surprise letter.
tkachev
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I just wanted to share with you some good news.My brother hasnt seen his son for over 6 years....no contact although my brother has sent him letters all the time.We didnt know if he received them.The courts had allowed this.
Anyway I arrived home after a fraught shopping trip with the OH( he hates everything I buy, I think he is tight)!and there was a letter with up to date photos that my bruv had received.His son has contacted him by telephone and is coming to see him in a few weeks.He said he was sorry that he had said he didnt want to see his dad and didnt know what he was doing.He was young but was older now and understood the implications.
I cant begin to tell you how happy I am and have tears running down my cheeks as I type.
I just wanted to share.....
Elizabeth
Anyway I arrived home after a fraught shopping trip with the OH( he hates everything I buy, I think he is tight)!and there was a letter with up to date photos that my bruv had received.His son has contacted him by telephone and is coming to see him in a few weeks.He said he was sorry that he had said he didnt want to see his dad and didnt know what he was doing.He was young but was older now and understood the implications.
I cant begin to tell you how happy I am and have tears running down my cheeks as I type.
I just wanted to share.....
Elizabeth
Never be bullied into silence.
Never allow yourself to be made a victim.
Accept no ones definition of your life
Define yourself........
Harvey Fierstein
Never allow yourself to be made a victim.
Accept no ones definition of your life
Define yourself........
Harvey Fierstein
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Elizabeth that is such good news.
Relationships within families can be so difficult ..... it is good to know that those of us with family issues are not on our own, and that good can happen as well as bad.
glad that you are so happy - lovely news to share
Wonkyxxxx0 -
Thankyou,
It came out of the blue. I have encouraged my brother to keep writing, no recriminations, so when his son was ready he would not feel scared to make contact and also to prove to his son that he cared.He moved a long way away and on the occassions my brother went up to see him it all ended in disaster and got my brother frustrated and gave his ex more ammunition.I really hope the visit goes ahead as planned.
I have got a headache now from all that crying.
all the best
ElizabethNever be bullied into silence.
Never allow yourself to be made a victim.
Accept no ones definition of your life
Define yourself........
Harvey Fierstein0 -
Aw Elizabeth,
It is so true we just do not know what each day may bring, things go on, the same old, same old and then something "different" happens, just like today for you.
You certainly paved the way encouraging your brother, to keep that contact going, distant though it may have been and with no result for a long, long time. His patience is being rewarded. It is thanks to you both that this has happened as well as your brother's son maturing and seeing things differently. It would definitely have made it that much easier for his son, having always had some kind of contact and always knowing that he cared.
You calm down now and try to get rid of that headache. Thank you for sharing that with us. It will give hope to others in similar situations.
Love
Elna xThe happiest people don't have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything.
If you can lay down at night knowing in your heart that you made someone's day just a little bit better, you know you had a good day.0 -
How lovely.
It just proves that feint heart never won fair maid (or knight in this case) your bro's perseverence paid off big time and has been worth all the effort he put in.
What brialliant news .....now I suggest you have a good blow and couple of your fav painkillers for your headache.
Well done for encouraging him.
Luv LegsLove, Legs x
'Make a life out of what you have, not what you're missing'0 -
I'm so pleased for you and your family Elizabeth
Thats really good news.
I cant say I know how you feel as that would
not be fair but just to let you know that
my daughter's partner did not see his little son
for nearly 2 years due to the difficulties the child's
mother put on the situation. It nearly cut him in two
and the little boy of course missed his dad so much.
So happy endings, you cant beat'em.
Love Kath0 -
This is great news, am really pleased for you
Nx0 -
When relationships come to an end, for whatever reason, some of the worst emotional pain imaginable is suffered by the children. Add to this, confusion, and even guilt sometimes, thinking themselves to be somehow at fault.
I am so very pleased that your brother now has the opportunity to be the father his son needs.......Ange.0 -
Hi Elizabeth.
i'm so you pleased for you and your brother
and i'm so pleased your bothers son now understands that he needs his family.
joan xxtake care
joan xx0 -
Hi Elizabeth
That is good news, do hope all goes well when the visit is arranged. We like to hear about Happy tears but hope the headache gone now.
take care
Chris0 -
Hi Elizebeth,
That is lovely news , I think it will have given all of us a lift now you enjoy your family.
Love Barbara xLove
Barbara0 -
great new no wonder you in tears they of joy we know bet he lovely ladval0
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Fantastic news. Your brother must be over the moon.
Hope your headache is a bit better.
Anne0
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