feed. Somehow or other we still think with our non-arthritic heads and conclude this is a slight added extra and no big deal. Trust me, it’s a big deal. It’s a lot of extra work. The arthritic body, of whatever age, can’t be expected to handle that plus a new load of exercises at the same time.

    While your man is in residence just do what has to be done on the work front. Then, preferably while resting, do anything on the exercise front that will counter the aches and pains caused by brewing up and delivering extra cuppas and making extra meals and doing extra washing up. Then just rest. It’s not as if he’s on holiday and can help. He might be at home but he’s also at work so can’t. You are not being at all indolent. This is just messy, real life.

    (I’d blamed my cold for my extra appetite. Maybe it’s just my body trying to keep warm in this ice-box)
    If at first you don't succeed, then skydiving definitely isn't for you.
    Steven Wright
  • suzygirl
    suzygirl Member Posts: 2,005
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    It's meatballs tonight, made from scratch without bits from horse, starling or next-door's goldfish so it's to arthriticity and beyond for me! :lol:

    So how do they taste then? Will you lose your tail now? :lol::lol::lol:


    Only joking, we eat from scratch where possible. Hubby makes our burgers, with rather a lot of chilli in!! Home made usually tastes best.
  • mellman01
    mellman01 Member Posts: 5,306
    edited 17. Jan 2013, 17:36
    I suggest you try chillin with a bottle of red and some [Text Deleted] DD?.
  • tjt6768
    tjt6768 Member Posts: 12,170
    edited 17. Jan 2013, 17:36
    You look after yourself hun. I am sure Mr DD can make the odd cuppa for himself, maybe do a packed lunch type deal for his stay at home pack up as and when you can?

    I am with my pal Mell on the latter suggestion lol
    Nice [Text Deleted] buns maybe?

    Xxx
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  • applerose
    applerose Member Posts: 3,621
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Seems you are getting some exercise anyway so please don't overdo it. I think Plan Part 2 sounds good.

    Oh dear, Mellman and Tony have been bleeped out. :lol:
    Christine
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Thank you Sticky, you were spot on. I don't consider every-day activities as exercise but, actually, they are. I'm keeping a record of stairs ascended and descended (so far 65) as his 'office' is on the top floor (26 up, 26 down) and the sitting room on the first floor (13 up, not descended yet!) so that should prove to be an interesting total by the end of the day! DD

    PS. Mel and Tony? Norty boys! Applerose, you are right and thank you.
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • hileena111
    hileena111 Member Posts: 7,099
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi DD
    Behave!!!!!
    Do you not think you are getting enough exercise as it is??
    OK ...not the planned exercise but certainly exercise. :roll:
    Relax and look forward to when "him" gets back to work.
    Peter is very supportive but since he retired its a pain.{not just arthur :lol: }
    I used to do things slowly, sit down, do a bit more etc but now I feel guilty.
    I dont know why because he doesnt expect me to keep going all the time.
    I think its women!!! We are born to feel guilty....and if we have nothing to feel guilty about we feel guilty about not feeling guilty :lol::lol::lol:

    Love
    Hileena
  • bubbadog
    bubbadog Member Posts: 5,544
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hey DD, you let your body settle back down and this awful weather to shift and then you can think about 'the plan part 2'! And if your OH is stuck at home make him do his fair share of coffee,tea & any other beverage he wants!! I make mine do his fair share! Reason so he doesn't completely seize up!! :lol: You will get there honey just wait till your bodies is over this little blip! :D
  • barbara12
    barbara12 Member Posts: 21,280
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Oh DD you should write a book about all this....using one of those microphone thingy's...if you know what I mean...sorry gabapentin kicking in... :? :lol:
    Love
    Barbara
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Ah Hileena, I know what you mean - we women specialise in guilt don't we? Bubba, there's a reason why he's unable to 'do his bit' - I've detailed it below. And as for you, young Barbara, have a lovely gabapentin-indiced 'float', OK? :wink:

    Right, here's the thing. Mr DD has a new gizmo: phone calls are now carried out via his computer which means he wears a corded headset :roll: (He looks a prat though which is some recompense :wink: ) Gone are the days when I could yell and he would come down from his little eyrie, thanks to the current work pressures he seems to be permanently tethered by his new umbilical cord. I'm counting the stairs by keeping a note on the kitchen planner - it's amazing how soon it mounts up. :shock: DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • hileena111
    hileena111 Member Posts: 7,099
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    DD
    I know how you feel
    I speak to Peter...dont get an answer then look round and he has his ears plugged up.....either listening to a football match on his mobile/radio...or plugged into his computer watching a video or something like that.
    Sometimes....plugged into radio listening to a match and watching another on on TV at the same time :roll: :roll:

    Love
    Hileena
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Ah, man-world. I have know mine to be reading a paper, telly on with one game (sound off) and radio on with another (sound on). They claim they can't multi-task but they can when it's stuff they're interested in, we have to multi-task with stuff whether we're interested or not.

