What is a true friend?

joanlawson
joanlawson Member Posts: 8,681
edited 24. Dec 2009, 06:10 in Community Chit-chat archive
Hi

Some thoughts on friendship:

A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.

We are all travellers in the wilderness of this world, and the best we can find in our travels is an honest friend.

Friendship improves happiness and abates misery by doubling our joy and dividing our grief.

I have made some true friends on this site, so thank you all.

Joan
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  • colinone
    colinone Member Posts: 1,039
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Joan[/quote]
    Good friends are hard to find Joan and they are very few and far between. I know many people but can only count my true friends on one hand.
    Colin
  • joanlawson
    joanlawson Member Posts: 8,681
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Colin

    I still can't believe that you are back :!: :D

    Words of wisdom from you as usual :!:

    Joan
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  • Wonkylegs
    Wonkylegs Member Posts: 3,504
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    joanlawson wrote:
    Hi

    Some thoughts on friendship:

    A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.

    We are all travellers in the wilderness of this world, and the best we can find in our travels is an honest friend.

    Friendship improves happiness and abates misery by doubling our joy and dividing our grief.

    I have made some true friends on this site, so thank you all.

    Joan


    wow Joan, you know how to put things into words so well ..... can I echo the above ..... friends are very very valuable ..... and true friends are really really the ones who walk in as others walk out (even family leave!)

    thanks guys and gals
  • annie_mial
    annie_mial Member Posts: 5,614
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    'A good friend is difficult to find, hard to lose and impossible to forget'

    Can't remember who said it, but I entirely agree!

    Annie
  • frogmorton
    frogmorton Member Posts: 29,789
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Guys
    You lot are so profound!
    I echo Colin though - my 'real' friends I can count on one hand :)
    Love
    Toni x
  • mellman01
    mellman01 Member Posts: 5,306
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Right I’m going to drag this thread down by this but it’s a true story so don’t deride me.
    John Wayne before he died from the big C was asked by one of his sons what was one of the most important things he had learned through his life, his reply was that if you end your days with 5 real true friends then you have done well as most will let you down at some point normally when you need them the most.
    It was on a documentary I watched years ago on the duke but it has always stuck in my mind as it’s about right, well for me anyway.
  • ninakang
    ninakang Member Posts: 1,367
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    For me, real friends are the ones who are there for you when things aren't going well. Like many of you, I know lots of people but only have a few true friends - some of them from this site, so thank you.

    Also, I count a true friend as someone who, even after an argument, you know you will still be friends. Even when you've fallen out, you know that if you needed them, they would still be there.

    Nx
  • joanlawson
    joanlawson Member Posts: 8,681
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    mellman01 wrote:
    Right I’m going to drag this thread down by this but it’s a true story so don’t deride me.
    John Wayne before he died from the big C was asked by one of his sons what was one of the most important things he had learned through his life, his reply was that if you end your days with 5 real true friends then you have done well as most will let you down at some point normally when you need them the most.
    It was on a documentary I watched years ago on the duke but it has always stuck in my mind as it’s about right, well for me anyway.

    Hi Mell

    I'm your friend, and I wouldn't let you down :!:

    Joan
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  • page35
    page35 Member Posts: 1,081
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    im going with what colin said too
    i have 3 true friends and feel very lucky to have them, one of them i have been friends with for 26 years and we are both only 33 so thats along time i believe we will always be friends.
    ive got lots of mates and people i chat to but a true friend is special
  • dachshund
    dachshund Member Posts: 9,089
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Joan.
    we met our friend when we was 18 she was 10
    thats fifty years we've been friends.
    she come's to see us on our birthday and christmas and any time we phone with a problem.
    joan xx
    take care
    joan xx
  • jordan7j
    jordan7j Bots Posts: 346
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    "make new friends, but keep the old, for one is silver the other gold"
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  • joanlawson
    joanlawson Member Posts: 8,681
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Thanks everyone for your thoughts on friendship.

    One thing is certain, and that is that we all need friends, some times more than others.

    I do try to be a true friend, and not a fairweather friend.

    Joan
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  • trisher
    trisher Member Posts: 9,263
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    A true friend

    A true friend is there for you all the time, no matter what, they stand by your side, during the good times and the bad times,
    when other friends have had to' leave.'

