Im getting married!!!

madness1985
madness1985 Member Posts: 293
edited 9. Sep 2009, 15:48 in Living with Arthritis archive
Hi All,

Me and my partner are getting married :mrgreen: ive already started planning. But with RA im not sure if i should be considering only spring/summer wedding? Also what about shoes? My engagement ring doesnt fit (it is my ring size) but my fingers are swollen :(

xx

Comments

  • mash65
    mash65 Bots Posts: 834
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    CONGRATULATIONS,are we all invited :wink:
    hope all goes well for you something to look forward to eh!!!!
    luv debsx
  • elnafinn
    elnafinn Member Posts: 7,412
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Oooooooh congratulations! :D Someone on here wore pink crocs with their wedding dress. I am sure you will find a pair of shoes that are both suitable and comfortable.

    Luv
    Elna x
    The happiest people don't have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything.

    If you can lay down at night knowing in your heart that you made someone's day just a little bit better, you know you had a good day.
  • woodbon
    woodbon Member Posts: 4,969
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Hello, Congratulations...... Sorry your ring dosn't fit at the moment, but at least you've still got it. I lost mine the day after getting it. :cry: A long story, it fell of my finger into the river, but the Oxford Uniniversity diving club found it. :D

    Anyway, you'll have loads of fun choosing your dress and making the arrangements. As for shoes, I'm sure you'll find something to fit the bill and lets face it, if you'r wearing a long dress, go for comfort!
    Have a great time and don't forget to send us all some cake!
    Love Suexxxxxxxxx
  • madness1985
    madness1985 Member Posts: 293
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Thanks All, im very excited we have been together since 2005 :o and have been through alot and i wasnt expecting it lol! I surpose i just have concerns about the artheritus and restrictions it may cause. Ive always wanted a winter wedding since i was little lol but thats not really ideal with artheritus but at least my theme is multi-useable as i want diamond white and pink yay!!!

    Thanks again
  • kickyloo
    kickyloo Member Posts: 66
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Many congratulations!
    I wore white ballet pumps under my dress as it was long and you couldn't see them anyway. Definately go for comfort - no one ever sees the shoes!
    I can no longer wear my engagement ring because fingers are swollen and also from weight gain from steriods, and so I have just bought a cheap £10 ring from M&S as a stand in. Luckily I can still fit my wedding ring on (just!). I know I WILL get back to wearing my gorgeous proper engagement ring, but in the meantime it's nice to have a substitute.
    Enjoy all the preparations.
    x
  • ritwren
    ritwren Member Posts: 928
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Congratulations, we'll have to have a virtual hen night for you. :) Don't worry about footwear, with so many open sandals and soft leather/canvas shoes you're bound to get something comfortable. Delighted for you.
    rita
  • eckstardeluxe
    eckstardeluxe Member Posts: 1,192
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Congratulations, this will be the best day of your life.

    We had a massive Las Vegas themed wedding as that's where we were going on Honeymoon! We had an Elvis impersonator, favors that were chocolate casino chips and cards and a balloon recreation of The Little White Chapel at the Alter 9we married in a Hotel).

    Afterwards you are like "wow, that went so quick and all that money!" but you never regret it. Enjoy every minute as it flies by so quickly. Don't worry about weather or anything, it's honestly the last thing on your mind on the big day.

    Hope you enjoy all the planning!

    Eck
    xxx
  • suzster
    suzster Member Posts: 1,328
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    congratulations!!!
    my engagement ring and wedding ring don'y fit due to swollen fingers either.
    i ended up buying a very cheap wedding ring from argos for a tenner, it's not as nice as my real one but at least i've got one to wear!
  • debatat
    debatat Member Posts: 659
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Congratulations!!!!! Don't worry about the ring, I can't wear my wedding ring or engagement ring either due to swollen fingers.

    Enjoy the plaaning and the day!

    Deb x
  • frogmorton
    frogmorton Member Posts: 30,234
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Hi Madness
    Wonderful news!!!!
    You are getting married
    The details are just that - details!
    You will look gorgeous whatever you wear coz brides always do.
    I am so happy for you
    Enjoy it!
    Toni x
  • woodbon
    woodbon Member Posts: 4,969
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    I was married on 2nd May, as we drove to church, the road had pink blossom on the trees and it was a windy day so the petals blew off the tress like confetti ahhhhhhhhhhhhh..................... that was 23 year ago!

