I am so frustrated, angry and tearful this morning!

karinak

Hello all,
I felt i had to chat to you all.................This morning is so painful in wrists, fingers, soles of feet and toes. I am feeling angry that what have i done to deserve this?, why me? will it improve?i hate asking for help so i don`t bother, I have a very insensitive 18 yr old son who expects me to choring as normal!........infact my 4 yr old is much more understanding. I want to do my normal things as i have always but i cannot and feeling quite blinkin USELESS! :roll: I have become so cautious in eating habits and being stubborn to take pain killers and ibroprufen unless i am really needy? Will it get better in the mornings or do i have to grin and bear this for rest of my days? unless i pop pills each day?...................sorry for dribbling on but i had to talk to someone
Karina x

valval

hi u r down i tend to put off taking anti inflams and painkillers as well and then it ends up taking longer to feel able to do day to day tasks . so take meds when u need to. i also have probs with hands feet and now just started with hip so also feeling over whelmed by it all . going doc on tue to find out what going on was told oa but why does it keep moving writing this just realised how fed up i am tears in eyes lol. to get back to u teenagers well they all much the same world over u have to hit them over the head with some thing to get them to notice it sit them down and tell them now they r nearly an adult they will have to do more for themselves and it would be nice if they made u cup of t from time to time
worth a try good luck have some me time when school starts

mellman01

Hi Karina don’t apologies for dribbling on I/we know how terribly down pain can get you, I have been fighting the same demon for some time now I normally loose in the end!, it must be something to do with the weather as my knee caps are coming out in sympathy with you, they have been really good for weeks but as soon as I go back to work they seem to know?!, haven’t taken any pain meds yet don’t like being drugged up so much but if this carries on progressing I may have to unconditionally surrender.
Hey and anyway you can’t feel more useless than I do, you didn’t drive 153 miles home after a nice caravanning holiday and then attempt to drive your caravan up your driveway only to misjudge it and rip the off side all the way down of a brick pillar now did you, the wife is still not talking to me and my nipper just keeps taking the rise out off the old cripple and the dog still hasn’t come out of hiding!.
One more task I have to do today is contact the insurers to admit my stupidity and apologies for only using my caravan 3 times before I killed it.:oops:

valval

poor caravan well we all misjuge things knocked another mug on floor today mine u cheaper than caravan feel better about it now lol

mrsdalloway

Hi I am with Scottishlass there is nothing wrong in taking pain killers, whatever gets you through the day! We don't get any extra brownie points for not taking them. It has taken a long time for me to come to terms with the fact that this is not going away, about 13 years to be exact. So don't be too hard on youself but take it from someone who knows accept every bit of help you are offered whether it is in the form of pills/meds or even someone offering to have the little one for half an hour. Accepting the help doesn't make us weaker if anything it makes us a little stronger!

woodbon

Hi, I take the pain killers, I know if I run out, that they do make life easier and I'm all for the easy life! Also getting as much from life as you can and pain killers help you feel like doing nice things as well!
You sound very down today, maybe its a bad day for you, we all get them. Hope you soon feel better, Love Sue

jaspercat

Hi, I am just trying to gain some opinions, I have woken up this morning and my right ear feels swollen and painful, not an ache but actual pain, could this be my RA? my Rheumy, who drives me made at the best of times, only checks my hands and wrists for inflamation never anything else, I have made an appt for friday if things do not improve love Jaspercatxx

frogmorton

Oh Karina
and you were so upbeat the other day
Naughty 18yr old eh?
My youngest is generally the sweeytest when I am incapacitated too.
I agree with them all - girl - pop those pills as prescribed. You have to it really is not worth suffering like this.
I do beleive the anti-inflams are crucial as Scottishlass says.
You take it steady and make sure you let us know how you are very soon - good or bad
take care
Toni x

