Feeling very sorry for myself

cthornley
cthornley Member Posts: 627
edited 11. Jun 2010, 14:29 in Living with Arthritis archive
Feeling very sorry for myself
As some of you know last week I had a nasty fall and smashed my knee on concrete
It has been causing me agony and hasn’t got better if anything its worse, husband is going to have a look at it for me (he’s a dr, so not sympathetic in any way but should be able to tell me if I’ve done anything serious)when he gets back from his conference and I have a hospital appointment next week
If that wasn’t bad enough as from mid morning today I am having a flare ...only just coping mainly because I have no choice
I am currently sitting at work trying not to cry, staying here is the lesser of 2 evils,
if I go home I have to pick my active toddler up from nursery and I don’t have the energy or any pain threshold left to cope with the inevitable tantrum about getting in the car seat or chasing him out of trouble or even picking him up and sorting out his dinner
If I stay here at least nursery will be able to play with him and they will feed him tea and I will only have to cope with him for a couple of hours before bed
Days like this break my heart :cry:
Sorry don’t mean to moan just need to unload somewhere and don’t really want to cry on any of the lads at work’s shoulders they don’t deal with crying women very well
:roll:
Chrissie

Comments

  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    It was a nasty fall on a very hard surface, no wonder you've done some damage. I posted you yesterday, I think, on your original thread, asking how you were. I am so sorry. Won't you receive even a little sympathy from your husband? Lord knows it's the last thing you need on top of everything else. I cannot offer any remedies or suggestions, though the thought of sedating the little one with some Calpol did cross my mind - not what it's for tho! He/she is at that wonderful-yet-at-the-same-time dreadful age of finding their feet, of becoming more confident, learning what mischief really is and how to wind up mummy to fever pitch. I am sure some people will be along soon who will have some practical and useful ideas. I really hope your knee isn't too badly damaged, but I guess you have done something to it. Thinking of you. Dreamdaisy
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • theresa4
    theresa4 Member Posts: 696
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Why do you have to pick up the little one? If theyre at nursery and you feel so bad why not go home, rest then when its the usual time go pick up your little one. That way you are feeling better able to deal with an energetic child. Is there anyone else who can collect him for you? I know many mums who stay at home off sick from work and still drop their child off at nursery so they can get the rest they need, you need to put yourself first sometimes.

    I can so empathise with your pain I fell yesterday, straight down and hard I am covered in bruises and very sore but no lasting damage it sounds like you need to get yours checked.

    I hope your husband at least is empathic with his patients its a shame he cant extend that to you x

    Love and hugs
    Theresa x
    There are many things in life that will catch your eye, but only a few will catch your heart...pursue those. --Michael Nolan



    Theresa xxx
  • skezier
    skezier Member Posts: 11,333
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Chrissie,

    I really just wanted to send you a hug and say I really hope someone at the nursery will help get your lad into the car seat.

    Its good your hubby will look at it but if its swelling and really painful and he isn't back for a few days get someone else to have a look either gp or minor injuries.

    I know none of this helps with the now.......

    You have proved you have inner strength and it will still be in there flower so hang in there, deep breaths and another ((((( ))))) and so many hopes you are due to finish soon. I do hope it all gets a bit easier for you. Luv Cris xx
  • valval
    valval Member Posts: 14,911
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    hugs for you hope you get some rest you should have gone in the ladies and had a great cry it hard to keep going and sometimes it all to much you had a nasty fall be kind to your self val
    val
  • marion1952
    marion1952 Member Posts: 963
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Chrissie

    I'm sure those guys you work with would be the first to be asking for sympathy if they had had a nasty fall ....

    Only 2 days to go until the weekend.. if you can't last out that long, can you take a day off and, as the others have said, let the nursery look after your little boy during the day tomorrow whilst you rest up and look after yourself?

    Hope you feel better soon.

