Over done it once again

snowdrop · 18. Sep 2009, 04:56

Morning all.

Yeasterday i went over to my sons and we all went into town. WAS ok at 1st then the pain. back at his house couldent hold back no more. just sobbed ....

Had enough of this controlling my life now and just want to give up. Feel so bad today that i havent even got out of bed yet, Dont want to face the world.. IM A FALIURE. My depession is getting worse and im sick to death of ppl sayiong pull urself toghter woman..

Pills can go down the loo and the phone is being unpluggged... Just wannan hide away

sorrry im moaning .... but i havent got anyone else to talk to who dont say yea yea here we go again ...

valval · 18. Sep 2009, 05:47

gosh u did well going to your sons house and going to town i would have been in pain if i had done all that and i only have it mild went to town yesterday am only gone an hour put feet up when i got back and then work for four hours, and u guessed it feet were killing did not sleep well and only been up an hour lol so have a rest and feel proud of your self for what u managed. do not do so much next time (((((big hug))))) so proud of u for doing all that and u need to cry from time to time as this thing realy gets to u

woodbon · 18. Sep 2009, 05:48

Hello, Moaning is fine on here, I think most of us have been through exactly the same depression and feelings that you have so we understand.
Overdoing it is so easy, I've had a week when I did a lot for the first couple of days and then felt awful!

But I'm feeling better now after giving myself a couple of days rest.

First of all you are not a failiure, and you can't just pull yourself together, I wish it was possible, but it isn't. It sounds as if your family don't understand what your going through. It might help them understand if you told them, when you'r feeling better, just what its like and how bad the pain is and maybe show them some of the leaflets explaining the condition that the site produces. Do you have a partner or friend who understands a bit better? They are the ones to listen to, and us. I get so sorry for my self that I think of all the things I can't do and sit and cry everything seems worse and hopeless. I think the depression sets in when you are really tired and at a low point. I wont last for ever, believe me.
It could help to talk it over with your GP. He may be able to suggest something to help you, when your really low it can be hard to recover without professional help believe me, I've been their :shock:

I hope you feel better soon, and can think of all the good things you can still do, even if they are only little things.
Take care, Love Suexxx

frogmorton · 18. Sep 2009, 05:48

Hi Snowdrop
Oh poor you! You really are having a bad time at the moment

We can't always 'pull ourselves together' can we? It just doesn't work like that. If we could , we would! There is noWAY we would want to feel so bad.

I hope you do feel able to get up later today and plug the phone back in. You don't want people to worry about you.
Maybe next time you go out you should say you can manage say an hour instead of trying to do too much.
I wish you all the best

Take care
Toni x

snowdrop · 18. Sep 2009, 07:13

thk you all for ur lovely replys....

I have rang my Dr and got appointment for monday. x

maud48 · 18. Sep 2009, 07:55

I'm sorry you are having such a bad day and I know how difficult it is not to feel guilty about the fact that you can't do as much as you would like. Then you can start feeling like a failure and a nuisance to people.
I'm new here myself and can only say that this group has helped me so much to realise that I shouldn't feel like this, that it isn't my fault and that I must talk honestly to people about it and about what I can and can't do and also come to terms with that myself (the hardest part I find).
It's really difficult, especially when you're having a bad day like today but there are some wonderful people in this group who understand how you are feeling and you AREN'T a failure any more than the rest of us are,
Hope things improve for you soon,
maudxxx
P.S. I love your name Snowdrop

debbierose · 18. Sep 2009, 08:01

get that duvet ready I,m coming in too,
I felt like you the other day, posted that I wouldn,t be comin on site till I felt better, and just wanted to give up.
well some how I,m still here, feeling a lot better the suns shinning, my duvet is warm and the arthritisis news has just come. some good readin in there.
keep your chin up hun, have some choccies a nice cup of tea, and indulge your self.
keep in touch let us know what happens mon at the docs
lol

dachshund · 18. Sep 2009, 08:23

Hi Snowdrop.
I'm so sorry you feel like that i think that is a thing you have with arthritis it wears you out so you have to rest if not it takes over.
try and think of happy things or put the radio on.
joan xx

elnafinn · 18. Sep 2009, 08:40

Dear Snowdrop,

I am so sorry to read your message. What does it matter if you are having a duvet day. You deserve it after your hectic time the other day. I know what you mean about unplugging the phone. Ours does not ring that often but some days when it does I think, :roll: :roll: who is that going to be? We do not always feel like talking on the phone, or I don't - it does not happen often but I do understand. You just want to be left totally in peace and do what you want to do. Just don't leave the phone unplugged for too long. I leave it on but don't answer and then listen to the message later and if none are left then know it was no one in particular!!

I hope you do have a friend or two that do understand or you feel you can be yourself with. One does not need many like that. Even one is good. As you say, many people don't understand and are basically not interested, that seems to often be the case.

Call in and chat away to us, Snowdrop, about anything you wish and we are here for you. One big family here, so someone is around most of the time.

You are most definitely not a failure and keep away from people that say pull yourself together, you do not need insensitive advice like that, no one does.

Love and hugs
Elna x

snowdrop · 18. Sep 2009, 09:30

debbierose wrote:

get that duvet ready I,m coming in too,
I felt like you the other day, posted that I wouldn,t be comin on site till I felt better, and just wanted to give up.
well some how I,m still here, feeling a lot better the suns shinning, my duvet is warm and the arthritisis news has just come. some good readin in there.
keep your chin up hun, have some choccies a nice cup of tea, and indulge your self.
keep in touch let us know what happens mon at the docs
lol

how do i get the arthritis news? would love to order it xxx

elnafinn · 18. Sep 2009, 09:32

Join AC and become a member.

Have not looked at my copy yet. Bed time reading tonight

Luv
Elna x

skezier · 18. Sep 2009, 12:36

Hi Snowdrop,

Sorry I am late here but your not a failuer and well I do promise you it does get easier.

Its easy for people to say pull your self together cus they haven't got a clue what makes us feel so bad but I honestly do promise you it does get easier to deal with and you kinda find your own way through it and become less worried and less aware of what it is doing to you sort of thing. I can't tell you when or how but I do remember being where you are and it will get easier. A ((( ))) and hang in there. Cris x

suncatcher · 18. Sep 2009, 15:41

Im late too but i wanted to say your not a failure and we all do have days like this no matter how long we have had the dreaded disease.

It is hard to find people who understand and it gets tooo much some times thats what the site is for to let off some steam.

I feel so much better now i know there are others like me who feel the same. I hope you get a rest and feel picked up by your replys on here. sending you my best wishs and really hope u will feel better from joanne

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