He does EVERYTHING?!

ninakang
ninakang Member Posts: 1,367
edited 7. Jan 2010, 17:02 in Community Chit-chat archive
Hello

It's not often me and my hubby fall out - we got through that stage years ago and now try to accept each other's little annoying habits (he has more than me, obviously) and we get along quite well.

Until last night. He got very worked up because he couldn't figure out why our timer switch wouldn't work and when I asked him why he was getting so angry about it, he said "Because I'm the only one in this bloody house who ever does anything! I have to do everything!" Needless to say, I'm being mardy about it now. I don't think I do everything either, but I think we get along quite well normally.

He works longer hours than me so I (happily) do:

- All the washing
- All the ironing
- All the housework, including sweeping, mopping and hoovering our (large) house
- Sorting bills, letters etc
- Paying bills
- I also get up early to make him his lunch for work

He (happily):

- Picks up the girls from school most days
- Makes them and us dinner
- Washes up afterwards
- Does the DIY around the house and fixes things

Now I'm not being picky or anything, but I would say he doesn't do EVERYTHING - am I right or am I right?

Anyway, I'm feel better for that rant now - am going to carry on with my work :-)

Nx

Comments

  • tkachev
    tkachev Member Posts: 8,332
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Well my OH thinks he does everything when I am certain I do everything and he does very little.Its that Venus and Mars thing i m afraid,

    Anyway we know you do everything so thats all that matters
    Best wishes
    Elizabeth
    Never be bullied into silence.
    Never allow yourself to be made a victim.
    Accept no ones definition of your life

    Define yourself........

    Harvey Fierstein
  • joyful164
    joyful164 Member Posts: 2,401
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Know how you feel.

    What you have to ask yourself, (god forbid), "How would I cope if I was on my own".

    It's that time of year when he probably feels like he does everything. 'Everything' is such a struggle.

    I think, what is so important. You need to incorporate a little ME TIME. My ME TIME is when I am able to do my art. That has not happened much over the Christmas period with the getting ready, living it and clearing up afterwards. I am beginning to feel annoyed about all the jobs he does that seem to mean more work for me thus taking all ME TIME to clear up his mess.

    There are times when you have to 'zip it' when they have rants like that and visa versa. I wish that I had learnt that lesson when I was younger.
    Let's get use to counting to 10.

    Joy
  • oneday
    oneday Member Posts: 1,434
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    sounds like a good even split of jobs to me................doing everything, just one of those phrases that slips out when you dont want to do someting!
  • frogmorton
    frogmorton Member Posts: 30,166
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Delboy and Rehab
    you have the answer to a perfect marriage :D
    Toni x
  • annie_mial
    annie_mial Member Posts: 5,614
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Do everything? Of course he does - I simply go back and do it all over again - PROPERLY!!!

    Annie
  • elnafinn
    elnafinn Member Posts: 7,412
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    joyful164 wrote:

    What you have to ask yourself, (god forbid), "How would I cope if I was on my own".
    joyful164 wrote:

    That sentence spoke reams to me, Joy. Indeed I will totally crumble if I have to cope on my own for any length of time. I have always done all the "mundane" tasks around the house - on the whole I enjoy doing them, always have, even when working full time. (that does not include painting and decorating etc). Hubby is there to sort everything out, that I cannot do, mend things and solve problems. We both have our faults but he is my rock and I do rely on him very much as he does me.

    Luv
    Elna x
    The happiest people don't have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything.

    If you can lay down at night knowing in your heart that you made someone's day just a little bit better, you know you had a good day.
  • bertyboy
    bertyboy Member Posts: 1,860
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    in my view its not worth having a man unless he serves a purpose :lol:
    if yours recons he does it all dont do half of what you do and see how quick he notices ,i think we can all have a bad day xx
    I know i am a lady ,all life is a journey xx MAY xx
  • valval
    valval Member Posts: 14,911
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    we r all better at different things so stick to your strenths and yes they do think they do more than us and what they do more important and stay happy if u let them belive so lol just so long as u know the truth :D:D:D
    val
  • livinglegend
    livinglegend Member Posts: 1,425
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Tricky, complicated tasks I do myself, the rest I delegate.
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    That's what I was told anyway.

    Joseph 8)
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  • joanlawson
    joanlawson Member Posts: 8,681
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    AHHH, Nina

    Come to your Aunty Joan :!: :!:

    No wonder you feel mardy :!: I know just how hard you work, and how you have to be so many things to so many people;

    wife, mother, daughter,sister, school governor, not to mention keeping all those firemen in order ( no mean task :!: ) And friend to me and others !!

    I'm sure Sunny works hard too, and his outburst was probably caused by frustration with technology, rather than with you. Men don't like technology to beat them, do they?

    Next time, send Sunny over to my house, and I'll put him straight :!: :shock:

    Love and a big hug from Joan
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  • pheebs
    pheebs Member Posts: 202
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Hi everyone,

    When I was at home with the kids I did most things, but when I went back to work we shared the chores.

    But I used to find it rather amusing when he would proudly anounce - "I've hung out "your" washing. I'd look at the washing line thinking I'd find just my underwear etc. but his stuff was there as well So why was it "my" washing??

    Oh, and why do some men say they are babysitting their own children if their OH goes out??

    But now I'm on my own and cope very well, thank you. So ladies, you'd manage just fine if you had to, but hopefully you'll never find out!!

    Pheebs x
  • Wonkylegs
    Wonkylegs Member Posts: 3,504
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    delboy wrote:
    I just do what I'm told, life's easier. 8)


    I know someone else who works on that principle :wink::lol::lol:

    my dad even bought his son-in-law a wall hanging this Christmas that says 'If at first you don't succeed do it the way your wife said'

    now I know what an impression I have been making don't I ?!! :oops: :lol::lol: :oops: :lol::lol: :oops: :lol::lol::wink:
  • jackie1955
    jackie1955 Member Posts: 632
    edited 30. Nov -0001, 00:00
    Hi Nina,

    Just read this thread, and it looks to me like you and Sunny have found household 'jobs' that suit each of you.

    Me and my OH (married nearly 34 years, and very happily too) quickly developed which 'tasks' best suited which person, and its worked very well for us.

    Now to get back to your little hiccup..... you answered the question yourself hun! He was FRUSTRATED :shock: And the truth was it was with himself really, because he couldn't 'fix' the problem quickly and easily. So, as often happens, he vents his frustratiion on his nearest and dearest. You!

    The only good thing about something like this is that making-up can be sooo much fun :wink:

    Jackie x