    Marion x
  • tillytop
    tillytop Member Posts: 3,460
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Just wanted to say so sorry you are having such a horrible time Chrissie and struggling so much with everything. Thinking of you. Love Tilly xxx
  • ironic
    ironic Member Posts: 2,361
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Chrissie,

    Hope you are home and managed better than you thought you would.

    That was such a bad fall you had. I think you did so well just getting through the weekend. Afraid only resting the knee will help.

    Hope tomorrow is a little more comfortable for you.

    Lv, Ix
  • woodbon
    woodbon Member Posts: 4,969
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hello, That sounds like a really nasty fall and you should be at home, if possible. The little one can still go to nursery to give you some rest time can't he? What a shame it happened when your husband was away, I hope he is home soon.

    I hope that you soon feel a bit better and able to cope. Also, things are worse when you havn't got anyone at home.

    Lots of get well wishes, love Sue
  • puffin
    puffin Member Posts: 67
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Chrissie,

    It is late while I am typing this but hope you got as much help as possible with your little one today and can get it again for the rest of the week.

    Just a suggestion
    if you have no cut or other break in the skin of your knee you could use arnica gel/cream while you wait for your appointment. You may know it is used for bruising of skin and underlying tissue and because it is from a plant---the mountain daisy--it should not conflict with any medication.
    I keep a tube of the gel handy because not only is it very cooling and soothing, it does help reduce the bruising.
    Puffin.
  • speedalong
    speedalong Member Posts: 3,315
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Chrissie,

    only just logged on today - if that happens again - leave your little one at nursery - go home and have a sleep. Pick him/her up at the usual time - don't feel guilty - you will be better able to cope for it and your little one will benefit.

    Re your knee - I offer every sympathy - this is something I do fairly regularly - fall heavily on my knee usually on quarry tiles, tarmac, concrete - REALLY hurts, really swells and really bruises. OUCH! The impact also triggers other pains in other joints (OA equiv of a flare ...) I swear by RICE for this - rest, ice, elevate and compression and arnica cream to bring out the bruising. If you ever do this again - and hopefully you wont - get ice on straight away and keep arnica cream on stand by and follow RICE. Ihave played it both ways ... manfully (or should I say womanfully) carrying on and then once the evening of the day I fell S got sick and I had to stay home with him for several days - and I learnt that this meant my leg got better quicker ... as my job is very active and I rested more at home.

    Hope you feel less sore soon,

    Speedy

    PS topical ibroprufen max strength gel will help too - but don't add pressure bandage/tubigrip if using this.
    I have had OA since mid twenties. It affects my hips and knees. I had a THR on the left aged 30 and now have a resurface-replacement on the right - done May 2010.
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    How are things today? Are you feeling OK? Did you get some sleep? I hope things are a little brighter. DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • cthornley
    cthornley Member Posts: 627
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Thanks everybody
    I am doing a little better today, I’m loaded up on painkillers , anti inflammatory, had a good night’s sleep, have a foot rest under my desk and a good emergency supply of chocolate  ooo and somebody has brought me cake at my desk
    My son was actually and very surprisingly very good for me last night and with a little bribery of the sweetie kind, got in his seat on his own
    For once husband listened to my moaning and got an earlier train back so he could help with bed time
    He had a look at the knee and said it looks like I may have done some damage around my kneecap but its probably just a very bruised and swollen tendon in this area
    He said to rest it, avoid knocking it again (hmm because i really wanted to do that in the first place) , not to carry our son about too much and to get them to have another look when I’m at the hospital next week if it’s still hurting.
    Sympathy - My husband is very good with his patients however because he’s a cardiologist he tends to think that anything that isn’t life threatening is ‘making a fuss’ and this generally extends to all illnesses and injuries at home, mind you god help us when he gets a cold!! I’m used to this but it is a bit wearing at times.
    It’s difficult at work I’m the only woman in the professional office (the joys of working in a male dominated profession) – there are 2 female secretaries down stairs but thanks to it being holiday time they aren’t always about. Some of the lads are ok with being a sympathetic shoulder to lean on but none of them were about yesterday and I think the closest extension of sympathy I could have got from the guys who were in yesterday was the offer of a cigarette, great except I gave up 6yrs ago.
    I am only reluctant to go home and leave my son at nursery and come back for him later as the reason we picked it is its close to my work which is vital as the traffic between where we live and where I work is horrendous at the best of times. If I went home I’d get there in time to turn around and come back again to pick him up!
    Sometimes you just can’t win.
    Thanks for the best wishes , Fingers crossed for a better day
    Chrissie
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    I remember being told that doctors and teachers make the worst parents because the attitude is always you're not trying hard enough (teacher) and it's only a little thing (doctor). I suppose a cardiologist wouldn't know much about knees but he should respond to his wife's distress! I'm glad today is a little better, take care, don't rush around (yeah, I know, as if!) and enjoy your cake. DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • frogmorton
    frogmorton Member Posts: 29,896
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Chrissie

