Emotional before TKR

sharmaine

Hi everyone

I've been so emotional this week. Cross with myself as this op is going to help me. Anyone else felt this way before their ops or is just me being a silly billy????

Hubby has been making me laugh. I think I'm going to miss him and being away from home (my little haven).

Sharmaine

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Hi Sharmaine
sorry i am not any help as havent had this op and i am a huge wimp and get scared every month when i need my bloods done :roll: :oops:
i really dont think you are being silly, i am sure everyone gets a bit scared and emotional before an op, i know i would.
as you said this op will really help you and you and hubbie might be able to do more stuff together so it will be good for him too, but i think you have every right to be emotional.
i wish you all the best with it and look forward to hearing how well you are doing when your home and recovering

Starburst

Please don't be cross with yourself, it's perfectly normal to be scared. Just keep reminding yourself that you're in good hands and think how different your life is going to be when you're back on your feet. We're all thinking of you and wishing you all the best.

You'll be fine. I shall send you some of my extra special positivity vibes.

Take care. x

elnafinn

Dear Sharmaine

You would not be "normal" if you were not feeling some emotions about this operation tomorrow. It is only natural, it is the unknown. You are as prepared as you can possibly be for this op. The staff at the hospital will be aware that you are feeling vulnerable and will make you feel as much at home with it all as possible.

Think forward to about a week or so's time when you are back home and it is all behind you and you are on the road to recovery.

You have your loving family and we are here to help out as much as we can with anything you may wish to ask or not sure about. That in itself must be a little reassurance for you. So many of us on here have had this operation of all different ages and well, I for one have absolutely no regrets whatsoever, it has enhanced my life.

My son is calling to pick me up shortly on his way home from football. I am going with them and my grand daughter to see my mum, so it will be a gran and great gran get together this afternoon.

Lots of love
Elna x

kathbee

Its so natural to feel this way Sharmaine.

I had a THR recently and felt the same way.

I was in hospital for 9 days and over christmas
as well so that was strange.

I remember on the monday morning when we left home
at 6.30 a.m. in the thick snow, I dont know who was more
stressed, me or my husband, . When the nurse called me to take notes
she said are you feeling ok about this op and I promptly burst
into tears and yet really I was just so glad to be there and
was looking forward to getting rid of the awful pain, i dont know
why I was upset, but its probably the emotional build up to it all.

And I am happy to say that the awful pain is no longer there
so it is well worth it.

Good luck Sharmaine, all will be well.

Love Kath

sharmaine

Hi

Thanks Elna again. You are a star. I'm in full menopausal bloom (if you could call it that) and hormones are all over the shop. I'm all packed and ready to go. OH is cooking Sunday's dinner. I just don't want to embarrass myself and start crying tomorrow at the hospital!!!

Enjoy your day out with your family and I hope you go from strength to strength. I'll be ok when I'm there - I know I will be.

I've left OH enough notes so hopefully the house will be standing when I get back!!!!

love
XXXX

Sharmaine

elnafinn wrote:

Dear Sharmaine

You would not be "normal" if you were not feeling some emotions about this operation tomorrow. It is only natural, it is the unknown. You are as prepared as you can possibly be for this op. The staff at the hospital will be aware that you are feeling vulnerable and will make you feel as much at home with it all as possible.

Think forward to about a week or so's time when you are back home and it is all behind you and you are on the road to recovery.

You have your loving family and we are here to help out as much as we can with anything you may wish to ask or not sure about. That in itself must be a little reassurance for you. So many of us on here have had this operation of all different ages and well, I for one have absolutely no regrets whatsoever, it has enhanced my life.

My son is calling to pick me up shortly on his way home from football. I am going with them and my grand daughter to see my mum, so it will be a gran and great gran get together this afternoon.

Lots of love
Elna x

sharmaine

Hi Page
Thank you. I'm sure I'll be fine - it's just this week. OH gave me the longest cuddle ever today - I keep forgetting that he may be worried too...but he's being the big strong man. It'll be nice to have one good leg!

