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juejue

i hvae spent most of the week in and out of bed not had a very good week low mood and the rest that goes with it no visits from family

its my birthday on friday and my daughter is going to the big brother thing and has asked me to look after the grandchildren 3 of them i don,t mind doing it, it will be over night

they just think i am lazy and that there is nothing wrong with me

if my arm or leg was off they my help me

my carpets have not been hovered for months i have tried and they wonder why i am in bed all the time don,t want to look at the house the mess
you wonder why i lose the will to live
julie


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sharmaine

Hey Juejue

Arthritis can get you down and if you're in pain you've got to rest.
We always hope our family will be there for us but it is sometimes out of sight out of mind! They are probably busy with their lives and families and haven't the time to consider anyone else.

I try and do little things each day and I find it keeps my spirits up.
I would suggest you make a list of things you need to do and tackle a couple of jobs in the house. Maybe start downstairs; putting things away; polishing etc. I always think having the lounge looking nice; kitchen tidy etc makes me feel good. Then the next day you could tackle your bedroom; washing; then the next your ironing.

Give yourself a birthday treat; have you hair done; go to lunch with a friend.

Make your house your little nest and be happy there. It's up to you.

I do hope your mood lifts soon. Put some music on - it always lifts my spirits; get dressed; put some slap on etc.

If you still feel low go and see your GP for help and advice.

In the meantime I would like to wish you a wonderful and happy birthday.

And send you lots of hugs!! Take care.

Sharmaine
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juejue wrote:

i hvae spent most of the week in and out of bed not had a very good week low mood and the rest that goes with it no visits from family

its my birthday on friday and my daughter is going to the big brother thing and has asked me to look after the grandchildren 3 of them i don,t mind doing it, it will be over night

they just think i am lazy and that there is nothing wrong with me

if my arm or leg was off they my help me

my carpets have not been hovered for months i have tried and they wonder why i am in bed all the time don,t want to look at the house the mess
you wonder why i lose the will to live
julie


you wo

janie68

Hi Julie

So your daughter is asking you to babysit on your birthday? I think you need to stand up to them, be uncontactable for a while, then they may worry then. I feel for you, how dare they do this to you! :x

Please treat yourself on your birthday, I have a mobile beautician come to do my nails every 2 weeks, its my treat and its in my home and makes me feel nice. Get your hair done, have a bath whatever makes you feel better. Dont worry about your house, I agree with last post, I always have the lounge nice but everywhere is a tip, I do dusting and tidying everyday but nothing else, just cant but at least I feel I am doing something.

Thinking of you.

Janie x

juejue

I WILL SHOW THEM

i have just been awarded DLA not sure on which rate i put in for it in may i feel so much better for that

they will not be getting a penny out of me

my life can only get better now i don,t need to worry to much about work now

i would have a bottel of wine but with all my meds i better not

thanks for all your support over the last few month i don,t think i could of coped without all of you

just want to say a big thank you to all my friends on her xx

janie68

You can now definitely treat yourself with the backpay money that DLA will give you, have whole makeover!!

Great news and dont tell them (family) about DLA!!

Janie

elnafinn

Dear Julie

It is your birthday on Friday and you are entitled to do what you want, not what your daughter wants on this occasion. If you would enjoy the grandies company with you and staying overnight and it will not be too much for you, then by all means say yes. I do know what joy grandchildren bring but if you are not feeling up to it, you must say so.

You could do a deal with your daughter, but goodness knows why you have to and say you hoover and clean my house and I will look after the children so you can go out.

Keep calling in on here, you will always get replies from us even if you get nothing from your family.

