Very tired again

jaspercat

Hi, totally exhausted again today, this morning around 4.30am the child from hell upstairs was running around, then we had the mother yelling at the child oh what fun!! to cap it all off the people monitoring Malcolm's dad rang at 6am, he had fallen out of bed, now he is back in hospital again, he was only at home for 2 days, we are both really tired love Jaspercatxx

noeltone

Hi Kat I cant really offer any reasonable advice regarding those inconsiderates up stairs unless if you have not already done so contact local council env services team noise disturbance dept. I usually get my own back by making more noise when I am awake and they the noisy inconsiderate ones are still asleep but this might worsen and not diffuse the sitation. I hate being tired and getting disturbed sleep nowt worse but of course I make up for it during the day by power napping bad news about M's father I hope things soon work out better and you get some decent sleep thinking of you from Chrisov

skezier

Hi Jaspercat,

I'm sorry you are feeling so tired. I am very lucky cus I have no near neighbours but imagine its very hard to listen to them when your trying to sleep. I know how bad no sleep is though, I have the side effects of insomnia at the mo and so wish it would stop. I am sorry to see your FIL is back in hospital and hope it will all sort out for you. Lack of sleep is a bad one, I do hope you can get a bit of peace soon. Cris ((( ))) who is about to try one of Chrisov's power naps

woodbon

Hi, I'm so sorry for you, what start to the day! I'm sorry about your o/h Dad too, I've been their, got the Tshirt. We looked after my mother-in-Law for 2 years, in her flat which was part of our house. She had liver failure and was in and out just like that. We moved to the house with the flat for her and on the night of moving, she became ill and we spent it at the hospital. Sorry to go on about that, its over now, but I learnt to really question the hospitals and request meetings with the doctor, nurse and social worker caring for her before taking her home, as the contiual in and out was distressing for her and stressful for us. Also, people, family etc used to say I could have a rest when she was in hospital, I know with all the visiting and what not it seemed worse. So I understand that you must feel tired and low.

I wish I could offer some advice to make life easier, but I can't . All I can say is, in a few years time, when you look back on this hard time you will have no regrets and feel proud of yourself for what you'r doing.
Take good care of yourself, rest as much as possible and treat yourself kindly. Don't worry about feeling angry or upset, don't feel guilty about anything you do, say, or think.

Lots of love, hugs and goodwishes from Suexxxxxx

debatat

Sorry you are so tired, I have no advice as you are in an impossible situation really. I know how tiring hospital visits can be, especially when you have had no sleep. Hope tonight is better for you.

Take care

Deb

jaspercat

Hi, thanks everyone for your best wishes and supporting words, they are very much appreciated, with regards to the neighbour from hell we have tried everything we can think of, our landlord says that everyone has a right to live somewhere!! in a perfect world she wouldn't be above us, mind you this is a far from perfect world.

When it comes to Malcolms dad, the social worker keeps saying that he should be living with a member of the family, well not here I am afraid, I love him dearly but couldn't cope, he is terminal but he is very obstinate and whats to do what he wants to do when he wants to do it, here's hoping for a better night tonight love Jaspercatxx

funkym

Hi
so sorry u having such time and to top it disturbed sleep re neighbour from hell.

yuor landlord is wrong yes freedom to live but not making that amount noise at 4.30am that is totally unreasonable and not acceptable.
social obusmans state in law on anti social nocie no noise after 10.30 pm and not before 8.30 am if 1 exception apolgies by neighbour to u at very least would be only considerate.
seeing what u mean re imperfect world.

and totally understand.
i had my spouse recovering from major op and had neighbour grandson from hell.

i made offical complaint to council they responded asap.
its hard because ideally children shoudlnt be placed in upstairs flats.

u take care hope u have un interrupted night tonight and that all tunrs out much better for your father in law.

ritwren

Hope you managed to get a better night's sleep. It's very difficult when so much is happening. Maybe you could get a bit of a power nap during the day to help. I do so wish you well. Hang in there
rita

woodbon

Hi, I agree 100% , you can't look after someone as ill as that. In proper professional care, he should get more settled and comfortable and not need to go into hospital so much. As a Care Assistant I'm trained in pallitive care and its amazing, but you need to have the right mind set. Its hard. with arther as well impossible. I know what I said earlier, and its true, but I was fit and well then, and it still made me feel terrible. So, stick to your guns with the social workers. They only see things from their angle and sometimes see things in black and white and thats not life.
Take care, rest when you can, Love Sue

josiec

Hi JK,
Hope you managed to sleep a little better last night. I too wanted to offer my cyber support! Please try to take care of yourself in all this-but I know how very easy that is to say!! Sending very best wishes, Josie

jaspercat

Hi, I wish I could say that I had a good night's sleep, but there was a loud bang on my bedroom ceiling around 2.30am, then I couldnt settle until around 3.30am, tried a power nap this morning, but my neighbour has a great way of waking her daughter, she slams drawers in the bedroom but the bedroom is above mine, so you can imagine the rest!!

Grrr I am so keyed off, I am feeling exhausted and tired, I need something nice to happen to me, not much chance of that love Jaspercatxx

eckstardeluxe

I'm sorry you are having a hard time and there's nothing worse than a noisy neighbour when you are tired and unwell. I just am so glad ours was moved on, he used to slam the doors so hard it set the baby monitor off in my son's bedroom!! He would wake up and it would be a nightmare as I'd just got him down and this was when I'd get my much needed break.

Hope you get some rest and get back to your old self. How is Malcom's dad keeping?

Eck
xxx

jaspercat

Hi Eck, the news on Malcolms dad not so good, he feel early on friday morning again!! had a night in hospital having a blood transfusion, released this evening, we are getting annoyed and upset, he told the paramedics that we were meeting him there, we never said that at all.

Malcolm has said that we need some us time, couldn't agree more, the bone of contention is that I feel his dad needs to be in a home he dosen't agree with me, the trouble is that his dad forgets that he can't do what he did before love Jaspercatxx

mistywillow

Hi Jaspercat
Sorry things are so hard at the moment for you. We used to live in a flat and had a really noisy and nosey neighbour who did my head in, so was delighted when we moved to the country and have no neighbours, although the cows can be a bit loud! Many of us are at that age when our parents are needing help and it is so much more difficult when you are not healthy yourself. It is not an easy decision to place a parent in a nursing home but sometimes it is the only sensible option. I dont envy you though.
i hope all this doesnt take it out of you too much. Try and get some rest, perhaps a nap during the day if your neighbour keeps you up at night.
Sending you cyber hugs
Gillx