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jaspercat · 12. Oct 2009, 05:42

Hi Everyone, my darling hubbie has struck again, with 2 days until his dad's funeral, he has decided to start moving things from his house to ours, result: my house now looks like a pigsty, stuff everywhere, large boxes to pack, his back is very painful, my joints are so sore that I can't move, why do men do it?

The council has given us one month's grace, so why the rush? love Jaspercatxx

joyful164 · 12. Oct 2009, 06:03

It is a very big effort you have to put into things like this and it is exhausting. You can always put some boxes into your loft, spare room, shed perhaps? Then, through the winter months, you could bring down one box at a time and spend time sorting it. What better way to spend the cold evenings. There area lot of memories in those boxes. Are there also other members of the family to consider? It's good that your hubby can do this straight away so that he can put a closure on grieving. It can affect people in so many different ways. Try and stay calm,

joy

elnafinn · 12. Oct 2009, 06:12

Dear Jaspercat

I am sorry you are both suffering in different ways at this difficult time. I can understand in a way why Malcolm wants to make a start now. He probably is sort of comforted by being amongst his dad's possessions and memories as he goes through his belongings. As you say, it is very hard work, especially if you are getting no help from others. You live in a flat, if I remember rightly, because you have mentioned your unruly neighbours living above, I doubt you have excess storage space to house all these extra things. Is there no one else that can help and store items for you?

Luv
Elna x

mellman01 · 12. Oct 2009, 06:30

jaspercat wrote:

Hi Everyone, my darling hubbie has struck again, with 2 days until his dad's funeral, he has decided to start moving things from his house to ours, result: my house now looks like a pigsty, stuff everywhere, large boxes to pack, his back is very painful, my joints are so sore that I can't move, why do men do it?

The council has given us one month's grace, so why the rush? love Jaspercatxx

Hi Jaspercat I’m sorry to hear you have all those things to deal with right now, don’t have a go at the other half just accept it’s what we men do, we never read the instructions we don’t ever need directions and when we do get lost we never ask for them and we always leave the loo seat up!, you would have much more chance of making a snail a carnivore than to get any sense from our particular species!. :roll:

skezier · 12. Oct 2009, 06:40

Hi Jaspercat,

I am sorry its all up side down at the mo. Its very hard for you both and maybe this is how Malcolm is coping? It will get easier and I really hope you both are ok? I'm Thinking of you both. Luv and a ((( ))) Cris x

debbierose · 12. Oct 2009, 08:04

just go with the flo hun,
lol

woodbon · 12. Oct 2009, 08:09

When I lost my Mum, I started clearing the house before the funeral. I think I did it because its a hard job and I wanted it done. Also, although some things upset me, it made me feel close to her in a funny sort of way. Melcome has his own reasons for doing it and although its very hard for you to have your house turned upside down, as someone else said and from my experience its his way of coping.

Once you get over the funeral, I'm sure that each day that passes will help you both come to terms with your loss. At the moment don't worry too much about the mess, people will understand, just live each day as it comes. With lots of love to you both, Sue xxxx

tkachev · 12. Oct 2009, 08:16

Dear Jaspercat,
It was probably his way of dealing with the upcoming funeral,helping to take his mind off things.He might have been on automatic pilot,just doing things without realising it.
When I am angry I can clean for England!It is something to focus on.
Take care Tkachev

plmb48 · 12. Oct 2009, 08:20

jaspercat wrote:

Hi Everyone, my darling hubbie has struck again, with 2 days until his dad's funeral, he has decided to start moving things from his house to ours, result: my house now looks like a pigsty, stuff everywhere, large boxes to pack, his back is very painful, my joints are so sore that I can't move, why do men do it?

The council has given us one month's grace, so why the rush? love Jaspercatxx

ITS A MAN THING EVERYTHING HAS TO BE DONE YESTERDAY HA HA HA PAULINE :? :? :? :?

lindalegs · 12. Oct 2009, 13:24

Although you're suffering now, it'll be a good job out of the way and once it's done you'll probably be glad he started it as soon as possible. I don't envy you either the task or the mess you're having to live in.

Hope you get some comfort from going through it all.

Luv Legs

jaspercat · 12. Oct 2009, 16:12

Hi, I have convinced him to tidy up and just make the house look nice for the funeral, he is going again on friday to get larger items,
nice things are hapening too though. We have decided to get back in touch with brothers and sisters that he hasn't seen for about 30 years, both of his nephews are helping us with transportation, and 1 of them has invited us to a funeral next year.

I know that it is his way of coping but he is like a bull in a china shop, I have spoken to dad's landlord they are giving us until 3rd november to sort things out, we need it as he was a hoarder love Jaspercatxx

Wonkylegs · 12. Oct 2009, 17:37

Hi jaspercat,
sorry only just caught up on your news ...... sending hugs to you adnMalcolm.

we all cope with things differently, and it can be hard on everyone when there is a house to sort out too.

try and take things steady & do what you can do each day.
hugs to you ((((((((((((((((((((((((())))))))))))))))))))))))))))

noeltone · 13. Oct 2009, 14:31

Hi kat thinking of you both and take care from chrisov

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