Tearful and down today

jaspercat

Hi Everyone, not feeling too well today, I have already had a few tears, which is not like me at all, I think it is done to on-going stress with Malcolm's dad being ill in hospital, we are waiting for him to be discharged knowing that he is terminal with cancer. Malcolm is visiting him today but I don't feel up to going, so will be staying here, I am trying to stay busy but think that I will be having a few more tears later love Jaspercatxx

josiec

Hi, so sorry to hear you are not so good today. You have a lot going on at the moment, with both physical and mental demands and this is bound to have an effect. It is a good idea for you to have a quieter day at home today-a little bit of me-time, maybe a little something you enjoy doing? (A bit of choccy and a good book?) Perhaps your body is letting you know it needs a breather. I do hope you feel better very soon, remember we are here, sending hugs, Josie

lindah

Thoughts are with you'
Love and stuff from Linda h 8)

elnafinn

Dear Jaspercat

I am so sorry to read your message. You do have such a lot going on at the moment and although you have not gone with Malcolm today, I can imagine the turmoil you are in and you probably cannot settle to anything, especially rest as your mind is working over time along with coping with pain and all the upset. Have a good cry, really let it all out, because I am sure you will be putting on a brave face, most of the time for Malcolm and his dad and this in itself is a great strain.

I am sending you my love and hope you feel a little better soon and strength returns to you for what is ahead.

There seems to be so much unhappiness on the forum today, it breaks my heart, I also have a friend whose husbands sister suddenly died of a brain haemmorage a week ago at age 58, the same age as me. Someone whom I Private Message who used to join in on this forum, is really going through an extremely sad and upsetting time now and it really does bring it all home to me, how very fragile life is.

Thinking of you Jaspercat,

Love and gentle hugs
Elna xx

lindalegs

Hi Jaspercat,

So sorry you're feeling low today

Maybe if you rest and take some time out for just you, you may start to feel brighter.

Hope things pick up for you soon.

Luv Legs

suncatcher

sorry you so down sending a cyber hug in your direction joanne

queenfan

Hi Jaspercat
sorry to hear you are feeling low it's horrible feeling down I hope you will soon be feeling a little better
take care Sue

eckstardeluxe

I am so sorry you are feeling so down. I'm not surprised with everything you are having to contend with at the moment. I have never been in this position having someone close terminally ill and just can't imagine how awful it must be.

My Gran had a heart attack two weeks ago, this is the one who went to all my appointments with me in childhood. She was like a second mother to me, we are extremely close as have an amazing bond because of what we went through together. All I could think of was "she can't go, not yet, my children won't remember this woman and they need to". All I could do was think about it, nothing else, I imagine you must be the same and it really gets you down and tremendously upset. She is ok now, thankfully.

I hope you feel better soon. You are such a positive person and have really supported me through my darkest days. I just feel so sad thinking of you being down. Please let us now how everything is going if you feel up to it. You are in my thoughts, I'm not a religious person but I will think positive thoughts and hopes for you and your family.

Take care

Eck xxxxxxx

jaspercat

Hi Everyone, thanks for your lovely messages, I had a good old cry today when Malcolm is out, so feel slightly better, having a treat of some yummy clotted cream ice cream soon, there are so many things rushing through my mind, I must admit to feeling as though I am letting Malcolm down but he says that am I not, I think he was relieved that I spent the day alone today, apart from the cat of course, I wish I could just settle and stop thinking about things
love Jaspercatxx

eckstardeluxe

jaspercat wrote:

Hi Everyone, thanks for your lovely messages, I had a good old cry today when Malcolm is out, so feel slightly better, having a treat of some yummy clotted cream ice cream soon, there are so many things rushing through my mind, I must admit to feeling as though I am letting Malcolm down but he says that am I not, I think he was relieved that I spent the day alone today, apart from the cat of course, I wish I could just settle and stop thinking about things
love Jaspercatxx

I'm glad to hear you are slightly better. Getting it all out by crying does help lift that weight from your shoulders. You are not letting anyone down, you are just a caring person, worrying for someone you love and of course for Malcolm. If you didn't get upset then that would mean you didn't care and I'm sure Malcolm would be more upset about that. He will be glad to know you care. Honestly, I would if it was my Dad and my hubby getting upset. You take care now, eat what you want, goodies always help!

mistywillow

eckstardeluxe wrote:

jaspercat wrote:

Hi Everyone, thanks for your lovely messages, I had a good old cry today when Malcolm is out, so feel slightly better, having a treat of some yummy clotted cream ice cream soon, there are so many things rushing through my mind, I must admit to feeling as though I am letting Malcolm down but he says that am I not, I think he was relieved that I spent the day alone today, apart from the cat of course, I wish I could just settle and stop thinking about things
love Jaspercatxx

I'm glad to hear you are slightly better. Getting it all out by crying does help lift that weight from your shoulders. You are not letting anyone down, you are just a caring person, worrying for someone you love and of course for Malcolm. If you didn't get upset then that would mean you didn't care and I'm sure Malcolm would be more upset about that. He will be glad to know you care. Honestly, I would if it was my Dad and my hubby getting upset. You take care now, eat what you want, goodies always help!

