I've just started crying on the phone to Rheumy Nurse....

pols090607
pols090607 Bots Posts: 126
edited 12. Apr 2010, 15:37 in Living with Arthritis archive
.... :roll: I feel ashamed !!!

Basically, have just rang Rheumy nurse to see what they can do due to me feeling absolutley bloody awful at the moment. I'm not due an appt til June and I just can't wait that long. Things feel as though they are just getting worse for me and after much deliberation I have decided to take the plunge and try methotrexate.

She was absolutley lovely and has squeezed me an appointment in for next Thursday where she said she can have a chat also with the main consultant regarding my meds and also she will give me another steriod injection.

Please tell me I'm not alone in crying !!!! Why can't I just be strong about it all :? without getting myself all upset !

Anyway, I would like to thank everyone on here for posting on the 'Methotrexate' thread as it has given me a really positive outlook on trying this drug.

I will keep you posted on my progress and thank you all again. Don't know what I'd do without this forum xxxxx

Comments

  • elnafinn
    elnafinn Member Posts: 7,412
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi!

    I think you did the best thing possible both for yourself and the nurse when you began to cry on the phone. Amazing what that does with the medics. I remember years ago I burst out crying at the docs and she asked me if there was something much more going on ie marital and I said no, but I have had flu, not slept for days and have two babes to look after and I was feeling desperate. She said is there anyone at home who can look after the children. I said yes, she said wait a moment, she rushed out, came back with some pills. She said take these and go to bed. Wow, what a difference those pills made to me!
    Well worth being yourself, my lovely, if you cry, there is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of at all. There was another time too, with the tears at the docs and he remembered because at the next visit he said "you are a much happier bunny this time". I was!

    I hope you feel much better, for having a cry and getting a much, much earlier appointment. :)

    Let us know how you get on.

    Luv
    Elna x
    The happiest people don't have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything.

    If you can lay down at night knowing in your heart that you made someone's day just a little bit better, you know you had a good day.
  • speedalong
    speedalong Member Posts: 3,315
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Pols,

    I'm sure the Rhumy nurse would be crying too in your shoes!! The worst thing is to bottle it up - that would be even worse.
    AND the rhumy nurse has squeezed you in!!

    I'm not one to cry in public, but did cry at the docs recently ... I'd just been told at the start of the week that I couldn't have a certain special op in Bristol as my OA had come back with a vengeance .... and I couldn't bear the thought of rejoining the queue at our local hopsital ...The GP handed my a box of tissues, said she could see how anxious I was and she would sort me out an appointment there and then whilst I waited ... (story in a nutshell.)

    Speedalong
    I have had OA since mid twenties. It affects my hips and knees. I had a THR on the left aged 30 and now have a resurface-replacement on the right - done May 2010.
  • dachshund
    dachshund Member Posts: 9,139
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi pols.
    dont worry about crying it can let the doc know
    that you are at the end of your tether and you cannot take any more.
    and arther makes you feel like that,
    it also happens when you are worried.
    joan xx
    take care
    joan xx
  • topgirl
    topgirl Member Posts: 290
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Me too :shock:
    I have cried a few times to my Rumy nurse.......
    Its the best thing to do ....they know what pain ur in and the impact it has on our lives.....
    Hope the mtx helps you...and if you ever feel that low again ....post on here......we all help each other.....
    xxx
  • caprica
    caprica Member Posts: 195
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    I wouldnt worry about crying. Ive cried every single time I've gone to see my GP since the arthritis started in December. I think he thinks I'm a loony. lol
    It's such an emotional rollercoaster, you have no reason to feel embarassed about it. I hope your appointment goes well!!
  • dorcas
    dorcas Member Posts: 3,516
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Don't feel embarrassed or ashamed!

