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  • lindalegs
    lindalegs Member Posts: 5,396
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Cris,

    I'm so sorry you're feeling low and as Lynn said maybe it's because of the stress of putting off the inevitable is just making everything seem worse. If you were feeling brighter in yourself you probably wouldn't have thought anything more about the questions they asked. Equally as you're feeling sad it just seems as though they're rubbing your nose in it. :(

    Do you think they might be asking because of the incident in your bathroom of a couple of weeks ago - or have you not told them about it? :?

    I agree with the others that you should seek financial help because this will help to take some pressure off you - so many folk get it who don't deserve it and you certainly do. There's no harm in making enquiries.

    You take care and a big h050.gif from me.

    Luv Legs :D

    PS I do believe the majority of people have a different blood pressure in each arm, it's perfectly normal - at least that's one thing that's okay about you. :wink:
    Love, Legs x
    'Make a life out of what you have, not what you're missing'
  • woodbon
    woodbon Member Posts: 4,969
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi, I've got swelling in my lower arm, the ulner nerve has a thin like an egg on the outside - I've had that for ages, I fell and hurt it and its never been right, but I also now have a swollen wrist and back of my hand and fingers. I thought that was from the surgery and the arthritis. Gosh, we are a strange lot! :mrgreen::lol:

    Hope you get on Ok, love Sue :D
  • tkachev
    tkachev Member Posts: 8,332
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    even when someone lives with you they carnt stop living going to work to be with you. I go to all appointments by self. when i had hydro they wanted me for six wks i said i aint got no one to ave son the lady on phone said i dont belive that its only half hour you must have someone you can leave him with. no and actualy three hours i have to get there hospital 4 miles away, dont drive two bus or taxi job. then u get there get changed wait till your turn go in half hour session get dressed then journey back so its more than half hour then. i had row with this woman. i said leave it til six wk school break hubby home he is a teacher. the lady phoned again in few months not in holiday time they wanted me. have u sorted your you sorted your childcare problem she said in sarcastic rude way i had go back and repeated get me app in six wk holiday i will have someone to care for son. i dont belive this she said. next time she got someone else to phone me and they finally gave me the appoitment in the six wk holiday.
    so u see even if you have got someone have they got the time to help out often than not no. that happened to me four years ago. I still have the you aint got anyone with you line occasionaly off alsorts of people. i go alone. i dont live near family friend carnt help they work got own lives elderly parents to care for etc. I like doing things for self but i find other peoples attitudes bad.
    im sorry u are unwell and feel alone but you are not u have us all and we care. you have a good rhumy and nurse pity u could not change your docs. i hope you can find some help with your meds and they start working for you soon from joanne

    Good for you Joanne.They really dont get it do they?
    Skezier,
    I really am thinking of you but dont think I can offer any more advice than you have already received.But my love and best wishes are sent to you.
    Tkachev
    Never be bullied into silence.
    Never allow yourself to be made a victim.
    Accept no ones definition of your life

    Define yourself........

    Harvey Fierstein
  • skezier
    skezier Member Posts: 11,333
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Wonky,

    Thanks for your reassurance re the mother thing...... I agree with you but wish you didn't know from experience. I am going to see about help available re finances but when I reed who has been turned down I don't see I have a hope, though Debs saying a consultant's support is enough makes me feel a bit better.

    I just needed you good folk to stop me from going down the wrong assumption..... I know I have a way of life not indecisive to the bones and I got the wrong end of the stick I think. Its cus its one of my big fears I think? Gone back to being an ostrich now :wink:

    Di you get the MTX this wens?

    Love, slurps and ((( )))'s Cris xx

    Hi Joan,

    Deep down I am really a coward I promise you. Its been a bad week and the appointment on wens was like a tidal wave of problems and I think I did take it the wrong way, probably. I take things to heart and I am not the happiest person at the mo and the upping of the tablets, yet again, gives the headache and the sickness and I just was seeing more than was there. You good folk have helped me realise that now.

    Purrs to Tommy, x

    Hi Joanne,

    They really don't understand do they? Hey nice to see you back for a min and really hope things sort out for you as well. I agree someone being there all the time isn't what happens thats why I started to think why do they keep asking but as Legs said it could be to do with the bathroom experience (I had forgotten they might know about that :wink: )

    Hey a ((( ))) and a hope your doing ok? x

    Hi Legs,

    You and Lynn hit it on the head....... I have arranged one and don't feel so stalked.... Got to do it yet mind but wont change the arrangements.

