son going to hospital

only49
only49 Member Posts: 1,207
edited 9. May 2010, 11:13 in Community Chit-chat archive
hello

Duncan going into hospital on Monday to have his bad tooth out. he seems OK about it at the moment about it, its going to be a long day that day got to be in there for 7.45 am so early start and long day.

if i am honest i not looking forward to it, i think he be OK as long as he understand what going to happen, both me and hubby going to be there with him.

we already talked about it, and i explained that he will be able to have his supper the night before but no breakfast and he wasnt happy about it, so the only thing i could think of to say to him is you either keep having toothache and have breakfast or dont have breakfast and get rid of the sore tooth, as usaual he made a fuss and i got through it the best way i can and after a while he decided it would be ok to have no breakfast. never easy with him but he get there eventually

sylvia
sylvia :)stern02.gif

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  • tkachev
    tkachev Member Posts: 8,332
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Oh Sylvia,

    My son had to have 3 out a few years back even though they were 1st teeth. He had to be knocked out. I still cry when I think about it as he was so frightened and he didnt realise what was happening. They had to put the mask over his face and he looked terrified and appealing to me to help him.We tried to explain before hand, showed him pictures and all that but he just didnt grasp it.
    He recently had a toy removed from his ear and he was as good as gold cos he remembered last time.
    Your son is older and everyone on here will be around to support you like they did for me.
    Elizabeth
    Never be bullied into silence.
    Never allow yourself to be made a victim.
    Accept no ones definition of your life

    Define yourself........

    Harvey Fierstein
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    It's a frightening thing for any child to face. Does he have other difficulties too? If so that makes it doubly difficult to explain. I hope it goes well for all of you. Keep us informed. Dreamdaisy
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • only49
    only49 Member Posts: 1,207
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    dreamdaisy wrote:
    It's a frightening thing for any child to face. Does he have other difficulties too? If so that makes it doubly difficult to explain. I hope it goes well for all of you. Keep us informed. Dreamdaisy
    yes he autistic if you seen that program thats been on during the last monday nights at 9pm you see what i mean, on this program they were trying to get these autistic kids to put a show on, i bet that wasnt easy for the people far from it it bet.
    sylvia :)stern02.gif
  • barbara12
    barbara12 Member Posts: 21,281
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Syvia
    What a lovely mum you are, it is hard explaining to children what is going on, there little minds run riot with the information, but it must be doubly hard when they are autistic, I am sure everything will be fine.
    You keep us updated then we know how he got on.
    You take care
    Love
    Barbara xx
    Love
    Barbara
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Oh, I see. Yes I know about autism. I have an Asperger's cousin and I have taught a couple of high-functioning autistic boys. I have also read quite a bit about it and seen a few documentaries. If Duncan likes structure and routine then yes, it's going to be a long day. We'll be thinking of you. DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • only49
    only49 Member Posts: 1,207
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    barbara12 wrote:
    Hi Syvia
    What a lovely mum you are, it is hard explaining to children what is going on, there little minds run riot with the information, but it must be doubly hard when they are autistic, I am sure everything will be fine.
    You keep us updated then we know how he got on.
    You take care
    Love
    Barbara xx
    i am and thanks for being such a kind person, :) no all i got to do is sort out my sons school i be even happier, there is nothing i wont go through for him, he means that much to me.
    sylvia :)stern02.gif
  • only49
    only49 Member Posts: 1,207
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    dreamdaisy wrote:
    Oh, I see. Yes I know about autism. I have an Asperger's cousin and I have taught a couple of high-functioning autistic boys. I have also read quite a bit about it and seen a few documentaries. If Duncan likes structure and routine then yes, it's going to be a long day. We'll be thinking of you. DD
    well if the speed this year gone on so far then before i know it it will be all over and done with, and i will keep you informed
    sylvia :)stern02.gif
  • snowball
    snowball Member Posts: 3,465
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Good luck Sylvia, my youngest nephew is autistic and my sister in law found a lovely dentist that treated autistic children and adults, only problem it was in another town. Don't know how they would explain it to him if he had to go into hospital to have one out.
    I will be thinking of you and your son, please let us know how you get on.