    Lucky you, its a fantastic day,sunny, but windy I'm reading this thead and going all soft and goohy! MEMORIES.........
    Love Sue :oops: :lol:
  • jennywren
    jennywren Bots Posts: 79
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Hello madness1985 congratulations to you I am very envious and hope one day I might be able to marry some nice handsome man or even make some man marry me would be even better Jennywren
  • jenzie06
    jenzie06 Member Posts: 708
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Congratulations!
    I'm really pleased for you. I got married in March and I was worried about wedding shoes too!
    I eventually got some online at Henry Kaye, they were called victorian boots. I couldn't wear high heels so these were perfect. I could even put some padding in the bottom to cushion my feet.

    The day was wonderful, I was totally pooped but it was worth it!!

    Good luck, enjoy the planning and really enjoy the day - it goes really fast!!
  • sharmaine
    sharmaine Member Posts: 1,638
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Congratulations!

    If you wear a long dress then you can get away with flat shoes.

    Weddings take a lot of organisation but I'm sure you'll make the right decisions.

    Sharmaine
  • tkachev
    tkachev Member Posts: 8,332
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Congratulations!

    Let us know how the wedding planning is going.
    I cant give you any advice as I am still waiting for my man to ask me after 12 years and 3 children together.
    Whenever I mention marriage the colour drains from his face!
    I think you should go for a winter theme wedding if that is what you want.If you are worried about the cold making your arthritis worse could you get some nice warm material for your dress?You could do loads of things to make it all wintery and beautiful,fake snow,white fur,ice statues...
    Have fun with the wedding arrangements,
    Take care Tkachev
    Never be bullied into silence.
    Never allow yourself to be made a victim.
    Accept no ones definition of your life

    Define yourself........

    Harvey Fierstein
  • lindalegs
    lindalegs Member Posts: 5,399
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Hi Vicky,

    I missed your post yesterday so I just want to add my congratulations too. What wonderful news. I'm sure your RA will be fine on the day but you may be a bit tired the day after. You could visit your GP/Rheumy to see if you could have something a bit stronger in reserve if you feel you need it - sometimes just knowing a safety net is there is all you need.

    We can all form a choir to sing at your wedding if you like :lol:

    k020.gif

    ..... and I do have a pair of black, lace-up Olive Oyl boots I'm willing to hire you - they'd go well with your frock I feel - just let me know if you need them. :wink:

    Luv Legs :D
    Love, Legs x
    'Make a life out of what you have, not what you're missing'
  • joyful164
    joyful164 Member Posts: 2,401
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Hi. regarding your swollen hands. Try and get referred to an occupational therapist who will help you get your hands better
    or
    try a manicure and pedicure

    Where I live, there are a couple of vietnam girls who run a parlour and I went in and had a pedicure one Sat & then I went again the next week. My feet and ankles were so swollen and they hurt me quite a bit with all the rubbing with a speciall pummy stone. That was about 6 weeks ago now.
    My feet and ankles are incredible now. I went to get some more sandals last sat and came away with size 5 instead of 6. Even the shoes I had bought for my son's wedding 3 weeks ago were too loose and they kept falling off. Good job I had taken some very soft and comfortable ones with me.

    Just an idea you could follow up. it might work for you.

    Joy
  • topcatt
    topcatt Member Posts: 63
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Congratulations to you - have a fabulous time planning it all and don't worry about a thing - there is always a solution somewhere! You can get gel insoles which make most shoes comfortable for a few hours and as for rings well it took 11 years for me to get a ring of my now husband and now it doesn't fit but fortunately I have my grandmothers (which she had had made bigger because of her arthritis ) so at least it still has some sentimental value for me!! Whatever everything will pan out and you will have a fabulous day!! :D
  • jaspercat
    jaspercat Member Posts: 1,238
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Hi, many congratulations to you both, we had a July wedding, it rained prior to going into the church but was dry and sunny for the photographs. We got married in a little church in Wales and had the reception at the pub next door but one, my shoes I bought don't fit me any more, my wedding, engagement and eternity rings are too big since I lost weight.

    Hope you will keep us informed love Jaspercatxx
  • suziev
    suziev Member Posts: 252
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    what lovely news, best thing i ever did was get married, i wish you all the best.
    how about having the wedding abroad somewhere hot, would be good for your RA. only mentioned it cos i did get married abroad and it was fab.
    look forward to hearing all about it, nothing like a godd wedding :lol:
    suzie

Categories