Unbeaten

noeltone
noeltone Member Posts: 878
edited 17. May 2009, 13:03 in Living with Arthritis archive
I thought i would begin a new thread in order to hope to remain positive which i have been helped as always by so many kind words. I try to draw a veil over my downess but it is not easy for me, i try not to get in a rut but is not so easy for me. I try to beat my bad times but it is not easy and i would love to be able to cope better and not beat myself up and be liked but it is not that easy well it is not for me. I really appreciate all of your kindness I have never been loved by so many i tend to dwell on those who hate me i welcome positive ways as to how others cope i dont think it is just useless old me. i have had a bad throat and cold since i dont know when and my immune system is just useless atm and these things dont help let alone with arthur and his ways it is not a competiton as we are all different in arthurs symptoms and how we cope with it .ps to one of you i am real person with real feelings i do exist in reality and have actually met some peeps from ac forum and i hope you find a man soon i hope you all have a smashing weekend

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  • woodbon
    woodbon Member Posts: 4,969
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi, It can be the hardest thing of all, to get over or out of depression, especially when you're feeling ill and in pain. :(

    I suffered from depression for a long time before arthur came. I think someone told me once that the best thing to do is to accept that you are down and that is horrible, but it won't last forever and if you hang on the darkness lifts.

    For me, I find just making the effort to do the things I would normally do, housework cooking, reading, whatever the routine is, I try to follow it. Eat at mealtimes. Just an act really, but the act becomes reality after a while. I'm not perfect I don't always manage it. I shout at my husband, spend half the day in bed, blame everyone else.

    I really wish I had some pearls of wisdom to give you, a majic answer. I am so very sorry for your being so down on yourself, I'd love to say something more positive. I hope things soon start to feel better and brighter. I send my very best of feel good thoughts, and love to you, Love Suexxx PS So many people hear can't be wrong, they all love you. :wink:
  • elnafinn
    elnafinn Member Posts: 7,412
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Dear Chrisov

    Lovely to hear from you again and especially on a positive note. It is easier for some people than others as you say, but you try and do not give up and you are not beaten and if you are, not for long. Keep on, keeping on. You know who supports you on here and that will not change. If you start on a downer, let us know, like you do, which is a good start, as it is good to talk and you will get positive thoughts and vibes back every time to help you on your way through it. Guaranteed. :)

    You give out much on the forum too and we notice when you are not around. We all work and pull together. Dwell on those that love and look out for you as they are by far the majority. Forget the minority - they are few and far inbetween.

    We all believe in you, even if you do not believe in yourself yet.

    Love and happy vibes being sent over your way,

    Elna x
    The happiest people don't have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything.

    If you can lay down at night knowing in your heart that you made someone's day just a little bit better, you know you had a good day.
  • joanlawson
    joanlawson Member Posts: 8,681
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Chrisov

    I like the title "unbeaten" because it shows that you are winning the battle. I'm sorry to hear that you have had a nasty cold and sore throat. On top of the arthritis, that is enough to make anyone feel down.I hope you are feeling better now.

    Let's hope that the weather will improve soon as a bit of sunshine makes us all feel better, I think.

    With very best wishes,

    Joan :D
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  • frogmorton
    frogmorton Member Posts: 30,087
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Chrisov
    Well done you.
    Unbeaten is the word!!!
    Wish I could make you beleive you are loved :)
    Anyway I hope the cold/virus goes away soon and you pick up physically :)
    So far I HAVE had a busy weekend.
    It has been v good - my sis in law passed her driving test on friday so we went for a celebratory curry, then yesterday we all (11) of us went to Hungarian 'do' in Stoke and I ended up doing the hokey cokey and the limbo (after a fashion!!!!). My knee is killing me this morning - but it is MEMORIES fior my kids I think!!! Today I have to act not hung over (polenka - have you tried it?) as hubby's friends are here for Sunday Lunch.
    How is Charlie doing? How old is he now?
    Yes I agree someone on here has a big problem and it's not you!!!!!
    Maybe we should all stop getting wound up by her and just not reply??
    Love
    Toni xx
  • mrsmopp
    mrsmopp Member Posts: 73
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi

    Im fairly new on here. Have been reading all your posts. I would just like to add i think your amazing. Keep positive x
  • shonaarnold
    shonaarnold Member Posts: 35
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi, I'm new on here also but have read your posts. I too have suffered with depression and the only thing that kept me going was carrying on with the normal everyday activities even tho it felt like dragging myself through treacle. I've been to some pretty dark places and once the depression did start to lift it was quite frightening to remember just what sort of a state I had been in. Some people can be very cruel but I can see that you have lots of support here and people who care about you. Try to push on and hold in your mind that things will get better.

    Take care and don't keep it all in

    Shona x
  • mistywillow
    mistywillow Member Posts: 711
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    shonaarnold wrote:
    Hi, I'm new on here also but have read your posts. I too have suffered with depression and the only thing that kept me going was carrying on with the normal everyday activities even tho it felt like dragging myself through treacle. I've been to some pretty dark places and once the depression did start to lift it was quite frightening to remember just what sort of a state I had been in. Some people can be very cruel but I can see that you have lots of support here and people who care about you. Try to push on and hold in your mind that things will get better.

    Take care and don't keep it all in

    Shona x


    Hi Chrisov
    Love the title of the thread. It says it all! All the things that life has thrown at you and you are still not beaten! Well done. The harder it is for you the harder you have to work to overcome it and yet you do it time and time again! Well done.

    Sue
    You always offer so much support to everyone and yet you have your own battles to fight too. I hope you also share when you are down and allow us to try and help you back up.

    There are so many on this site that not only cope with the pain and frustration of arthritis but the black hole that depression brings with it. I wish you all the strength to battle with those demons and arthur too.
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    lots of love and cyber hugs to you all
    Gillx
  • noeltone
    noeltone Member Posts: 878
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi to all my great mates and even the cruel ones: today I feel on top of the world and once more I could climb Everest and win the Eurovision Song Contest and many thanks to all my wonderful friends and my cough and sore throat is lots better now i just need my last DMARD to work all take care have a good ay and cyber hugs to you all
  • elnafinn
    elnafinn Member Posts: 7,412
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hiya Chrisov :D:D

    So happy to hear that you are feeling on top of the world, this morning :D:D:D

    I am being really lazy today but what the heck! Who cares anyway, I don't! :lol::lol:

    Continue having a great day and pleased to hear that the cough and sore throat are both on their way out, so to speak.

    Bye for now,

    Luv
    Elna x()
    The happiest people don't have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything.

    If you can lay down at night knowing in your heart that you made someone's day just a little bit better, you know you had a good day.
  • jackie1955
    jackie1955 Member Posts: 632
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Chrisov,

    Its just bl00dy brilliant you are feeling so great today......... c050.gif

    Long may it continue hun.

    Jackie x
  • skezier
    skezier Member Posts: 11,333
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Chrisov,

    I am so glad that your feeling better, as Elna said long may it last. Your a good chap. I really hope your cough and cold leave you alone for a very long time. Take care, Cris and a ((( ))) but don't catch my cold please. :lol:
  • frogmorton
    frogmorton Member Posts: 30,087
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Chrisov
    Just so you know
    Your post made ME feel really GOOD!!
    Thanks for the hug - I got it! :wink:
    Toni xx
  • elnafinn
    elnafinn Member Posts: 7,412
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    skezier wrote:
    Hi Chrisov,

    I am so glad that your feeling better, as Elna said long may it last. Your a good chap. I really hope your cough and cold leave you alone for a very long time. Take care, Cris and a ((( ))) but don't catch my cold please. :lol:

    :D:D Jackie said that not me :D:lol::lol::lol: but I fully endorse that :D

    Hope your cold buzzes off soon, Cris ()

    Luv
    Elna x
    The happiest people don't have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything.

    If you can lay down at night knowing in your heart that you made someone's day just a little bit better, you know you had a good day.
  • nearlybionic
    nearlybionic Member Posts: 1,899
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Christov
    I am glad that you are feeling more positive at the moment, and hope it continues. You have so much to offer to people here and I know I have found your posts inspirational.
    Take care xx
    NB
  • skezier
    skezier Member Posts: 11,333
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Elna,

    Your normally who I copy :lol: Hey I have had this cold to varying degrees since November so its out stayed its welcome and I have packed it's bags and set my employers on it but so far its still clinging to the door. That's one reason they gave the drip........ :wink: xx

    Sorry Jackie....... :oops: I hang my head in shame and put it down to the stupid eye site I have at anything inside five feet....... :shock:
    I will get better, promise :) x

    Hi Chrisov,

    I hope you will forgive me for going off track but I am so pleased to see you up beat and good luck for Everest, too cold for me there I think. :wink: x

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