shocked at people

handsy

hi all,
i was out in town yesterday for a walk about(brave me). i was amazed at the amount of people who could not see me. i must have disapeared. i was out and had my walking stick and was just moving along at my normal pace. i was walked into pushed tutted at on mumerous occations. are we invisible because we have an illness? i am six foot tall and eighteen stones in weight so i would say very easy to see. mormally people give me a wide berth. not when i have a walking stick, people are just rude/ignorant. i was really taken aback by this. thinking of sharpening the end of my stick to give people a prod to let them know i am there. iam normally quick off the mark with replys to these idiots but could not find any words i was just shocked. might use a cattle prod next time :x :x :x

frogmorton

hi john
you don't sound invisible
cattle prod made me laugh!
the sharp retorts never come easily to me except after the event!
toni x

elnafinn

Hi John,

Well, I most certainly would not have walked into you, pushed you or tutted at you even though you had a walking stick. I do have respect for others walking along the same street as me, but I have noticed more and more people could not care less about anyone but themselves it would seem.

Pleased to know you got home ok as you posted on here.

Luv
Elna x

debatat

I am not suprised at your experience, I find people can be quite rude when I am on crutches, pushing me etc. One of these days I will fall, or accidentally catch them with my crutch!!!

Hope the next time you go out you get a better reception!!

Deb

suncatcher

People are getting more insensitive ive noticed that all out for themselves i notice im treated differant now. :shock: by some people. try not to let em get u down go out with your head held high joanne

frogmorton

[quote="collywobble (and those rude, ignorant people would definitely notice you if they "accidentally" tripped over your stick) :shock: .
Lynn xxx[/quote]
and then sort of 'fell' on his cattle prod???
Toni x

annebr

Hi,

I have noticed the same thing since I started using a walking aid. Also noticed that people talk to me as if I was a child, fee like saying it's my hip that's sore not my head.

Also amaed at the number of people who have walked up to me in shops and on the street and asked me 'exactly what is wrong with you?' I would never dream of asking a personal question to a stranger.

Anne

mash65

hi,i too get this.if im got shopping i have to stop,adjusted my crutches then start off again & im pretty slow too.
the amount of people that tut,push past as if your a complete nuisance is unbelieveable.
we use walking aids because we have too not because we want too.& it must be obvious to them that we have problems.
so many are caught up in there own little worlds theres no caring any more.rush,rush,rush :roll:ive been shunted out of the way with a shopping trolley,tripped up & even sworn at.do you know a woman just stood there staring at me the other day as i walked past her,dont know what her problem was,but made me feel so uncomfortable.
the other thing is how many people say to you ''what have you done to yourself'' :shock: then you get the ''but your too young for that''ok tell my bones that PLEASE
like the idea of a cattle prod. plug it into my arms & give them a shock too.
take care all & dont let it get to you,luv debsx

jaspercat

Hi John, I have found the same thing when I am in my wheelchair,
people just totally ignore you, I had one incidence when I was in my chair my hubby was with me, we were queuing at a sandwich, I was totally blanked a woman even pushed past me in the queue, didn't let her get away with that.

In supermarkets when I am in my wheelchair, people reach straight past me ignoring me, people are just plain ignorant and rude, it really winds me up, perhaps people think that disabled people don't exist love Jaspercatxx

eckstardeluxe

I know!! People can be so rude. I limp around the supermarket but they still bump and bang into me often not even saying sorry. I once had someone hit me with a trolley and not apologise. My normally quiet hubby was absolutely boiling and had a right go. They were like :oops:

lindah

It's a pity we couldn't all get together with our sticks crutches,scooters and cattle prods and give them a taste of their own medicine.Ignore anyone or speak over their heads if they don't have Arthur.shove past them and forget our manners and ask personal questions.
OOOhh we need a t-shirt with a clever slogan or a badge but
WHY SHOULD WE.

Linda H 8)

magicdragon

lindah wrote:

It's a pity we couldn't all get together with our sticks crutches,scooters and cattle prods and give them a taste of their own medicine.Ignore anyone or speak over their heads if they don't have Arthur.shove past them and forget our manners and ask personal questions.
OOOhh we need a t-shirt with a clever slogan or a badge but
WHY SHOULD WE.

Linda H 8)

OMG! LOL that would be the best see if they could miss us now!



I have the same problem ive had people literally try to walk through me! I now get very fed up and wont move when people are charging at me. Also at the tills i need to put my money away before i can walk off and some people will stand literally on top of me so they can get served as they are so impatient! but i wont move. The same is when im sitting on the bus the other day and most days and people get on and i swear they try there hardest to melt me with the eyes so i will get out of THERE seat's bless them lol.

