fed up of being fed up

carol101

All i do is moan, mooch around the house, sleep, have no energy, get bored, fed up.

Someone has stolen my life away from me and i want it back :x

The person i am now isn't the real me!

As the title says, i'm fed up of being fed up


Carol X

sharmaine

Hi Carol

I think we all experience being fed up! I find making a list a good way to keep myself focussed. I do a bit each day - before OA I used to run around like a lunatic doing things for everyone. These past few years have made me realise that I have to take time out for me without being guilty. I've got arthur and I just can't push myself without paying for it later.

I'm sure this will past and you'll find ways of coping. The secret is not to let it get you down too much.

If you're tired then rest. If you need to have a moan - we're all here to listen. Watch out for mine moans!!!!

Take care.

Sharmaine

Wonkylegs

HI Carol
as I have siad before I really do understand what you are saying adn am sorry to hear you are having to cope with this.

It does take time to adjust and to begin to understand what is going on. At first I did nothign at all, then I progressed to watchin gtv all the day, then I found that puzzle books and jigsaws kept my mind busy whilst my body rested. If you can't do your crochet/knitting then could you perhaps try something different?

I found that the library was a good place for me ... I borrowed the talking books and listened to them whilst laid on the bed propped up with pillows. More comfy and less physical than reading holding a book ... and it didn't really matter if I nodded off

I hope you soon feel less fed up.
hugs
wonky

debatat

Carol, I think we all feel like that at times. When you are newly diagnosed it takes time to come to terms with arthur. We have to accept and quite often we don't want to.

Come on here and moan away, then hubby doesn't get it!! Try and plan something nice to do everyday, even if it is only a simple thing. I do know how hard it is.

Deb x

robertls

For you.......

Rob x

carol101

I used to be so active, work 16hr days sometimes, bring work home to do, do most of the housework (hubby has always helped) be head strong. I just enjoyed life, even if i was just sitting and watching tv.

Now i'm a flump

Don't know what 1 is but it made me smile


Carol X

Wonkylegs

I think the flumps were a TV programme I think - for Children?

sorry can't rmeember what they were though :oops:

carol101

I can remember the theme tune!


Carol X

debatat

I used to love the flumps!!!!! Posie and pootle (?).

I am a flump as well Carol!!

Deb x

carol71

We have the flumps on dvd

Carol are you me, cos when I read your posts I could have written them myself.

Have a ((((Hug)))) cos I know I could do with one today.
I spent most of the day sleeping on the settee when the kids were in school and I should really have been tidying the house.

Like you I used to be so active, these days I feel I could do with being put down.

Carol xxx

mistywillow

Sorry you feel so down. Its difficult at first but then you begin to adapt to life as it is and capatalize on the good days or at least the better ones and you will have those as well as bad ones, I promise. I tend not to let my thoughts drift into the negative because it makes it more difficult to cope with the pain. Take each day as it comes and try and find something that you can do that you enjoy, to help take your mind off the pain.
Meanwhile sending you cyber hugs
Gillx

carol101

Carol, people will start thinking we're the same person

I've had the back pain for so many yrs that getting the diagnosis shouldn't really have made any difference to how i feel. I suppose the mind will do it's own thing regardless.

Anyway, after my last post, i had a shower, done some ironing for about half an hour then sat and watched emmy and corrie while doing some crochet. Hubby will be home just after 10pm so i will have some dinner ready for him (oh the joys of shift work).

I know that doesn't sound like i've done a lot but that is a major improvement to how i have been.

Then after dinner i'm gonna be a flump again in front of the tv with hubby


Carol XX

debbierose

carol101 wrote:

Carol, people will start thinking we're the same person

I've had the back pain for so many yrs that getting the diagnosis shouldn't really have made any difference to how i feel. I suppose the mind will do it's own thing regardless.

Anyway, after my last post, i had a shower, done some ironing for about half an hour then sat and watched emmy and corrie while doing some crochet. Hubby will be home just after 10pm so i will have some dinner ready for him (oh the joys of shift work).

I know that doesn't sound like i've done a lot but that is a major improvement to how i have been.

Then after dinner i'm gonna be a flump again in front of the tv with hubby


Carol XX

way to go Carol, things looking up even if you are feeling flumpy
the other day it sounded as if you were gonna kill him.
enjoy your tv programmes and your sitting together on the settee, get him to massage your feet for yer, he'll enjoy that I bet. even if its the cosiness of it.
wish I could follow my own advice.

pammi69

I want to go back to my normal life as well

woodbon

@. :shock: Love Sue

joyful164

Hi all
We are not flumps! None of us. Time to do a bit of pampering I think Carol. I know it can be difficult to stay positive at times.
Weather, MONEY, pain, tired all the time. Have a nice long soak in some aromatherapy oils, scented candles maybe. soft music to unwind.
I was really fed up on Monday after seeing my GP, especially as he is as sick as I am. We both suffer with PMR and we had both decided to flare up togethr. For a Monday morning, he did look bad. I can understand why he is off with some people. Now that we have an interest together, he is very amenable. He had to come out of the practice, and now he is doing 2/3 days a week.
I have decided to invite my son and family for lunch on Sunday. Give myself something to focus on so I don't have time to feel sorry for myself and fed up. Mind you, I shall probably do both of these things after they have gone and say, Joy, why do I do this to myself. It just makes me make the effort, that's all.
I'm fed up because I didn't get to my art this afternoon, but there you go.

I do hope you start feeling a bit more chirpy soon Carol. It's horrible if you feel down Perhaps you need to have chat with your gp. He may suggest something to make your chirpy. love from Joy

carol101

Hi all. I've been saying that my pain has got worse since my diagnosis. Well yesterday morning when i woke up, i realised what it probably is. About 3 weeks before the Dr sent me for X rays, i fell down the stairs, slid right down them on my back. It's just coincidence that it seems to hurt more since being told it's OA. I'd never put the two together before. All makes sense now

What do you think i've done though? Surely falling doesn't make arthur worse? I used to get a very mild pain all the time but the real pain maybe once, twice a yr. Now i get moderate pain all the time with the real pain about every 2 weeks, even with the meds. Has my fall really made that much difference? The fall was back in late July.

Carol X

diane56

i sympathise with you, i'm fed up with being me full stop,it's not easy to feel positive when you wake up with this curse everday, and it isn't going to get better any day soon, but on a positive note at leaast we have the forum to vent our feelings as we are more or less in the same boat!

carol101

I know what you mean Pixie, when i'm at work i don't want to be there and when i'm off sick i feel guilty for not going in!

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