Moaning mini.

mellman01

Boy I am tired knees kicked off last night so sleep was a bit patchy and I have taken so much Tramadol I feel totally drained, I also had a mate come round a while back and I got the normal reply when I told him I am having a flare right now and I quote.
“I don’t believe it can be that bad mell” God with mates like that who needs enemies, it’s times like this that remarks like that really get to me. Christ just standing at the sink is only tolerable for a few minutes then the sickly pain starts to build up. God it drags me down. :x

frogmorton

Hi Mell
Does this connect with the neighbour parkd in the way yesterday??
If so I am not suprised those knees were hurting yesterday.
I know what it is like with friends like that too :roll: If he's a good mate then he might just be worth keeping ......
Some times you know - you have to just give in to the pain and rest. Sorry to say it but it IS the weekend and maybe the best idea.
Don't know what to say to help really - on this kind of day I just wish for bed-time! Then I hope to sleep
You take care
Love
Toni xx

annie_mial

Cor, you do pick the right mates, Mell. It's really a problem I don't have as we've no real friends left here; lots of acquaintances (and a fair old number of peeps whom I avoid) but our real close friends are spread up and down the country now.

If he's a good enough mate to want to keep, then in some instances I think all you can do is grin, grit your teeth and bear it - but some day they will understand!

Annie

barbara12

Hi Mell
OA seems to be one of thoes things that nobody beleives how much pain you can bo in. Maybe because it is so common, I have friends that just smile when you try and tell them, I just don't bother saying anything now.
This is whats good about this forum, you can have a good moan when you feel like it, and we all know what you are going through.
Take care, hope you are feeling better soon.
Barbara

annebr

Don't talk to me about friends today......

joanlawson

Hi Mell

Maybe your friend didn't really know what to say, so just said the first thing which came into his head. It is difficult for other people to understand the pain when they haven't any experience of it.

Ask him to imagine someone is sticking daggers into his knees next time !!

Love Joan xx

ritwren

I do feel for you and anyone who's having a hard time with pain at the moment.Do try to rest as much as you can and cut back and only do what you absolutely must for the moment.
It's difficult and stressful when you constantly have to explain things (or not) to those who should know better and are either friends or family. Would'nt you think that if a close friend has a disease like this, a friend would make a point of finding out a little bit about it. :roll: I would if my friend told me she/he had a disease/illness of some kind. Unfortunately it seems to me that people judge us all the time.
Hang in there and be good to yourself.
rita

joyful164

Hello Mell.
I agree with Joan and when I started reading your thread, I know how you feel. Mates just don't know what to say. If you stood at your sink with your leg in plaster, he would only joke about it.
Wouldn't make a comment about it hurting. Am I right?

My friend from next door comes round to see me, I just tell her I'm fine even if I'm not. She knows me well enough to know how I am feeling. She only has to look at my face.
I think men look at pain differently, I know that I will not get the right responses from my OH. There's nothing he can do or say either but he understands. He know's when I am bad because I go and hide away
I know myself that maybe he doesn't feel that well sometimes.

Any way Mel, if I could I would give you a big ((((()))))) Just keep those knees warm and don't go out in the ice and snow if you can help it. If you do need groceries, I believe Iceland will deliver free and you don't have to buy the shop either to do so.

Joy

woodbon

Hello, Sorry you feel so bad. I know what you mean, people think of the odd ache and pain they get as 'arthritis and don't understand that the real thing is different. Also, I know I was asked this morning how I was and I found myself saying 'oh, its only a bit of arthritis' I realized straight away and corrected it, but its something we all do, I think, sometimes, if we are not too bad. When I had my ESA medical, I was asked the usual thing, to bend forward to pick up a piece of paper, as I did it my back gave a loud crack, and a funny sensation ran down to my hand (this often happens) the doctor shouted STOP, and I said 'well I can do it if you like, only for her to tell me off for trying! My own worst enemy!!! Hope you fell better soon, love Sue

mellman01

pixyandfaries wrote:

oi ! come on ,get ya **** back in here im missing ya , i will start a huge strop if you dont ! 8)

Hi all I is back just!, it's crazy the pain creeps up slowly like a slow fog bank rolling in by the time you know it it's on you, at least I haven't taken anyomore Tramadol and I think I will be ok to stand up to do the cooking tonight well I hope, anyway thanks for all you replies you lot sorry I got a tas down but the plack hole is always deeper than I know, no change there then!.

dorcas

Hi mellman,

Glad to see you back on the forum!
I think we all experience the same thing with not just friends but sometimes even family don't understand how painful arther is! ..worse still there are folks on the forum whose docs don't understand, so what hope have we got!

At least you know that peeps here DO understand and are always ready to give you lots of support and gentle hugs to make you feel better!!

Don't overdo it today though!! let someone else stand in the kitchen and do the cooking!

Iris x