Oh to be normal.

wendgro
wendgro Member Posts: 296
edited 20. May 2010, 17:36 in Living with Arthritis archive
What is normal 5 years ago I had 4 jobs and was very happy with my life. Caravan holidays days out my lovely jobs of course my family. Now since the arrival of ARTHUR my body has been invaded with new hip and knee wrist is waiting for inplant the other hip as well. Daughter got divorced grandaughter has grown up adopted daughter got separated sold the caravan husband 's eyessight failing fast with diabetes. Next doors house burnt down cat suffering with arthritis and is very old had to give up all my jobs. Bumped our new car Life is going well how say you all :lol:

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  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    If you have health, you have everything you need for a happy, fulfiling and successful life. You can aim as high or as low as you want, you will ge there.

    If you don't have health, you still have everything you need for a happy, fulfilling and successful life. You just have to alter the level of the aims and achievements and learn to take pleasure in the simpler things.

    If you have to worry, worry about the things you can control and alter. Dreamdaisy
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • elnafinn
    elnafinn Member Posts: 7,412
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Five years ago my life was very different too but I cannot say that I do not like my "different" life. Yes, things have changed, there has been good and bad, but other things have come into my life and I feel ok and quite mellow about it. Things that used to worry me, do not now.I feel calmer on the whole. I am lucky and am very grateful how things have turned out so far and I do sympathise with others where their life has not faired well.

    Anyway, what is normal? :lol:

    Luv
    Elna x
    The happiest people don't have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything.

    If you can lay down at night knowing in your heart that you made someone's day just a little bit better, you know you had a good day.
  • sharmaine
    sharmaine Member Posts: 1,638
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Oh Wendgro!

    It sounds like a catalogue of disasters! Sorry to hear about arthur being a nuisance; your hubby's eyesight, the next door neighbour and your daughter's separation/divorce.

    You'll be able to enjoy other holidays - they may just be a bit different from caravaning.

    Arthur is a big pain in the butt.

    Fingers crossed that the future holds nicer things for you.

    Sharmaine

    wendgro wrote:
    What is normal 5 years ago I had 4 jobs and was very happy with my life. Caravan holidays days out my lovely jobs of course my family. Now since the arrival of ARTHUR my body has been invaded with new hip and knee wrist is waiting for inplant the other hip as well. Daughter got divorced grandaughter has grown up adopted daughter got separated sold the caravan husband 's eyessight failing fast with diabetes. Next doors house burnt down cat suffering with arthritis and is very old had to give up all my jobs. Bumped our new car Life is going well how say you all :lol:
  • lindalegs
    lindalegs Member Posts: 5,396
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Wendgro,

    Yes, you've had a run of disasters but alot of those would have happened even if you didn't have arthritis. :|

    Wonderful things still happen too :D ....that's what I've found ....it's just life. :roll:

    I hope your run of bad luck changes soon.

    Luv Legs :)
    Love, Legs x
    'Make a life out of what you have, not what you're missing'
  • frogmorton
    frogmorton Member Posts: 29,883
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi wend

    What is normal - not me!! never was :wink:

    I do think you have had a rough time of it reallly rough and a lot has changed/gone wrong, but some of it would have happened anyway? such as puss getting older - poor thing and most likely pranging the car :?

    Now what you need is an 'up' times a load of Good stuff to happen.

    Take care

    Love

    Toni xx
  • elnafinn
    elnafinn Member Posts: 7,412
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Wendgro,

    On thinking about your posting, when I was pottering in the garden, I can list quite a few very negative things that have happened in the last 5 years but I am sure I could make my list of positives, longer. I hope you too can find some positives if you think again.

    Luv
    Elna x
    The happiest people don't have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything.