woodbon

Hi, hope you are feeling a bit better this afternoon. It will take a while for you to adjust and even then their still are bad days, but I really hope you're feeling a bit better, try and rest as much as possible and don't feel guilty about it!
Take care, all good wishes Love Sue

karinak

Firstly thank you and a big hug to all who replied and took time to express their opinions
Day got better,index finger still sooooo painful but in a good mood and George and i got prepared for school tommorow and he has been such an angel
18 YR old showed a little sympathy but said i need to excersise! to help it!, perhaps he does care :? mind you i only weigh 9 stones and size 10 bum so weight is not an issue i dont think but going to do some tommorow and keep at it, perhaps will be good for the mental side of me too.
Thanks again as you certainly made me happier x
Take care all

skezier

Hi Karina,

Sorry I missed your post, someone ordered a storm and my internet connection has become as reliable as 2 tins and a bit of string.

Your not useless and I think you maybe should have your pills. I can't do much before mine take effect in the mornings and as people have said they are accumulatory. You asked dose it get better, and well with the tablets for me it gets easier.

18 years old....... they are in a different world at that age Sometimes though the people closest to you are the ones less able to adjust to you having something wrong.

I am glad your feeling a bit better now and well a (( )) for you and apologizes for being late...... Back to fight with a storm now Cris x

eckstardeluxe

Hi Karina

Yes it does get better with time, it's a cliche but true. I feel angry and upset at times and like you I say "why me?". I feel so angry that I'm ill because some people didn't do their jobs properly and think I'd love to meet them and tell them to their face what I have because of them.

Some days are better than others, but slowly you learn to cope. You have to listen to what your body is telling you and that will mean slowing down and accepting you cannot and will not be able to do some things you did before. But I started to try and think positively, what could I do then and found a hobby, something I always thought of doing. Take your painkillers if you need them, I panick like mad as have severely impaired kidney function and worry what this 30 tablets a day are doing, but without them I can't walk or function. I'm pain free for a few hours a day and that is worth any side effect given the way I was before them.

People always say they feel bad for me because I have a 1 and 3 year old, but honestly, I am the lucky one, if I didn't have them I'd sit and feel sorry for myself or mope round the house. With them I have to get up and go to work and get going.

I hope you feel better soon. Remember their will always be someone here who will have been through the same thing, or someone who is going through it now. It really helps to share and just vent sometimes, don't ever feel silly or like a moaner as some people word it when they have a rant, no-one will ever think this about you on here.

take care

Eck
xxx

elnafinn

Dear Karina

I don't know why I have only just seen your thread because I have been on and off the forum today. It is reassuring to know that your day did get better in every way and you got lots of support from here.

I hope tomorrow goes well for you too.

Luv
Elna x

psyart

Hi

you have every right to have a moan as this is such a hard thing for anyone to go through! everyone is different though, so how anyone can say that they have it and are ok is just beyond me!!! I hate taking any tables - so understand what you are saying but I also agree with other posts that if I dont take pain killers then I feel worse for longer!! we are fighting with 'arthur' aswell as with ourselfs!!!

just remember that we are here for you as you are for us!!

Louise x

mash65

hi,im sorry your feeling down.i dont have ra,have oa plus a few other things chucked in for good measure
i have ranted several times about my 17yr old stepson,he is the type that just sits in his bedroom all day,comes down for dinner,but he's smoking out of bedroom window & the mess he makes is annoying the hell out of me.
boxer shorts on bathroom floor that i cant bend to pick up,all silly things.
well we came back from holiday & i felt ill,my thumbs,wrist(seeing gp tomorrow as think its carpel tunnel)screaming at me(plugged into the mains)& my knees are double the size they were 12 months ago.basically seized up.
anyway i sat him down showed him my deformed hands/thumbs & knees then explained i did tell you things werent going to get better.he offered to make me tea :shock: & as i ask him to do something he does it straight away.dont know if it'll last,sometimes i think they think youve got a cold & it'll go away,i wish. take care,hope things get better for you,debsx