Sharmaine

quote="page35"]Hi Sharmaine
sorry i am not any help as havent had this op and i am a huge wimp and get scared every month when i need my bloods done :roll: :oops:
i really dont think you are being silly, i am sure everyone gets a bit scared and emotional before an op, i know i would.
as you said this op will really help you and you and hubbie might be able to do more stuff together so it will be good for him too, but i think you have every right to be emotional.
i wish you all the best with it and look forward to hearing how well you are doing when your home and recovering [/quote]

sharmaine

Hi Kathbee

Thanks for your kind words. It must have been awful being in the hospital over Christmas ... and that snow! I hope we don't see anymore of it.

Glad to hear your THR went well and you are no longer in pain.

Regards
Sharmaine

kathbee wrote:

Its so natural to feel this way Sharmaine.

I had a THR recently and felt the same way.

I was in hospital for 9 days and over christmas
as well so that was strange.

I remember on the monday morning when we left home
at 6.30 a.m. in the thick snow, I dont know who was more
stressed, me or my husband, . When the nurse called me to take notes
she said are you feeling ok about this op and I promptly burst
into tears and yet really I was just so glad to be there and
was looking forward to getting rid of the awful pain, i dont know
why I was upset, but its probably the emotional build up to it all.

And I am happy to say that the awful pain is no longer there
so it is well worth it.

Good luck Sharmaine, all will be well.

Love Kath

dolittle

Hi Sharmaine,
Just to give you some (((hugs)))). I'm sure I'm making excuses, putting mine off ... 'cos I'm too much of a coward to get my ankle done! I think if anyone said one unkind word to me I'd spend the whole time in tears with my BP round the ceiling. So I would be feeling exactly the same as you, if it were me. And my hubby wouldn't think about trying to make me laugh - he'd be too concerned about where to park the car!! Then he'd ditch me in the ward as quick as possible, in case he got clamped. So... how lucky you are to have yours ... go on... give him a little kiss.

Soon be over now - will be thinking about you.
Luv
Dolittle

sharmaine

Hi Princess

OH said to be this morning I should pretent I'm going to a luxury hotel!!! My response was 'yeah one with sharp needles and scalpels'!! He's a bit of a card and has had me in stitches with some of his comments. I've cheered up a bit.

Generally I am a positive person - I think I must have some excess tears and they just need to tumble out!!!!

Thanks for your advice and positivity vibes - I can feel them in Hampshire!!!!

Sharmaine

princess01 wrote:

Please don't be cross with yourself, it's perfectly normal to be scared. Just keep reminding yourself that you're in good hands and think how different your life is going to be when you're back on your feet. We're all thinking of you and wishing you all the best.

You'll be fine. I shall send you some of my extra special positivity vibes.

Take care. x

dachshund

Hi Sharmaine.
i was worried when i had that opp but there was no need.it wa so nice not to have the pain any more.i had a epidural is that what you are having.
good luck and try not to worry. joan xx

lindalegs

Hi Sharmaine,

I got quite depressed and cried alot some weeks before my operation, on reflection, I think I was mourning a bit of my body that was off to pastures new .....does that sound melodramatic, sorry if it does.

When it came to being admitted it was my hubby who was very low and dragged his heels when it came to leaving me on the ward.

Then I had a dip as they wheeled me to the theatre and I cried as they pulled me through the corridors on the trolley. Everyone is scared. You will be fine, I know, and when you're through the other side like we are then you'll be able to reassure others too.

Good luck.

Luv Legs

angel1

Oh Sharmaine, your post brought back so many memories for me regarding my TKR. I was an emotional wreck inside.

I had never had so much as an ache, until not long after my precious husband died. Then Arthur struck with a vengeance in my left knee. A connection? Absolutely, in my opinion. I firmly believe that emotional pain manifests itself in physical pain. However, I carried on for five long years, hardly able to walk in the end, and worrying my two son`s to death. I knew, though, that it wasn`t the right time, and that I would know when it was.