    If you can lay down at night knowing in your heart that you made someone's day just a little bit better, you know you had a good day.
  • only49
    only49 Member Posts: 1,207
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    hello

    what is normal thats what i would like to know, forgoten what it must be like to have pain free knees also stated noticing how people can do things that i cant. oh well maybe that is what normal is for me.
    sylvia :)stern02.gif
  • skezier
    skezier Member Posts: 11,333
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Wendy,

    Oh flower you mustn't dwell on what was....... even without your conditions! I so agree with the others things happen regardless of whats wrong with you but when you have something impacting on your life you tend to shovel all the blame on it.

    Like Legs I have had my arthritis over half my life and have still lived ad in my own way been happy....... I think Leg also would agree you find a way through and come to terms with the conditions as you travel the route of life and then, well then it get easier.

    I believe so much in keeping mobile, push the invader about bit cus it deserves it so much... that and scat with a pounder as that's what it does to me :wink: I know I have only kept so mobile cus of muscles and well I so wish I could tell you how to get 'at peace' with your condition but I know you will get there.

    Hang in their and look forward to a lie maybe different to the one you had planned but it will still be your life and you will be ok. Luv and a ((( ))) Cris xx
  • chrissie691
    chrissie691 Member Posts: 50
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    I know you've had a pretty tough time but try not to link everything together. That's what I've done in the past and then you can spiral downwards. A lot of things happen not because of the arthur but of course it's coping with the arthur on top of everything that's tough.

    It's understandable that you are down but I hope you pick up soon and see that not everything is negative and I bet you turn the corner real soon.

    Sorry if I'm rambling!

    Luv and hugs
    Chrissie xxx

    wendgro wrote:
    What is normal 5 years ago I had 4 jobs and was very happy with my life. Caravan holidays days out my lovely jobs of course my family. Now since the arrival of ARTHUR my body has been invaded with new hip and knee wrist is waiting for inplant the other hip as well. Daughter got divorced grandaughter has grown up adopted daughter got separated sold the caravan husband 's eyessight failing fast with diabetes. Next doors house burnt down cat suffering with arthritis and is very old had to give up all my jobs. Bumped our new car Life is going well how say you all :lol:
  • efleure
    efleure Member Posts: 139
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi all and Wendgro. Five years ago, I had a husband who worked non-stop to provide for me and our daughters, an ex-husband who was lovely and became a second dad to my girls, a wonderful brother who had just moved to Cumbria to start a new life with his babies. I was pain-free, and disgustingly ungrateful and blase about all this luck...now, my husband died of a sudden heart attack, my brother of a brain bleed, and my ex of cancer. Because I had to take on 7 cleaning jobs to feed my girls, I made my undiagnosed hip( congenital dysplasia) so much worse, so that I need a thr this July, without realising the harm I was doing. I had no choice. But, despite this, I look at my girls who laugh and act silly, and who sometimes still cry, and I think of the poor men in my family, and what they went through, and I realise how truly lucky I still am....hope you're feeling happier....and hope happier times are ahead for us all..x
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Being pain-free and having a wonderful life has nothing to do with luck, it's reality for many.

    Being riddled with pain and struggling with every moment of life isn't unlucky, it's reality for many.

    Luck and fairness are ideals that do not exist. Balance and equality, maybe, but fairness? It's a ludicrous concept, one amongst many of the ludicrous concepts that man creates. Why do we waste so much time chasing fairness and/or mourning what we perceive as its loss? Dreamdaisy
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • hileena111
    hileena111 Member Posts: 7,099
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi
    You seem to have had a lot happen all at once but like others have said it would have happened regardless of arthur.
    I'm just trying to get back into the swing of going on caravan holidays again....a tourer....not a posh static with a bed....just a setee that converts into a hard bed LOL. Had my first weekend away in it last weekend since I had my hip replacement and it went OK.....due to go to see the surgeon in 2 weeks time to see about the other hip being replaced.
    I know you dont want to hear all that but you will cope, you'll just be doing things differently and sit down and list the positives and negatives and see which list is longer
    Take care anyway pet
    Love
    Hileena