"well, I told you so..."

crookedlobster

Hi,

Although I appreciate people trying to help me with advice to help me with my Spinal Artritis, I do get a bit annoyed when I see someone and I have not acted on thier advice, and they tell me that I am only still in pain because I did not go to see thier magical practitioner who once cured them of a bit of a dodgy knee last year.

So many recommendations to see various practitioners; some valid, some involving quackery of some description.

Fine, but I do find it crazy that I can then be made to feel as if I have snubbed them personally and that I am a fool to myself.

Anyone else get this?


CL (quack quack)

dreamdaisy

Oh yes, all the time. Over the years I've learned that I suffer because I don't wear a copper bangle or use copper insoles, I don't use magnets, I don't drink enough water, I don't take the right supplements, I haven't tried acupuncture nor do I see a homeopath. According to one 'aquaintance' all I need to do is find Jesus and I wil be healed. Hmmmm.

If I have the misfortune to bump into one of these soothsayers (and if the conversation goes that way which it invariably does because they are boring people) I warmly assure them I am doing what they recommended but I'm just having a bad day. 'What a shame we didn't meet on Monday, that was one of my best days ever thanks to you!' has been heard to ring out at various social venues. DD

lizzieuk1

Hmm people have the best intentions, I think they just don't realise that when you have arthritis there is no cure they may well have suffered from a temporary problem and yes they got better from whichever treatment they used to facilitate that so assume you can too.
I' hope' that other practitioners also convey to patients they are only facilitating the body to heal not performing a miracle cure themselves, herein lies the problem I don't think many patients have this explained if they did they would perhaps realise you can't be 'cured' by anyone only managed, all my patients understand if they have a degenerative condition that I cannot 'cure' them only help them be more comfortable and facilitate their body to compensate and cope with what's happening. In fact we don't cure anyone that's the bodies job. (No ref to major pathologies here only degen conditions)
Perhaps you can explain that point to the next Person who suggests their curative practitioner to you so they can understand and stop them feeling snubbed.

jillyb1

My pet hate has always been the people who say , " rheumatoid arthritis , ah yes I / my father / friend / neighbour had that but it's better now . " The next sentence will then be how they got cured ; maybe by avoiding walking on the cracks in the pavement ! Jillyb

crookedlobster

Avoiding cracks in the pavement would probably be as effective as homeopathy.



CL (a man who avoids too much dilution in his solution)

stickywicket

Welcome to the club, crookedlobster. Ah yes, been there and done that. Everyone, other than the actual docs, has a cure and, in the dim, distant past, I've been made to feel very unco-operative by stubbornly persisting in my RA despite the snake oil which cured their neighbour of 'something similar'. You will find they even come on these forums peddling their miracles. I'm personally hanging on until someone offers me the wine cure - Uncle Fred supped a bottle a day before breakfast and, after 6 months, his THRs and TKRs all dropped out as his joints had regenerated. Sign me up for that on prescription, please.

dreamdaisy

Over the years I've met people with a wide range of conditions and not once have I felt the need to tell 'em what they should be doing to heal themselves. I think the problem with arthritis is that is is so common that everyone knows someone who had arthritis (or even worse thought they had arthritis which is why the dandelion infusion 'cured' them) that it makes us sitting ducks for idiocy. I'm with Sticky on the wine cure but mine would also need a smattering of real ale too. DD

stickywicket

dreamdaisy wrote:

I'm with Sticky on the wine cure but mine would also need a smattering of real ale too. DD

Though not, I trust, in the wine