    Julie x
    ((((hugs)))) n xxxxx to ya all
  • dorcas
    dorcas Member Posts: 3,516
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi sylvia,

    hope all goes well and that Duncan copes with his dental treatement.
    please let us know how he gets on. :wink:

    love and (((hugs)))

    Iris x
  • frogmorton
    frogmorton Member Posts: 29,822
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Oh Sylvia

    poor you :(

    Por lad too :(

    You know it is for the best I know but dont you feel cruel??

    Log on when you can - we will be here wishing you all well and crossing anything we can for you all

    Take care

    Love

    Toni xx
  • mike77
    mike77 Member Posts: 879
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi, I hope everything goes well for your son my son was 11 when he had to go in for his operation to cut his tendons , he was terrifed but I sat him down and told him what was going to happen , he said ok as long as you come with me . So me and my wife Hazel stayed with him on til he came home , he was able to go to school ( he did not like that , he is very very nervous as he has to go later this year for a another operation to correct his foot and even tho he is 15 now he is still scared , he also has a squint that needs an operation but as he can say if its to go ahead or not ( I would have it done stright away)but mike Jr wants to wait until it annoys him ( see he is wise .

    All the best to your son

    Mike R & Hazel &Mike JR
    Mike R & Hazel & MikeJR
  • skezier
    skezier Member Posts: 11,333
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Sylvia,

    Oh that's not so easy for you either I should think? I am glad Duncan seems ok with it and sending a shed load of hope and a ((( ))) to you. Cris x
  • only49
    only49 Member Posts: 1,207
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    hello

    it must just me but i starting to get a bit nervous about what my son going through in the morning, i spoke to him about it and reminded him after tonight he cant have anything to eat and drink and he seemed fine about it, i hope it continues in the same manner, maybe its just me oh well a good mum always worries about her kids, i love this forum i can be myself, and share thease things here, because i do tend tp try and keep how i feeling from my son so he dont pick up how i feeling, and i know i got to do that.

    for example when we away from home overnight on holiday he gets really bothered by it and i know it only too well, so i keep it to myself and take it as it comes and when he goes to bed i then relax, the things you do for your kids and they are the important ones.
    sylvia :)stern02.gif
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Just a quick post to say hello. It must all be revolving in your mind today: this is the worst part. Come tomorrow it will be underway and that will bring its own relief.

    We'll be thinking of you and keeping our fingers crossed that it all goes smoothly and D doesn't become too stressed by it. Take care and let us know how it goes (as if you wouldn't!) Dreamdaisy
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • tkachev
    tkachev Member Posts: 8,332
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Sylvia,
    I sounds like he understands what is happening and is okay with it.Reassure him you will be with him until he goes to sleep and there when he wakes up.
    I was absolutely terrified last time son went in as previous hosp visit was teeth removal and he was upset by it all. He is reasonably verbal but all our autistic children have other issues to deal with-change,noise,lack of understanding,unfamiliar places.OH took him last time as someone had to be around for other children to-and-from school.That made me feel worse.
    Have you got anything special to take with him? or maybe a reward for after.My son wanted a McD of all things.
    Let us know how you get on Sylvia.You have got to be brave for his sake, then you can collapse afterwards!
    Take care
    Elizabeth
    Never be bullied into silence.
    Never allow yourself to be made a victim.
    Accept no ones definition of your life

    Define yourself........

    Harvey Fierstein
  • only49
    only49 Member Posts: 1,207
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    tkachev wrote:
    Hi Sylvia,
    I sounds like he understands what is happening and is okay with it.Reassure him you will be with him until he goes to sleep and there when he wakes up.
    I was absolutely terrified last time son went in as previous hosp visit was teeth removal and he was upset by it all. He is reasonably verbal but all our autistic children have other issues to deal with-change,noise,lack of understanding,unfamiliar places.OH took him last time as someone had to be around for other children to-and-from school.That made me feel worse.
    Have you got anything special to take with him? or maybe a reward for after.My son wanted a McD of all things.
    Let us know how you get on Sylvia.You have got to be brave for his sake, then you can collapse afterwards!
    Take care
    Elizabeth
    well that just shows how good i am with him ( i know gonna be getting a big head lol ) he takeing some dvds and thomas cd's and his dvd player with him there no good at the patients bit. i dont think ever will me heh he his fathers son, dad the sort of guy that dont like looking round shops, just go for what you need and straight home, us ladys like window shopping.
    sylvia :)stern02.gif