    We all at some time have just got to the point where the frustration and pain of coping with arther literally 'spills out'. :wink:

    For me it was at a rheummy appointment last November; there had been so much happening in my private life & at work and arther was having a field day. I was holding things together until the consultant gave me that 'sympathetic look' ...you know the one I mean when they sit beside you, take your hand and are just too kind!....'gulp'... that was it and I bubbled like a baby. :!:

    so you are definitely not alone! anyway don't they say that crying is a great stress reliever? so you were really doing your heart a favour!!

    good luck with the appointment...hope you get some relief from rotten old arther.
    Iris x
  • salamander
    salamander Member Posts: 1,906
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    I cried through the entire first appointment with my rheumy nurse! I just did not want to be there, did not want to admit I had anything wrong with me and did not want to start methotrexate. You're not alone, it is a very emotional thing to take on board. Don't underestimate it. Also, the arthritis can make you feel very vulnerable in any case. Good luck with the mtx.
  • speedalong
    speedalong Member Posts: 3,315
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Iris, I so know that look.
    I was holding things together until the consultant gave me that 'sympathetic look' ..

    Sometimes my colleagues & friends have it when asking how S is doing or how I am. If I'm holding it together (especially at work) I warn them I'll be fine as long as they aren't nice to me today ... I really mean don't give me the sympathy look or I'll blubber.

    Speedalong
    I have had OA since mid twenties. It affects my hips and knees. I had a THR on the left aged 30 and now have a resurface-replacement on the right - done May 2010.
  • jenzie06
    jenzie06 Member Posts: 708
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    I've cried on the phone to the rheumy receptionist and rheumy nurse! Actually I think I howled 'I don't know what to do' after the receptionist said the nurse was busy and I had to wait. She soon rushed off and I spoke to the nurse.

    Its very easy to go in to appts and say everything is ok. I think its a good thing as the docs then realise that its not always easy to smile.
  • valval
    valval Member Posts: 14,911
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    hi been there done that let things build up till they get real bad then end up in tears stupid i know but always think it will get better lol
    val
  • psyart
    psyart Member Posts: 600
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    hi - think you are brave to ring - i couldnt do that so emailed my rhummy nutse as was afraid i would cry!!!! think they must be use to it and thank goodness the nurse got you in!! let us know how you do!!

    i got a reply bout my appointment - next friday thank goodness!!

    good luck and remember to take a list of questions with you.

    hugs to try and make you feel better ((((()))))

    Louise xx
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  • kerrycc
    kerrycc Member Posts: 89
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    I've cried in the doctors surgery when just going for something simple! :oops: Your not the first and i'm certain you won't be the last. They have seen it all before, try not to worry. xx
  • tkachev
    tkachev Member Posts: 8,332
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    You are not alone.I was in floods once as I hobbled into physio for an appointment but it is just how I felt at the time.I am not going to pretend all is fine when its not.How else will they know how awful all this can be?

    Best wishes
    Elizabeth
    Never be bullied into silence.
    Never allow yourself to be made a victim.
    Accept no ones definition of your life

    Define yourself........

    Harvey Fierstein
  • page35
    page35 Member Posts: 1,081
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi
    Like the others ive cryed at lots of different appointments, i think its just when you start to say out load what you feel like it just all comes out.
    Glad you got an earlier appointment and good luck with the metho (i take it and it has helped me :D )
    best wishes
    Sharon
  • happymegs
    happymegs Member Posts: 27
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi it's true about crying in front of docs, they do take you more seriously than when you go in all polite and reserved. As someone said it's the British thing. It's happened twice now and neither time was to do with myself, was worried about husband, I think I will try to show my fears and pain next time i'm in docs so they can see I'm serious.

    Take care and keep strong.
  • pols090607
    pols090607 Bots Posts: 126
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Thank you all for such lovely replies and it's so good to know that I am not alone !

    I am trying to think positivley at the moment, hopefully on Thursday I'll have the steroid which will help immensley (usually does) and take it from there with the MTX, or whatever I end up getting.

    Think as I have 2 young girls to look after and I'm only 35 somedays (esp PMT time) I don't cope well.

    Thanks again xxxxxx
  • livinglegend
    livinglegend Member Posts: 1,425
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    pols090607 wrote:
    .... :roll: I feel ashamed !!!
    Having a good cry is good for you and I am sure that you will feel much better for it. Nothing to be ashamed of as far as I can see, we all have a good wail at times.

    Joseph 8)
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