    I had forgotten the bathroom thing, and I didn't 'say' as such but I did go for the last blood test with 2 slight black eyes and the nurse did ask me...... You could be right and thats what they meant :? I don't make a habit of it but the circulation thing is a bit iffy at the mo and for some reason it never crossed my paranoid brain that they were asking out of care, or as Wonky said covering them selves. I just jumped to 'you can't cope'........

    Sorry Flower I don't often let things get me down but he was good enough to cover all the problems under his dept, and one that isn't bu there was just so much in one hit and cus of the inevitable and how much thats upsetting me it sort of got a hold for a min.

    Hope your doing ok? ad Hi to the 'grandkids' :wink:

    Luv

    Cris who is waiting for the headache to wear off so she can hit the music :lol::lol: xx

    Hi Sue,

    I'm sorry your arm is still playing up. Is the one they did the opp on? I am sure though the bp thing isn't anything to worry about, we are just a bit odd :wink::lol::lol: x

    Hi TK,

    I'm ok really, just felt felt a bit cornered there for the wrong reasons I expect.

    Its odd cus I have had the pa for a long time, lurking swelling and here but since they named it for some reason I am finding it harder! Hope your ok and your bones are behaving? x
  • dachshund
    dachshund Member Posts: 9,135
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Cris.
    I hope everything is okay with you to day.
    When i go anywhere with sue people say dont you go out on your own and when we go out on our own people say is your sister alright i hav'nt seen her around.
    you cannot win as long as your happy on your own thats all that matters.
    i hope all the animals are well.
    have a happy pain free weekend cris.
    joan xx
    take care
    joan xx
  • skezier
    skezier Member Posts: 11,333
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Joan,

    Your right there, you never can win can you? Hey you have a good weekend as well and see you in the cafe at some point :wink: Luv Cris x
  • chris7
    chris7 Bots Posts: 2,696
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Cris

    just popping in the say hello and hope you are having a better day today. I don't know your financial circumstances only that you work too hard! Even when I worked 6 days a week I was on a low income enough to qualify for tax credits. When I felt I had to cut my hours to 4 days(30hours) the increase in tax credits has been such a help. It amazes me to hear politicians talk of average earnings I wonder who is on such sums! Do apply for anything these helpful peeps have knowledge of, it helps if you can limit money worries with everything else you are coping with. :?
    Take care, love to all the critters, think Velcro is my fav such a lovely name.
    Chris :)
  • joyful164
    joyful164 Member Posts: 2,401
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hello Chris
    How Are you today.
    You're going to laugh at this, but you saying about anniversaries. I've been divorced from my first husband officially since 1983. Well, if I'd still been married it would have been our 42nd wedding anniversary on the 7th so that made me sad the other day. When I see him now he is a right pompous ****. It would have been quite an achievement to have stayed married 42 years. I'm married to no 3 now and he's great, but wish he would leave me for a day without making plans all the time. That's good though. I make the most of it. I'll tell you about No.2 another time.
    I've got Psoriatic Arthritis - how they diagnose it is by the shape of your fingers and toes (are they sausage shaped?) Pitted nails,
    Have you looked it up? I was then diagnosed with RA and now OA in my neck. Add to that bursitis and PMR. Do I beat you?
    Yes, I am taking it easy today, did a bit towards a new masterpiece.
    It's quite fiddly and has given me a headache.
    Hope you enjoy the rest of your day.
    speak to you again when I get back from my pedicure :lol::lol::lol:
    joy
  • kathbee
    kathbee Member Posts: 934
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    HI Cris

    So sorry to hear how you are at the moment.

    You are always there for everyone, giving help and
    advice, not to mention all the hugs you dole out. :)
    So its not like you to let us know how you are really
    feeling. Glad you did though as you need some TLC now.

    Hope you are feeling better soon and just to say I
    am thinking of you.

    Love Kath xx
  • woodbon
    woodbon Member Posts: 4,969
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi, I hope you feeling better now. I do know how it feels when you worry about things people say. I've been known to drive my husband wild going over something someons said to me, trying to work out what it ment, I think well it could have been this or maybe that. I get told not to be so sensative and just forget it. Thats easier said than done! So you'r not the only one to worry about something like that. I'd be just the same! We can't help how we're made and I'd rather be sensitive than uncaring and I'm sure you'r the same.