Hi Jaspercat
Sorry to hear you are down. Im not surprised with everything that is going on around you. A good cry is cathartic though, and Im glad you feel a little better for it. Sending you big cyber hugs
Gillx

woodbon

Hello, I'm so sorry you'r not feeling well today. I remember the thread about the how much you'v been doing getting ready for discharge. It is a very difficult time for you and because of all the work, stress, worry and emotional upset, tears are often the only release we have. You'll get through, I know, but try not to worry about feeling unwell, its natural. Have you discussed this with your GP? If might help, if you have a good relationship.
Take care, love Sue

skezier

Hi Jaspercat,

I am sorry I am very late here but I have only just seen your post. I really hope things are better for you today. A ((( ))), belated, for you. In my defense at missing your post I blame my eye sight, my modem and a conveyor belt of 4 cats who just have to get between me and the screen......... you move one and another one comes in behind it........ You take care, Cris x

joanlawson

Hi Jaspercat

I have only just read this thread too, and I am sorry things are so difficult for you at the moment. Both my husband's parents died of cancer, so I know how helpless it makes you feel. Sometimes, you just have to give in to your emotions, and crying can be a release.

You are in my thoughts, and Tommy sends you a big purr too.

Joan

vonski

Hi Jasper

I'm another who has only just seen your post, sorry. Like has already been said crying is good for you and you have so much going on right now you need that release.

I am thinking of you.

Love
Vonski x

jaspercat

Hi Everyone, feeling alot more like myself this today, we are happier by the info that his discharge is getting closer, we are waiting for the hoist to be delivered on friday, so maybe next week.
Skezier: I think you need to teach your cats to work better, they sound lovely though, Joan: thank tommy for the purr, much appreciated love Jaspercatxx

joyful164

jaspercat wrote:

Hi Everyone, not feeling too well today, I have already had a few tears, which is not like me at all, I think it is done to on-going stress with Malcolm's dad being ill in hospital, we are waiting for him to be discharged knowing that he is terminal with cancer. Malcolm is visiting him today but I don't feel up to going, so will be staying here, I am trying to stay busy but think that I will be having a few more tears later love Jaspercatxx

Poor you
I know exactly what you are going through. You think to yourself about what you can have conversations about without upsetting him. All you can do is carry on with your lives and take each day as it comes. Malcolm is going to need some TLC or at least try and understand what he must be going through. You can't help but feel useless at times.

Will he be in quarantine or will you be able to visit him lots of times.
If it is the latter then you have a bonus because I can't go and see Jacqui and that makes it worse somehow. I really feel as though I am neglecting Jacqui because I can't go an see her and spend time. You have to remember that what is happening to Malcom's dad is happening to him and what is happening to you is important aswell. What you are going through is just as real.

love from
joy

debbierose

hope your feeling better chick, you cry all you need too,
I'll share my positive thoughts with you,
and send you a cuddle
chin up hun.
lol

jaspercat

Hi Joy, he will be going back to his house, but it is distance that is the problem, I am unable to drive my car and a taxi costs £48 there and back, so we can only afford to visit once a week but we do ring him every day, our main problem is that he does things that he shouldn't, then falls and ends up in hospital, thanks everyone for the support it truly helps me love Jaspercatxx

noeltone

Hi Kat I hope things get better soon ive just got a bit better and give my regards to Malcolm youve been s star to me in the past sorry not posted before now from Chrisov

jaspercat

noeltone wrote:

Hi Kat I hope things get better soon ive just got a bit better and give my regards to Malcolm youve been s star to me in the past sorry not posted before now from Chrisov[/quote

Hi Chrisov, thanks for your good wishes, I am glad that you are feeling better love Jaspercatxx

trisher

Hi Jaspercat

I just wondered how you are feeling today. I felt or you yesterday when I read our post.

love trisherx

jaspercat

Hi Trisher, a little better today, we have had a couple of days at home so feel a bit more rested, Malcolm is off to the hospital on thursday, not sure about me I will see how I feel, his dad is being discharged on tuesday, thanks for asking love jaspercatxx

noeltone

Hi Kat just wondering how are things with you today and I hope things might be a bit better all my regards to you and Malcom from Chrisov

jaspercat

Hi Chrisov, thanks for asking, I am feeling much brighter in myself, although funnily enough both my wrists are very painful, though I suppose you can't have everything at once, I am settling down to an afternoon of relaxation, I am not going to the hospital, the drive there and back wears me out, so Malcolm is going on his own, how are feeling? love Jaspercatxx

joyful164

Hello jaspercat

Hope everything is ok with you today. Hope you are giving yourself plenty of 'me' time. It is a very mentally exhausting time for you and you will be starting a flare up if not careful.
Has your dad got a good care plan for when he gets home? Surprising how close relations can get on better with strangers sometimes. Will you be able to call upon Macmillan Nurses to help out?
Whatever happens, I'll be thinking of you.
joy