    They ask nothing in return. Their repayment, is purely, just to see you through and out the other side of illness, or any other worries you may have or any other troubles.

    Their religion maybe different from yours but it never stands in the way of your friendship.

    Nothing can break this friendship, you may be parted for a while but you still feel and know they are there for you.

    Trisher xxx
  • joanlawson
    joanlawson Member Posts: 8,681
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    trisher wrote:
    A true friend

    A true friend is there for you all the time, no matter what, they stand by your side, during the good times and the bad times,
    when other friends have had to' leave.'

    They ask nothing in return. Their repayment, is purely, just to see you through and out the other side of illness, or any other worries you may have or any other troubles.

    Their religion maybe different from yours but it never stands in the way of your friendship.

    Nothing can break this friendship, you may be parted for a while but you still feel and know they are there for you.

    Trisher xxx

    That is really lovely, Trisher, and thank you for being such a good friend to me.

    Joan
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  • joanlawson
    joanlawson Member Posts: 8,681
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    The Greeks knew what's what, didn't they :?:
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  • sharmaine
    sharmaine Member Posts: 1,638
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Joan
    You are so right. My very best friend died some years ago and with a house move into a different county I'm hopeful that one day I'll find friendship as strong as that once again.

    Sharmaine

    joanlawson wrote:
    Hi

    Some thoughts on friendship:

    A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.

    We are all travellers in the wilderness of this world, and the best we can find in our travels is an honest friend.

    Friendship improves happiness and abates misery by doubling our joy and dividing our grief.

    I have made some true friends on this site, so thank you all.

    Joan
  • annebr
    annebr Member Posts: 730
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    What a lovely thread. I have found out the hard way that the person I considered my closest friend isn't. Over the last year and my illness she hasn't been ther or interested in fact she told me to 'get over it' she didn''t even visit me any of the times I have been in hospital.

    But I have found some lovely friends on this forum!!!

    Anne
  • mike77
    mike77 Member Posts: 879
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi All, I dont have any close friends as the one I grew up with always called to go out and play football with turned on me when I had epilepsy after that I never had close friends again . but the people on here are now ARE FRIENDS THAT i TRUST and know that I get good advice when I am feeling down thank you :D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D
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  • joanlawson
    joanlawson Member Posts: 8,681
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    mike77 wrote:
    Hi All, I dont have any close friends as the one I grew up with always called to go out and play football with turned on me when I had epilepsy after that I never had close friends again . but the people on here are now ARE FRIENDS THAT i TRUST and know that I get good advice when I am feeling down thank you :D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D
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    Hi Mike

    I find that very sad about your experiences when you were young. I hope that attitudes of children towards people with epilepsy are more understanding and sympathetic nowadays.

    It must have been very difficult for you to trust anyone after that kind of treatment.

    Happily, you found Hazel to trust, and I'm pleased that you also have so many friends on here too.

    Joan
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  • katekelly
    katekelly Member Posts: 975
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    "Friends are the family you'd pick for yourself".

    Don't know who said it but I can honestly say its true in my life. :D:D
  • sue1963
    sue1963 Member Posts: 17
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Aww what a lovely thread guys :)

    I see a true friend as someone who never judges you, knows when your not ok even if you say you are, is there for you through the bad times and through the good times too. A true friend wont desert you in times of need she will sit there and think through how your gonna get through and as has been said before will still be your friend even if you have a big fall out!!

    I have very few "close" friends as Ive become very untrusting over the years but the ones I have I treasure.


    Sue xxx
  • lucymum
    lucymum Member Posts: 113
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    I have friends that hav been there throughthick and thin, marraige break ups, births marriges and deaths!!!!! I know that no matter how long it has been since we spoke, they will be tere and are there to support the family now with the advent of my little ones illness!!

    friends are the best, you can moan, cry, shout, scream and still they will pat your back, make you a drink and support you on your way!!
  • trisher
    trisher Member Posts: 9,263
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi luyc's mum

    You will find many friends on here. We will never walk out on you. We will also support you when you are down or in good times too.

    love Trish xxxx