Like you, when the morning of the op came, as I said, I was an emotional wreck, but I am proud of the fact that I was also totally positive, secure in the knowledge that it was now the right time, and that all would be well. And, as you know, IT WAS. I now walk as well as I ever did, and I`m convinced you will too, eventually.

Always remember that anyone who is lucky enough to have a long, loving relationship, and a home that they love, will feel bereft when they have to leave that comfort zone, albeit just for a short while. Sustain yourself, thinking of the pleasure of returning, with a painfree future to look forward to. I send you every best wish Sharmaine, and will think of you tomorrow.......Ange.

nearlybionic

Hi Sharmaine
It is completely normal and understandable to be emotional today. I was very emotional before my THR ( and before the op that wasn`t!!) . Today, and waiting is the worst part. Honestly, the op is not as bad as you are imagining. It is the first step towards getting a bit of your life back, painfree!!
Once you have had your anaesthetic, just think lovely positive thoughts and have lovely dreams xx If it is anything like my day for THR I was there at 7am, seen by nurses and docs and going to anaesthetic room at 8am, no time to worry about anything.
The painrelief afterwards is great and makes it all manageable. Just think, next weekend, you will be a new woman !!
I will be thinking of you tomorrow ((((((hugs))))))
NB

sharmaine

Dear Dolittle

Thanks fo rthe hugs. I read your post to my husband, Carl, and we laughed - he then offered his cheek for the kiss. By BP seems to be always high.

I'm sure your OH wouldn't treat you that way....! Go on get your ankle done!!!

Sharmaine
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quote="dolittle"]Hi Sharmaine,
Just to give you some (((hugs)))). I'm sure I'm making excuses, putting mine off ... 'cos I'm too much of a coward to get my ankle done! I think if anyone said one unkind word to me I'd spend the whole time in tears with my BP round the ceiling. So I would be feeling exactly the same as you, if it were me. And my hubby wouldn't think about trying to make me laugh - he'd be too concerned about where to park the car!! Then he'd ditch me in the ward as quick as possible, in case he got clamped. So... how lucky you are to have yours ... go on... give him a little kiss.

Soon be over now - will be thinking about you.
Luv
Dolittle[/quote]

sharmaine

Dear NB
Thanks so much. You must have so disappointed to have yours cancelled. I'll be fine I'm sure. I'm fairly chilled now and I hope I remain so.

Take care.
Sharmaine

quote="nearlybionic"]Hi Sharmaine
It is completely normal and understandable to be emotional today. I was very emotional before my THR ( and before the op that wasn`t!!) . Today, and waiting is the worst part. Honestly, the op is not as bad as you are imagining. It is the first step towards getting a bit of your life back, painfree!!
Once you have had your anaesthetic, just think lovely positive thoughts and have lovely dreams xx If it is anything like my day for THR I was there at 7am, seen by nurses and docs and going to anaesthetic room at 8am, no time to worry about anything.
The painrelief afterwards is great and makes it all manageable. Just think, next weekend, you will be a new woman !!
I will be thinking of you tomorrow ((((((hugs))))))
NB[/quote]

barbara12

Hello Sharmaine,
Sorry I have only just seen your post, can I send lots of hugs (((((((((())))))))))) like Elna says think ahead you will be home in know time...then hubby can pamper you.
Take care
Love
Barbara xx

skezier

Hi Sharmaine,

It really isn't surprising your feeling a bit emotional but you will soon be home and fingers crossed with so much less pain. Be thinking of you. ((( ))) Cris x

dorcas

Hi Sharmaine!

just read your post and wanted to send you lots of hugs for tomorrow!

It's perfectly natural to be anxious!....and you would be an exception if you didn't feel this way......
I've always had a bit of the jitters before going in for an op; it's the waiting that does it!. Just keep telling yourself that the end result is going to be so worthwhile!

I'm sure you will be just fine once you're there....and before you know it you'll be back home and being fussed over and pampered by Carl (he'll have to do that, as we'll all know if he doesn't!!)

We'll all be thinking about you and sending you positive vibes!.

Post when you get home and let us know how you are doing. Irisx