All i will say is although alot of people seem very uncaring there are people who help and when they do they get the biggest thank you and smile as then maybe people around them that see it whom are rude may think twice

Hugs

kickyloo

I've had the same experience! I thought people just didn't understand because they couldn't see anything physically wrong with me - I didn't want to 'give in' and use a stick, so just been walking slowing and probably in what looks like a funny way, shuffling my feet and holding my arms up for balance! But in the end, I used the stick and it made no difference to people's observation of my needs. I was in a queue and a women was pushing me from behind trying to hurry me along. In the end I turned round and said 'Look, I'm going as fast as I can but I can't walk very well'. Hoping to shame her into behaving! She said 'oh yes, no problem', but then continued to be right at my back knocking me with her bags! It made me cry.
I am astounded by how stupid people can be.

elnafinn

People are often very uncaring, selfish, all for themselves, but as magicdragon says, there are good, kind considerate people out there too. We must try not to lose sight of that.

I often think to myself, the pushy,"I am important, get out of my way, I am in a hurry" sort of person is often a very miserable, bitter and twisted, soul and sometimes I cannot but feel very sorry for them.

Luv
Elna x

janie68

I was waiting to check in at the airport, and the bloke in front was so focused on moving his suitcases around a bit (why I dont know), that one of them clipped my walking stick. Then it was like slow motion, and I lost my balance and fell over.

The man then looked round and did ask my hubby what was going on. He then explained about the suitcase knocking me and the man just said oh :x :x :x and I was fumimg !!!!!!!!

Grrr

Janie

tkachev

Blimey,

I dont get out much but people always seem kind to me and very helpfull.I am yet to have a scary,uncaring experience but I expect that will happen one day.

Take care Tkachev

sharmaine

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Hi
I know exactly what you mean! People fail to see you - it's very rare that they move out of the way. Sometimes it makes me feel like a bloomin' nuisance when I'm out shopping. I won't go anywhere without my hubby now - he makes sure I'm ok. I'm even terrified of walking across the road. Maybe the government need to do a public awareness programme and show the general public how awkward it is for arthritis sufferers. People stare too... one of my legs is very bent and it means that i look awkward when I walk. It makes me feel jolly self-conscious.

The idea of sharpening the end of your walking stick is great (if illegal!!!)

Sharmaine

handsy

thats a good idea. i think i'll do one on the computer. i'll let u know soon cheers for the reply everybody

bertyboy

i amble about on crutches and have the attitude that i am entitled to walk where i want if i am in somebodys way and they barge past i try and stop them by saying excuse me but do you drive down the road with as much disregard for other road users as you have just done to me , :oops:

jinger

I don't always have to use my stick but I sometimes experience the odd problem when I do.

We have a lot of foreign nationals living in the town where I live and the worst experience I had was when several people stopped me in the street one day and one lad said straight to my face "If you were in my country, you would be put in an asylum. That's what we do with things like you!" and spat on the floor. I told them that they were in my country now and I could be very violent with a walking stick as I turned it upside down and pretended it was a hockey stick, tapping it on the floor! They soon got the message and walked away. Some other people heard what was said and checked that I was ok. I was more flabbergasted than anything else!

When I got home and told my hubby, he was livid! He wanted to know why I didn't deck the bloke!

Netty
xx

livinglegend

annebr wrote:

Also amazed at the number of people who have walked up to me in shops and on the street and asked me 'exactly what is wrong with you?' Anne

I start off with the line, "I am so glad that you stopped me as I am on a personal crusade to inform people about my disease and I desperately need to spread the word". I then pull out a piece of printed paper (notes) from a pocket.


Then I continue in endless and horrifying detail, real or imaginary. I talk about every joint pain, sleepless night, morning stiffness, treatment and doctor's visit that I can think of. I don't let them get a word in, (that's essential to success). They wander sorrowfully away with my requests to come back ringing in their ears as I have so much more to tell.

This just takes practice, but try it at home first.

Joseph 8)

debbieclap

Hi that cattle prod sounds a good idea I could do with one on the front of my wheel chair yesterday I had so many people reaching over me or walking into me I got to a point were I just stop and wait to see if they will actually walk into me or see me :x :x They usually see me at the last minuet. If I had a cattle prod I could get them before they get me sounds like fun
Take care
Debbie

woodbon

Hi, I think people get so caught up in their own selfish world that they don't look further than the end of their noses. But you are right, people are less caring, not just to people who are disabled but also the elderly. I worked with the elderly for 7 years and the disabled for 2 years, I think some of the disabled people I looked after had families living near by, Mums and Dads brother and sisters, their own children, but they hardly ever visited, just left them to be cared for and got on with their lives. Some stories can break your heart. I all fairness, though, I have seen family members travel long distances regularlly just to spend a few hours with a loved one. Sorry, I've gone off on one again!
We seem to live a fast, busy, stressfull life and thats part of the reason people become selfish and unthinking. Stop now!!!
Love Sue
PS I think people like that do miss out on the satisfaction of helping others. They lose something important in the end.