    I remember a gag by Ed Byrne about what is actually going on when a bloke is staring intently into space: he's busy being a spy. Mine does that every now and again, does yours? DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • hileena111
    hileena111 Member Posts: 7,099
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    I Like it DD :lol:
    Before I finished your post I thought ....we are the ones that can multi task...not them :lol:

    Love
    Hileena
  • stickywicket
    stickywicket Member Posts: 27,697
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    65 stairs by around breakfast time :o That's not my definition of 'indolence'. You are getting more than enough exercise right now. Even your heart & lungs will be getting a good workout.

    I confess, I have the odd male gene. I do sometimes watch rugby while listening to footie. It's OK when both my teams are trying to score in the same direction but very confusing when they're heading opposite ways.
    If at first you don't succeed, then skydiving definitely isn't for you.
    Steven Wright
  • kentishlady
    kentishlady Member Posts: 809
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi DD. You are having your problems!! I love all your good intentions. Think perhaps there are a few (?) advantages to not having an OH? At least I can please myself as to what I do and when I do it and/or when I feel up to doing it. The 'downside' is that I don't have anyone around to help me and when something needs to be done, and can't wait until my Son next visits me so that he can help, I have to get on and do it!

    Can understand the 'guilt' feelings you all mention. I feel the same. Think I should be doing a lot more but have learnt the hard way that some days I just have to abandon all my efforts and take it very easily.
    When I'm sitting on the sofa I start thinking about what I should be doing instead and that makes me feel even more guilty.

    Has now decided to snow quite heavily, so shan't be going out anywhere. Hope you are taking care. ((())) Beryl
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hello Beryl, you are wise to stay in methinks. It's starting something here, not snow as such, more like God's dandruff gently falling. :wink:

    Right, the stair count so far is 214. Ye gods. DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • stickywicket
    stickywicket Member Posts: 27,697
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Scene - DD household late this evening as DD trudges wearily up the stairs to bed mumbling "1,367. 1,368. 1,369. I really must get some exercise tomorrow." :roll: :lol:
    If at first you don't succeed, then skydiving definitely isn't for you.
    Steven Wright
  • dachshund
    dachshund Member Posts: 8,899
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hello DD
    you work hard every day try and rest when you can.
    take care
    joan xx
    take care
    joan xx
  • kellerman
    kellerman Member Posts: 741
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    DD stairs!!! I'm trying not to do stairs. Stick to a plan where if Mr DD wants a drink he gets it himself or does without.But the positives are you are getting your exercise which is after all what you wanted and leave everything else until the weather improves.
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Well, he and me have had a tricky day, one of the trickiest so far in 25 years of being together. We're sittiing watching telly, there's a deep (but strained) silence punctuated by small bouts of being over-polite.

    I dropped a full jar of chutney ( a Christmas present) which I cleared. He moaned, I forbore to point out that a few years ago he dropped an entire chopping board crammed with cheese, a number of small chutney pots and crackers (which I also cleared). It must be lovely to be without sin. Or a bloke.

    557 stairs. No wonder I'm hacked off. And I still have 26 to go. :wink: DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • kellerman
    kellerman Member Posts: 741
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Oh DD Thats it...he's a BLOKE. In my mind they have selective memory as well as selective hearing.
    Yesterday I asked John if he was listening to me. Answer Yes. So I said whatever it was and half an hour later he said what did you say.He was at the time listening to a football match with his earpiece.I can only assume it was a really interesting commentary.
    Hopefully the snow won't last too long but its been snowing here all night and still is.Oh Well....
  • stickywicket
    stickywicket Member Posts: 27,697
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Well, I think we've nailed that one. You are getting plenty of exercise.

    If you manage to sort out the 'bloke factor' please would you share the solution?
    If at first you don't succeed, then skydiving definitely isn't for you.
    Steven Wright
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    He's done another typical Mr DD 'bloke' thing; he's gone round to his mum's to check that all is OK (he finds going there unsettling and I can understand why) and after that he's going to the Co-op to buy some essentials. So, he goes to his car (which hasn't moved since Wednesday morning and is therefore very snowy) and shortly after whizzes past the window peering through a little porthole in the windscreen. Basically he's driving a Golf-shaped igloo. Clot. Be a danger to yourself by all means, my love, but not to others. :roll:

    I am struggling today - having done over 500 stairs yesterday it's dawned on me that Thursday and Wednesday would have similar totals as he was at home. I think I've had a little too much exercise in the past few days. No matter, I'm resting good and proper today and tomorrow will be the same. DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • stickywicket
    stickywicket Member Posts: 27,697
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Does he also do my bloke's thing of fiddling with all the controls - heater, radio, wipers etc while whizzing down the street rather than before? Plus, of course, fastening his seatbelt while executing the first right turn?
    If at first you don't succeed, then skydiving definitely isn't for you.
    Steven Wright
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Oh yes indeedy. It has to be a 'tater thing, no? He also complains about people not using their indicators at roundabouts ("What do you think I am? Deleted expletive clairvoyant?") then promptly doesn't use his. Bless! DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben