Blood Test

jaspercat
jaspercat Member Posts: 1,238
edited 2. Feb 2010, 11:39 in Living with Arthritis archive
Hi, I went for a blood test this morning for my Rheumy, I was in my wheel chair, and luckily with my hubby, it is annoying at my medical centre that you have to go through double doors to have a blood test, no-one offered to open the doors for me, so Malcolm opened the doors, when I got in I had to sit and wait, people kept staring at me and looking sorry for me, I hate it, I don't want people's sympathy, sorry just moaning love Jaspercatxx

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  • skezier
    skezier Member Posts: 11,333
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Jaspercat,

    You got to remember its THEIR problem and not make it yours! They are just idiots and well don't let them get to you flower. Hey you moan away and well sending you a (((((( )))))) Luv Cris xx
  • chile168
    chile168 Member Posts: 384
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Jasper,

    I know what you mean and those double doors are flipping heavy too. Im not wheelchair bound but have to use them when I literally cannot walk. At hospital, I sometimes have to ask for the electrical buggy to take me to my department and hate people staring. In fact, I find that when ever Im out as I walk down the stairs in a crab fashion and walk with a limp.

    Like you I don't want sympathy, I would like people to be helpful and understanding.

    Like Cris said - it's THEIR PROBLEM.

    Love xxxxx

    Eve
  • frogmorton
    frogmorton Member Posts: 29,880
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Jasper
    Hmmmph!!
    I'm with the other two too.
    Hopefully there are lots of other people who don't pity too :)
    Well done for having the test anyway...I tend to draw a bit of attention to myself coz I make a fuss and cry and hubby has to hold my arm when I have them :oops:
    Love
    Toni x
  • harleyd14
    harleyd14 Member Posts: 259
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    hi jasper....stupid people!!!
    my sister (Sandra) would be nodding furiously by now if she were reading your post as she is in a wheelchair - she has brain and lung cancer - and often gets ignored by people even shop workers, she was out with our other sister (Sonia), who was pushing her, and they went into Wilkos and bought various bits, when at the counter the assistant asked Sonia if she wanted stamps or mobile top up, Sandra said and what about me, or do you think i am not capable of writing letters or using a mobile....and the assistant STILL didnt acknowledge her, wheelchair users are the invisible group and it makes me so angry, i always made a point, when i worked in a shop, of talking to the one in the chair more than the pusher.
    Take care, love Sally.xx :D
  • woodbon
    woodbon Member Posts: 4,969
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi, I am sorry that you got this reaction. I'd like to say that its uncommon, but I used to have to escort wheelchair user to hospitals and shops as part of my job. I've seen it happen, yet along with it a total lack of understanding about what a wheelchair user can do. One kind voluteer that worked with us in the Cheshire Home that I worked in, did the classic "Does he take sugar?" to one of our clients, who had problems sitting in a 'straight ' position. Well-meaning and understandable up to a point, but humiliating for the person involved who was in his 40s and mentally as 'normal' as any of us! :? My answer was to say, " I don't know, why not ask David?" and stepping back to make sure all went well. It did. In the voluteers mind, I expect she had me down as an uncaring bitch, but a big part of caring is giving people indepence and dignity. Oh Gosh, off again, I do miss my job and a large part of me really wants to get up and do it!
    Sorry, jasper, its society's falliure and problem not yours and even today in our well educated world, theirs still a lot to be done. Love Sue