depressed

deborahjane

hi havn,t posted fro a while but am in a lot of pain at mo.i am 49 and have been getting thoughts of being stuck in a chair not being able to do much when i am older,it,s making me quite miserable.does anyone else feel like this,i have had ra for 14 years.

skezier

Hi Deborah Jane,

i am so sorry your feeling like this. I know when I looked at my future a few years ago I felt much the same as that. You know once controlled and a bit of decent pin relief it does get easier. You can't always look to far ahead and sometimes its a slow process. I was able to get some counselling and it helped me except whats wrong and now I don't think about what might be (AND might not be) just at what is now. I do think though you maybe should see your gp and try and get some decent pain relief sorted? I really hope you will soon feel ok. Take care and sending you a ((( ))) Cris x

dorcas

Hi Deborahjane,

So sorry to hear you are in such a lot of pain and feeling so low about the future because of the impact of arther. ':('

I've had PA and OA for about the same time as you have had your diagnosis. I try not to think of what the future holds in store and just concentrate on keeping as well as I can and accepting all the help and support I can get when it all gets a bit overwhelming.

It's good you've come back to the forum because the good folks here truly understand how you feel and will support you...........
I know I have benefited from peeps kind words and understanding when I've been at a low ebb.

lots of hugs from me. I hope you can feel more positive soon. Iris x

annie_mial

Hi DebbieJane,

I think you will find that a lot of us here have been where you are now; there will also be some at your point walking that road with you.

I was there earlier in the year; this is a good place to come for comfort and support and a helping hand.

Call in anytime you like, there's usually a shoulder around to cry on if you need one, or just someone to share a cuppa tea and a cake and some gossip.

See you again.

Annie

Wonkylegs

HI Deborahjane,

I am glad you felt you could come back on here and post about how you are feeling. You are most definitely NOT on your own!

I have had times when I have felt like you, and it is this forum and the people on it who have helped me a lot.

Others have mentioned the possibilities of counselling & better pain meds. I would also add to maybe ring the Arthritis Care helplines on teh number at the top of the page. They are all people with arthritis and are fabulous at talking things through.

I do hope you get some help and then things will hopefully seem a little more positive for you.

hugs (((((())))))
wonky

trisher

Hi Deborajane

It is so nice that you have returned here, so while you are down we can try and help you.

You know that we understand how low you must be feeling. We are all here for you, lean on us and we will help you get through this time. We have all be depressed at some time or another.

Try not to worry too much in advance. You never know when a new drug will come along that could make us all better than we are.

Who knows what we might hear about through the coming New Year.

Trisher xx

penfactor

Hi Deborahjane,
All I can say is am feeling for you - if it helps to come here & share with us just do it. I've had a bit of a low night tonight but pretended to be "brave" & stuff to all those outside our loop! Here is where we understand & you will never be alone.
love Pennie X

tkachev

I have been better lately but I am still scared of the future.I have to do everything at home and if I have another flare all my children will suffer.My son is autistic and will need care for ever,my other son is higher functioning autistic and I am trying to get him to be more independent and my daughter has faecal impaction and requires frequent changing and comfort.
I often see myself as older and struggling unless the medication keeps improving enough.The thought scares me,I am 46.
Best wishes
Elizabeth

deborahjane

thanks for all replies feeling better already im going to grandsons birthday party today they will be 4 and 6.speak to you all later.

tkachev

Enjoy the party and try to take it easy!
Best wishes
Elizabeth