visitors and their unruly kids

tkachev · 4. Apr 2010, 09:31

Just been told friends and their whirlwind kids are on their way. All the chasing around is left to me and their mum, but mostly me as it is my home I suppose. Blokes ignore it all and chill out...smoke, drink.
I have just finished hoovering and some ironing and clearing up and I am feeling tired but now I have got to start all over again.They draw on the walls,carpet so all pens need to be hidden they even climb into the loft. They never take their shoes off after being in the garden.
I am so not looking forward to this...
Elizabeth

snowball · 4. Apr 2010, 09:52

You should have done what i have done, must say i was a little bit norty my eldes brother rang and said he was comming with his 3 boys to my house for dinner as his wife was working :shock: so i told him i had an infection and it was catching and was not doing a dinner, i would be in bed all day. So he has gone to our mums instead :oops: sorry mum.
I'm too tired to have kids running around, does that make me bad :?:

Julie

dorcas · 4. Apr 2010, 09:53

Oh that is just not fair! :x

What age are these kids?...drawing on walls and carpets indeed..what are their parents thinking of allowing them to behave that way :shock: :roll: and I don't see why you should have all the work to do either.

What a way to spend your Easter......x

let us know what happens if you have the energy after they've gone.

Iris x

barbara12 · 4. Apr 2010, 10:03

Hi Elizebeth
This is me and one of my neighbours, she is lovely, but doesn't seem to understand that I cant run round after her kids.
When I know they are coming I have to move everything , and I mean everything, the trouble is sometimes sshe just calls in with them, and they are like a whirlwind.
I have always loved having kids round, my grandchildren bring there friends, it is just the young ones now, I haven't the energy.
Good luck
Barbara xx

ninakang · 4. Apr 2010, 11:54

If my kids behaved like that, I wouldn't take them anywhere out of shame! How rude to treat someone else's home like that! I'm sorry but I have 3 kids aged 11, nearly 8 and 6 and they have never and wouldn't dream of acting like that in our house, let alone anyone else's! When they have misbehaved at someone's house (usually just running about etc), we have sat them down when we got home and told them their behaviour is unacceptable and they have something taken away from them for a while as a punishment. They have also received a reminder of it when we take them out again of what will happen again if they misbehave.

Just ask Joan, they behaved impeccably at her house when we visited her and her hubby!

Nx

tkachev · 4. Apr 2010, 12:45

Visit over. Toys everywhere!

I dont want to turn into an old grump but I have to hide lots of things and loads of toys came down into the front room to keep them in one place where I could keep an eye. It is the going up/down stairs that causes a lot of probs.Even so my ankle is throbbing terribly.But no damage done to the house this time that I am aware of.
Thanks for your support.You know where i am coming from.
Elizabeth

ninakang · 4. Apr 2010, 12:57

Glad you survived the visit - next time, draw all the curtains, switch off the lights and hide behind the sofa!

Nx

katekelly · 4. Apr 2010, 16:04

I'm with Nina on this one!!! Or just declare the plague!!!

tkachev · 5. Apr 2010, 05:06

It is the men who ring each other so I just get told they are coming over.There have been times that I have stayed in bed as I have really been ill.But the house has been trashed so I would rather be around to keep an eye.
They live in Wales but have relatives here that they visit often so visit us at the same time.
I will get OH to put the toys away.I had a rough night with my ankle flaring badly so will need to take it easy today.
Best wishes
Elizabeth

dorcas · 5. Apr 2010, 05:47

pixyandfaries wrote:

mmmm ya need to slap hubby around a bit hunny !

These MEN. :roll: give 'im a slap from me too. :!: what was he thinking about :?:
just you take it easy today Elizabeth and let hubby run after you....and keep telling him why you're laid up today so he'll may be think twice next time before inviting the raging hordes!.

love and gentle (((hugs))). take care and hope you're not suffering too much.
Iris x

only49 · 5. Apr 2010, 06:08

hi elizabeth hope your feeling better, its really not very nice when people dont stop and think is it

how would there perents like it if your kids behaved that way in there house, my sons teacher thought it would be a good idea for my sons friends at school to get visit each other during the easter holidays and i told her no, simply because as i am the only driver in our family it would be left to me to ferry my son about and i dont know the other perents so i just put myself first sometimes you have too.

sylvia

valval · 5. Apr 2010, 06:35

sorry my house my rules if they do behave then they do not visit you do not need the extra work never let my lads run wild in other peoples houses they always tidyed up before leaving it only good manners. and tell oh if he invites them he can tidy up after them if they can not control there children

tkachev · 5. Apr 2010, 07:00

You lot are brill.
I intend to make the most of it dont wory but I am trying to rest my ankle.

Elizabeth

valval · 5. Apr 2010, 07:36

yes hate bad manners and letting your kids run wild is very bad manners . would take whole van full to theres and see how they like it used to take ours to a play ground before visiting to get rid of excess energy

tkachev · 5. Apr 2010, 07:56

Hi Val,
i do agree with you but I dont have much stamina for a fight.This has been an ongoing problem for years now with me getting upset about their arrival and OH saying he will take over and clear up but it never happens. I know one of kids has issues and is hyper and so have sympathy. It is just thay dont seem to realise how painful my joints can get.As many of you are aware you can be walking fine and then it all kicks in.I had a rubbish night and had to use 2 crutches to get to the loo. It seems I have to suffer for others fun and socialising.
If I had had warning I could have taken your advice sooner but as usual I get told at the last minute.
Elizabeth

bubbles · 5. Apr 2010, 20:27

Firstly it would be a visit that was well announced and only if convenient and if we didn't have an unidentifiable virus that was easily caught by Children.

Fortunately, our neices and nephews, the youngest ones, are boystrous, but they knew if a pen went near a wall, I would have a fit and need reviving, as soon as I had sent them on their way. Our house, our neat and tidy spotless house, no mess, no shoes on carpets. Adults know the rules and adults are responsible for their offspring. If they visit and get a bit noisy, I potter in the kitchen and make it known that I am not best pleased by the racket. Loud noise and arthur are not good companions I find.

The older neice and nephew are well into their 20's so they are always off into town and do their own thing. When they visit, they sit quiet and daren't move. Lol.

Glad you got through it, I would have been prostrate.

tkachev · 6. Apr 2010, 03:45

I am glad to report my ankle is much better now.But that was purley because I had a lot of rest afterwards.
My son was drawing on the walls for many years and eventualy got him out of it so repainted the house so I wasnt pleased to find pink marks all over the cream walls.We had new carpets put down and my children were told to look after them so finding felt tip lines on them was very upsetting!It was all after one of the above visits.So now I hide all the pens.But of course it is tiring to tidy up beforehand and afterwards so that is another issue.
Dont think OH is going to listen to me. He never does.Sometimes only the dad does pop round.I will try to make the visits less frequent but they seem to love our house!
One more thing-my mum used to be so miserable when visitors came so I dont want to be like her.I vowed I would be more welcoming.
Thankyou for everyones input.

Eliabeth

tkachev · 6. Apr 2010, 03:47

tkachev wrote:

I am glad to report my ankle is much better now.But that was purley because I had a lot of rest afterwards.
My son was drawing on the walls for many years and eventualy got him out of it so repainted the house so I wasnt pleased to find pink marks all over the cream walls.We had new carpets put down and my children were told to look after them so finding felt tip lines on them was very upsetting!It was all after one of the above visits.So now I hide all the pens.But of course it is tiring to tidy up beforehand and afterwards so that is another issue.
Dont think OH is going to listen to me. He never does.Sometimes only the dad does pop round.I will try to make the visits less frequent but they seem to love our house!
One more thing-my mum used to be so miserable when visitors came so I dont want to be like her.I vowed I would be more welcoming.
Thankyou for everyones input
Elizabeth

valval · 6. Apr 2010, 03:57

well do not think you could be miserable have always let lads paint and make a mess never worried me it was our house and so did not keep it perfect knowing that there is time when they have grown to have things neat and tidy but would never let them run wild in some one elses house oldest was hyper when has e numbers so do know how hard it can be but naughty is naughty and they should show you respect.
i am sure they love to visit you but tell them although you love having them they will have to watch the children better as you can not cope with all the extra work and stress it making you ill we all know stress makes arther flare and your oh being selfish as well saying he will help then leaving you to it

visitors and their unruly kids

Comments

Categories