surprise letter.

tkachev · 25. Jan 2010, 07:47

I just wanted to share with you some good news.My brother hasnt seen his son for over 6 years....no contact although my brother has sent him letters all the time.We didnt know if he received them.The courts had allowed this.

Anyway I arrived home after a fraught shopping trip with the OH( he hates everything I buy, I think he is tight)!and there was a letter with up to date photos that my bruv had received.His son has contacted him by telephone and is coming to see him in a few weeks.He said he was sorry that he had said he didnt want to see his dad and didnt know what he was doing.He was young but was older now and understood the implications.

I cant begin to tell you how happy I am and have tears running down my cheeks as I type.
I just wanted to share.....
Elizabeth

Wonkylegs · 25. Jan 2010, 07:50

Elizabeth that is such good news.

Relationships within families can be so difficult ..... it is good to know that those of us with family issues are not on our own, and that good can happen as well as bad.

glad that you are so happy - lovely news to share

Wonkyxxxx

tkachev · 25. Jan 2010, 08:10

Thankyou,
It came out of the blue. I have encouraged my brother to keep writing, no recriminations, so when his son was ready he would not feel scared to make contact and also to prove to his son that he cared.He moved a long way away and on the occassions my brother went up to see him it all ended in disaster and got my brother frustrated and gave his ex more ammunition.I really hope the visit goes ahead as planned.

I have got a headache now from all that crying.
all the best
Elizabeth

elnafinn · 25. Jan 2010, 08:29

Aw Elizabeth,

It is so true we just do not know what each day may bring, things go on, the same old, same old and then something "different" happens, just like today for you.

You certainly paved the way encouraging your brother, to keep that contact going, distant though it may have been and with no result for a long, long time. His patience is being rewarded. It is thanks to you both that this has happened as well as your brother's son maturing and seeing things differently. It would definitely have made it that much easier for his son, having always had some kind of contact and always knowing that he cared.

You calm down now and try to get rid of that headache.

Thank you for sharing that with us. It will give hope to others in similar situations.

Love
Elna x

lindalegs · 25. Jan 2010, 08:37

How lovely.

It just proves that feint heart never won fair maid (or knight in this case) your bro's perseverence paid off big time and has been worth all the effort he put in.

What brialliant news .....now I suggest you have a good blow and couple of your fav painkillers for your headache.

Well done for encouraging him.

Luv Legs

kathbee · 25. Jan 2010, 08:53

I'm so pleased for you and your family Elizabeth
Thats really good news.

I cant say I know how you feel as that would
not be fair but just to let you know that
my daughter's partner did not see his little son
for nearly 2 years due to the difficulties the child's
mother put on the situation. It nearly cut him in two
and the little boy of course missed his dad so much.

So happy endings, you cant beat'em.

Love Kath

ninakang · 25. Jan 2010, 11:59

This is great news, am really pleased for you

Nx

angel1 · 25. Jan 2010, 12:10

When relationships come to an end, for whatever reason, some of the worst emotional pain imaginable is suffered by the children. Add to this, confusion, and even guilt sometimes, thinking themselves to be somehow at fault.

I am so very pleased that your brother now has the opportunity to be the father his son needs.......Ange.