Looking for parents of young children

tkachev

Hi Page 35

I cannot cope at the school fairs cos the kids run about and I can lose them and I am so tired if I walk around so dad does all that but it is difficult for him to copewith the 3 kids.Lucy is 5 now and actually starting to keep an eye on her brother so that helps.Parking is another problem even with the blue badge you have to struggle in and out of the car so I find it easier to just stay at home.I have my hip op in 4 days so I really hope that will help but after ten years of pain it would be a miracle to be able to walk about pain free.That is just not going to happen!
I have a few carers who help a few hours a week.My two older daughters have there own lives to worry about and live away from home.
Tk

c4thyg

page35 wrote:

its good to hear others stories
if we all lived in the same street it would be great, i would invite you all over for a cup of tea and some pain killers
Page

Page, you're bang on there. That is exactly what we need. Others like us, who understand us, living close enough that we can pop pills together!! I'll put the kettle on and we'll let the kids tire each other out. Do you think a narcotics party would be legal? Maybe we'd all have to bring proof of prescriptions!! It could be the new Tupperware party for friends of Arthur!! So who wants to run the franchise?

suncatcher

Yes i would certainly go to this gathering joanne

katelyall

Hi, I've just registered even though I've had RA for 9 years!, I was 27 when I was first diagnosed, just after I got married! I now have 2 children, a son aged 5 and a daughter aged 2. It has been incredibly hard especially after my son was born as I had a huge flare up and couldn't even pick him up, I felt like a complete failure as a mum. It hasn't been as bad as that since but I do have my moments when I think I'm not doing a good enough job! At the moment I have just qualified for one of the new biologic drugs and am waiting for paperwork etc to be done, am really hoping this will make me feel alot better and not make me so flippin tired! My children are adorable and I try to hide the pain alot as I don't want them to worry!

suncatcher

Hi katy welcome to the site the chidren help us keep going i think i will miss my youngest when he starts school but am pleased as he will have friends round him all day and more help. I hope this new drug works for you and you will become less tired i think thats the thing i hate most is the fatigue. all the best joanne

tkachev

Hi Katy

WElcome from me Tkachev.A lot of us seem to have developed R A after having a baby'Then we are left trying to deal with it all and nobody seems to believe how awful we feel.

Joanne look forward to your son going to school.Use the time to rest if you can.He will have a great time.I hope you will be well enough to take him.My OH has to take mine as i couldnt walk up to the school, although i hope,having just had a THR,i might be able to manage soon

REgards Tkachev

c4thyg

I haven't been here for a little while as I haven't been well. Still not sure if it was a flare up with vomiting or swine flu!! Who knows? THe flu and a flare are so similar. Anyway, wow! I can't believe how this thread has taken off. We seem to need our own section of the forum.

So my update is that I'm potty training my daughter now. I'm really surprised at how good she's been. We've had one accident in 3 days!!! Better still it's so much easier to empty a potty than to lift a toddler up onto a changing table and fight to get a nappy on. Hopefully I'll be able to go out with her by the weekend. I'm not ready for that just yet. A 3 second warning isn't enough away from home!!

I hope everyone else is good and having a great time with the little ones.

page35

Hi thachey
how are you doing after the op?
i guess it went well?

c4thy
i still put pull ups on my daughter when we go out as i find it easyer then trying to hunt down a loo, as you say with a 3 sec warning.
or when im driving.

page

c4thyg

Page, I'm trying not to use pull ups in possible as Meg sees them as nappies and wees in them in minutes. I was going to use one today though as I had to go and have a blood draw this morning. She usually sits on my lap while it's being done and I didn't fancy getting a warm feeling on my legs!!:oops: Thankfully my parents turned up so they stayed with her for half hour for me. Typically she weed everywhere while I was out and is now happily using the potty again. I think she forgot with the excitement. I'm glad she's in nursery tomorrow, I'm shattered today. I have to keep telling myself that its worth it and she has to do it sometime.

page35

Hi c4thy
parents are great like that, i had to have bloods done today too and my mum watched kids for me.
i am a wimp and have in the past fained after having blood tests so wouldnt take my daughter with me, so dont know what i would do without my mum.
hope you can rest up abit tomorrow, while Meg enjoys herself at nursery
take care
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