    So sorry I missed this yesterday - mind you I cant help really can i? :oops:

    It is so hard with having small ones isnt it? So glad he was a goiod boy for you in the end.

    Glad your hubby did get home early and did take a look. Even if it was in a cardiologist type of way :wink: DD is right Doctors and nusres....I also belive the husbands and wives of hairdressers usually need a haricut too.....me???? i need a good elctrician :(

    The choccy and pain meds will get you through today and I hope the wee one is a s good for you as he was yesterday. there are times when a good DVD and asweetie or two are very very useful.

    Love

    Toni xx
  • tillytop
    tillytop Member Posts: 3,460
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Just popped by to say glad you are having a somewhat better day today.
    Love Tilly x
  • marion1952
    marion1952 Member Posts: 963
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Chrissie

    Hope you had a reasonable day today.. We have a lively little boy of a similar age in our family and the DVD of 'Toy Story 2' and a little box of raisins keeps him quiet! (albeit he has seen it at least 25 times now).

    Marion
  • skezier
    skezier Member Posts: 11,333
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Chrissie,

    Just echoing the hope you had a better day? Soon the week end flower. Hope your knee is ok and feeling less painful.I wonder would strapping it up help for a min? Anyway ((( ))) ad a hope it was a much better day. Cris x

    Hey Marion nothing wrong with watching a kids DVD 35 times..... I kinda know this on first hand :lol::lol::lol::lol: Hope your ok? Cris x
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hello. I hope things are better today and that your knee is improving. DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • speedalong
    speedalong Member Posts: 3,315
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    I remember being told that doctors and teachers make the worst parents because the attitude is always you're not trying hard enough (teacher) and it's only a little thing (doctor).

    Sorry, but this just made me laugh....
    :lol::lol::lol::lol: I think I think this about lots of people ... (not my S of course... ) and my pupils never get a chance to do less than their best - unless there is a damn good reason!!

    Speedy
    I have had OA since mid twenties. It affects my hips and knees. I had a THR on the left aged 30 and now have a resurface-replacement on the right - done May 2010.
  • woodbon
    woodbon Member Posts: 4,969
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi, Sounds as if your husband believes in tough love!!!! Oh, I don't mean anything rude!! I understand your problems with the nursery, I've worked with lots of men, biochemists at Oxford, once I had my office blown up, well a package exploded, animal rights we think. Very, very luckily I was standing in the doorway and explosion set the fire door closed.
    Anyway, someone sent for a medical doc we had who'd gone into research. His reaction. I thought I'd seen my last blast injury when I left Birmingham! Only a slight red mark on my side!!! No sympathy or suggestions for shock except make a cup of tea!

    I'm so glad you are feeling better, and I hope it continues to improve. It sounds a horrible fall, thingking about it makes me feel sick! ohhhh you poor thing. Lots of love Sue