    Have a really nice weekend, love Sue.
  • mistywillow
    mistywillow Member Posts: 711
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Chris
    Sorry I didn't see this when you wrote it. :cry: So now there isn't much to add as all these lovely people have said it all :lol: , so just wanted to send you a big hug and will pm you.
    love Gillx
  • skezier
    skezier Member Posts: 11,333
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Chris,

    I am ok, just things are a bit hard at the mo and well I really do thank you for asking. We got a bit of sun today and I am more my self cus of it. Less mud is always better for me. The lodgers always make this place a swamp and well I feel like I am auditioning for the part of Stig once they do...... :wink::lol::lol: xx

    Hi Joy,

    That's a lot of things for you to have to put up with there. I am on 5 conditions and 1 pending. Mine seem to work against each other a bit so I know its not easy eh? Hey your better off with your OH and it just took you a bit of horrible times to find him. Don't you go over doing things either........ x

    Hi Kath,

    I feel guilty for unloading how I feel....... Its being driven really by the put downs I think. Its been a long time since I looked at how I feel and even gave a thought to whats wrong with me if that makes sense? He sort of opened my mind to my worst fears and well bless him at least he is trying to keep me able to keep going. I just being over sensitive eh?

    Hey I really hope your feeling better? Love Cris xx

    Hi Sue,

    I promise I am ok really. Just gt a bit swamp by it all I think. I hope you have a bit of sun and a good weekend and also that soon your physio will bring you real benefits. xx

    Hi Gill,

    Thanks so much. Love Cris xx
  • kathbee
    kathbee Member Posts: 934
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    CHRIS Helloooooo

    are you there?

    Been wondering how you are feeling at the mo.

    Hope you are even a tad better now and you are
    managing fairly well.

    Love Kath x
  • skezier
    skezier Member Posts: 11,333
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Kath,

    Hope your ok today and that the overdue treatment is helping?

    I am ok, I just am buckling a bit at the mo cus of my sheep. I have a bit more strength today and am realizing I can still cope :wink: Which is probably a good thing eh? Though the ostrich technic is probably back as well....... :lol::lol::lol:

    Don't know about you but I don't know which is worse the pain (and I am aggravating so many of my bones cus I have to for a min) or the crushing tiredness...... And I got the 5 am start tomorrow :shock: :shock: :wink:

    Thanks for asking Kath. Love and so many hugs (I never got them as a kid except from my Nan and I really believe they help :wink: ) Cris xx
  • zercath
    zercath Member Posts: 1
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    nice very interesting
  • woodbon
    woodbon Member Posts: 4,969
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi, Just thought I'd ask how things are going. Its a new week now so I hope things are a bit better. As for your financial situation, do try to get as much help as you can. Its there to help you. I had to see an employment advisor last week and she told me I should have a go and asked my why I hadn't . I said the forms look awful and it sounded such a long pain that I couldn't face doing it. They wrote that down and said they would pass that comment on to thier boss. They thought it was something lots of people find!

    But if you had a bit more money you might be able to use it to help you with the practical side of life. Do take care, lots of love Suexxx
  • skezier
    skezier Member Posts: 11,333
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Zerath,

    Hey welcome o the site. I hope you will find it useful. Take care

    Hi Sue,

    My week can only get better now thanks for asking. Hope you had a good week end and that your bones are behaving okish?

    Saw the pain clinic this morning, had some top up jabs and will be put on the list for the neck ones again :shock: Why am I so keen to have them I wonderes..... :lol: She said the bp thing is possibly down to pain....... She thinks its more than possible rather than an actual physical blocking of the vessels. I shall let the jabs have a couple of hours and then re-do mine to see if less pain = more even readings...... My neck effects the right more in bone ways but the left is the most painful and has the most spasm muscles cus its carrying the right I guess.... I must have a quiet word with the right side about taking its fair share :wink: I will look into the money side as soon as I get my head back out of the sand I promise. Luv Cris x
  • debatat
    debatat Member Posts: 659
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Cris, I am glad you had some jabs. Are they the ones you are supposed to rest for 24hrs after? If they are, I hope you do!! :D

    I am pleased you have been put down for the neck ones. Put my name down as well will you!!! :lol:

    Take care

    Deb x
  • Wonkylegs
    Wonkylegs Member Posts: 3,504
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Cris,

    I think they could have a point about the pain affecting your BP. I am treated for high BP and monitored fairly closely because one of the meds I take can raise BP. I know that when the arthritis is in flare my BP is always higher than when I am painfree ...... so it will be interesting to see if that helps you. I do hope so !

    littlelegs sends you exhausted snores .... hubby is off work this week so she is getting a lot more exercise :lol::lol: She is so tired she has even forgiven me for burning her porridge tonight :roll: :roll: