Its ONLY arthritis!

markc1
markc1 Member Posts: 253
edited 22. May 2009, 05:29 in Living with Arthritis archive
If i've heard this once this week......don't people think your making it up? People say my ''mums got that and shes not bad''

What do you think,mines only early onset but no ones told my knees that! :x

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  • ninakang
    ninakang Member Posts: 1,367
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hiya Markc1 (or however you're spelling it, sorry!)

    People can be so insensitive and why do they feel the need to tell you about someone else who has it "and copes wonderfully"?!

    Tell them to shut their face :-)

    Nx
  • penfactor
    penfactor Member Posts: 366
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Too right, Nina! Isn't it funny how it's only people who do not have it seem to think they know so much about it!
    Just ignore them Mark & carry on talking to us on here!
    :)
    Pen X
  • suncatcher
    suncatcher Member Posts: 2,174
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    I think a lot of people are ingnorant and have no right to comment on something they clearly know nothing about i would take no notice. take confidance and strength from this site. all the best joanne
    Joanne
  • ninakang
    ninakang Member Posts: 1,367
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Yes, sorry Mark, Pen and Joanne's replies are much more helpful than mine - go with what they say.

    I'm not having a very good week (due mainly to the rain) and get a bit fed up. Will be better when the sun starts shining again :-) Promise.

    Nx
  • skezier
    skezier Member Posts: 11,333
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Mark,

    I hear it all the time both for me and one of employers, people always are worse, or just have a bit of an ache in a joint so think thats it..... sadly some will learn but they are not worth getting up set over. I think its because they don't understand and don't want to be asked to do anything, even if its only being supportive... People are odd and have no idea how to respond I guess?

    Don't let it get to you though, Take care, Cris
  • bevman
    bevman Member Posts: 107
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    markc1 wrote:
    If i've heard this once this week......don't people think your making it up? People say my ''mums got that and shes not bad''

    What do you think,mines only early onset but no ones told my knees that! :x
    Hi markc i no what you mean my boss phoned me and said the same thing"oh my brother in law has got RA and he is fine" well doh everybody is diffrent and we all respond diffrentley to treatment what works for one may not for somebody else she to made me feel like i was a bit of a wuss.
    take care Laurence
  • nearlybionic
    nearlybionic Member Posts: 1,899
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Mark
    Unfortunately there is always someone out there who knows someone who`s worse than you, copes better than you, etc... The longer I have been aware of my arthur, the thicker skinned I am becoming!!! (hmmmph it that a side effect??! :shock: )
    I had a woman ask me why I was having a hip replacement when I didn`t look as bad as her mum was !!! I was going to ask her if she wanted to spend a day with me to see me limp, trip, cry in pain etc... but I just said, well I hope she is getting her hip done soon. and smiled so sickly sweet :wink:
    Don`t let the #%*@#%@* grind you down. They`re not worth the effort!!
    NB
  • katekelly
    katekelly Member Posts: 975
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    My Auntie has an arthritic big toe-"You don't know the pain!"- What do I say other than actually I do, have done for 13 years and wish it was just my big toe! It really is a case of been there, done that, got the T shirt!!!
  • woodbon
    woodbon Member Posts: 4,969
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    The one remark I hate is 'My Mum has that and wears a copper, magnetic, whatever braclet and now shes fine, why don't you try that?' Why not? Because they don't bl,,,,y work!!! Sorry to anyone who finds them useful. :) Love Sue
  • colinone
    colinone Member Posts: 1,039
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi mark
    People just havent got a clue, because we dont look ill they assume where fine.
    Colin
  • shonaarnold
    shonaarnold Member Posts: 35
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Mmm... people hear the word arthritis and think of it as the achy joints that most people get when they get older due to normal wear and tear. Most don't understand that what you are talking about is an actual disease, an illness where your body is literally attacking itself. Most comments like that are down to lack of understanding and yes, it's the usual "you don't look ill" attitude. That why places like this are so important. I was told last week by a colleague that it was because I work too hard. I smiled sweetly and just thought that there was absolutely no danger of her ever being affected if that were the case!

    Don't let silly remarks from people who don't understand get you down. My mum nearly decked a traffic warden a few weeks ago for questioning why she was in a disabled spot, he made a hasty retreat when my dad hobbled up to the car!
  • annebr
    annebr Member Posts: 730
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi,

    Another favorite but annoying comment is 'you don't look ill' or 'you are too young'

    Just because at first glance you may not look as if you have anything wrong people think you can't be in any pain.
  • eckstardeluxe
    eckstardeluxe Member Posts: 1,192
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Yup and the "but you're so young" as well. Everyone thinks they are experts. If they get really cheeky then I give them the whole shebang. I'm only warming up, but as soon as they hear MRSA you can actually see the blood running out of their faces :lol: I never thought I'd be glad to be saying that! Just shows you what this Forum can do to lift one's mood. :D
  • oneday
    oneday Member Posts: 1,434
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    yeah, heard that one!........of course from people without it,..say no more.
  • breane
    breane Member Posts: 392
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Mark, I met a relative the other day who I hadn't seen for some time.She asked how I was and I told her about the OA/RA and her comment was,''well you are 62 now and you've got to expect some aches and pains,everyone gets achey niggles as they get older''.Because we don't look unwell and try to carry on as normal,people don't realise the pain we are in. :( And arthritis isn't just an ''old persons'' disease.I would like to say to all these people who just dismiss the disease, ''walk in my shoes for a day and see how you feel''.They just don't know how severe the pain can be.That's my moan done for the day!!Sun just coming out so perhaps we'll have a bit of warm weather to cheer us up. Breane. :)
  • frogmorton
    frogmorton Member Posts: 30,032
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Mark
    and everyone else!!!
    Oh yes oh yes, why don't you try fish oils or glucosamine it helped my.....
    wish they'd naff off. Or do you think they are reallly trying to be helpful?? Some of them? Maybe people with other problems get similar silly comments, but i think not....
    Shona
    Your colleague is in no danger of getting it, if it's due to overwork eh?!! LOVE it!!!
    Take care all
    Toni x
  • mrsmopp
    mrsmopp Member Posts: 73
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    woodbon wrote:
    The one remark I hate is 'My Mum has that and wears a copper, magnetic, whatever braclet and now shes fine, why don't you try that?' Why not? Because they don't bl,,,,y work!!! Sorry to anyone who finds them useful. :) Love Sue

    If i had a pound for every time someone says this to me i would be a rich person, then i would treat all you nice people on this site to a real diamond bracelet. :):):)

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