Luv
Elna x

c4thyg

Jue, I'm not sure there's much more I can add but I wanted to wish you a Happy Birthday for Friday. I hope you have a good one.

woodbon

Hi, I agree with all thats been said. Especally about doing small amounts of housework at a time, but doing it most days. Thats how I cope and if something stops me, I always feel that things are overwhelming me! As for your Birsthday, thats for you to decide what you would like to do. Whatever that is, have a nice day.
Love Sue

juejue

THANK YOU TO YOU ALL

YOU ARE MY FAMILY NOW

i do some small amount of housework every day so my living room is always clean just not the floor, i do the toliet every time i use it and the sink just carnt do the bath which my son uses and never cleans i have started going mad at him and saying if he doesnt pull his wait he is out

thanks again for all your support x julie

ps i will be 47 on friday getting younger

topcatt

Just wanted to say Happy Birthday for Friday and enjoy your back pay - you really must treat yourself and just try to do one thing at a time - no hurry no pressure but as you achieve each little thing hopeully you will begin to feel a little bit better. You have to look after No.1 cos no one else will. Take care x

elnafinn

Happy birthday for tomorrow Julie and make it that day, that you are going to make changes in your life and your children that use the home facilities but do not clear up after themselves and also perhaps get another gp who will listen and support you with all that is going on in your life.

You are in charge of your own home and please don't let any of them forget that.

Hope your appointment goes well too.

Luv
Elna x

dachshund

Happy birthday Juejue.
have a lovely day and do what you want to do.
but make sure you enjoy yourself.
you need people to do work for you as a b present
its my birthday and my twin sisters on sunday.
we will be 68. have a lovely day joan xx

carol71

Congratulatins on getting awarded DLA and I hope you manage to use some of it to treat yourself.
With reguard to your birthday friday, it's your special day and don't let your dd take advantage of you and put on you if you don't feel up to it. Instead if your feeling up to it arrange to go out for a nice meal and relax.

Carol xxx

janie68

Oh and I forgot to say Happy birthday for friday, we all say to enjoy yourself, doing what you decide to do!!!

Janie :P

sharmaine

Hi

I just wanted to ask what your family are doing for you on your birthday? I think it's a bit cheeky to ask you to babysit on your birthday, however, if you're up for it then that's fine.

I think you should have a quiet word with your son. Tell him that you cannot possibly clean the bath after him. Show him where the cleaning stuff is and explain how it is done. Do not get angry and tell him how much you appreciate him listening and helping you out. The sweeter a request is made the sweeter the result. I've learned over the years to always start my requests with "I" try it out but do it calmly and confidently.

You may find that your family start being more considerate.

I love my home and if I have a bad day and if I can't do my little jobs it gets me down. But I know they'll be there waiting for me!
A little and often works for me.

Take care and have a good birthday. Good news about the DLA - treat yourself and have a good day.

Sharmaine
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juejue wrote:

i hvae spent most of the week in and out of bed not had a very good week low mood and the rest that goes with it no visits from family

its my birthday on friday and my daughter is going to the big brother thing and has asked me to look after the grandchildren 3 of them i don,t mind doing it, it will be over night

they just think i am lazy and that there is nothing wrong with me

if my arm or leg was off they my help me

my carpets have not been hovered for months i have tried and they wonder why i am in bed all the time don,t want to look at the house the mess
you wonder why i lose the will to live
julie


you wo

juejue

NO plans from any of my children

they just think about themselves

i will have a good time with my grandchildren we can have a party jelly and icecream yum yum

thanks again to everyone

julie

elnafinn

That's right, Julie, you have fun on your birthday with your grand children. How old are they? You start thinking about yourself too.

Luv
Elna x

Luv
Elna x

juejue

elnafinn wrote:

That's right, Julie, you have fun on your birthday with your grand children. How old are they? You start thinking about yourself too.

Luv
Elna x

Luv
Elna x

OLIVIA IS 6 ETHAN IS 4 AND JOSHUA IS 12

elnafinn

Good morning Julie

What lovely names. I hope Joshua is a good boy!!!! Could he help you around the house sometimes, when you look after them?

Jelly and icecream sounds yummy.

Hope you are feeling much better today.

Luv
Elna x

juejue

elnafinn wrote:

Good morning Julie

What lovely names. I hope Joshua is a good boy!!!! Could he help you around the house sometimes, when you look after them?

Jelly and icecream sounds yummy.

Hope you are feeling much better today.

Luv
Elna x

Hi Elna
josh is a great help more than i can say for his mun

it is a lovely day but it doesnt help with my pains when its warm

but my mind is better now i have DLA

julie

sharmaine

Well done! You can buy some great birthday cakes from the foodstore. I'm sure your grandchildren will love celebrating your birthday with you. Have a good day tomorrow.

Many happy returns for tomorrow.

Sharmaine