life, death and everything else, wise words!
suziev
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ok, here it is I always thought that in life things happen for a reason, that was my theory however last week I lost a loved one in an accident and now my philosophy has took a beating amd i am starting to think everything maybe random, wrong place, one time and there is no sense to it all.
what I want to know is what is your philosophy in life?
I don't just mean death cos that could send us all spiralling into depression
but your wise people i know you are.
have you got any wise words to help me make sense of the world other then s**t happens!!!
love suzie x
what I want to know is what is your philosophy in life?
I don't just mean death cos that could send us all spiralling into depression
but your wise people i know you are.
have you got any wise words to help me make sense of the world other then s**t happens!!!
love suzie x
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Oh Suzie, I am so sorry that you have lost a loved one. It must have been a terrible shock for you, and I send you my sincere condolences.
I think it is understandable for you to question your philosophy of life. Does everything happen for a reason? I don't know, but bad things happen to everyone. They can make you feel sad and worried, angry and stressed. Life often becomes tough, but learning how to cope is an important skill we all need to have. If life was always perfect then we’d never develop coping skills or learn what makes us feel better. So dealing with one problem can help us learn how to manage other problems as they crop up, as we then know what works for us.
I do believe that people come into our lives for a reason, and in the case of a loved-one, maybe that is the answer. The reason was to bring you love, and to allow you to love in return.
Joan0 -
Hi Susie
Oh I am so so so sorry.
Thsi should not have happend.
No wonder you dont know what to think at the moment - in time you should be able to get your head round it a bit more
Remember you knew that person and they touched YOUR life and probably lots of other people too.
It was NOT a waste :?
Take comfort in those around you who love you.,
Take care
will be thinking of you
Love
Toni xx0 -
Dear Suzie,
I'm so sorry that you've lost a loved one. It just proves the fact that we have to live each and every moment to the best of our ability and not wait for tomorrow.
My thoughts are with you.
Love Linda XXLove, Legs x
'Make a life out of what you have, not what you're missing'0 -
I am so very sorry that you have lost someone you loved, in such tragic circumstances. I know of nothing worse.
No one can give you any answers, you have to search deep within yourself for those. It takes time, lots of time. When the raw grief abates a little, you will work out some answers of your own, but never reasons. That`s far too difficult.
Death inevitably makes us start to question Life, and, sometimes without us even realising it, we change our thinking. We learn to value those that we still have, even more, whilst never forgetting the one we have lost.
Grief is the price we pay for love.........Ange.0 -
Hi Suzie
I am so sorry for your loss, this above anything starts you asking why.
you take care
Love Barbara xxLove
Barbara0 -
thank you ladies for your lovely kind words.
joan when you said
"I do believe that people come into our lives for a reason, and in the case of a loved-one, maybe that is the answer. The reason was to bring you love, and to allow you to love in return"
that makes sense to me, the person i losted was extra special my role model in life them being in my life sent me in the right direction.
linda, your right we do need to live life to the full, we often forget that until something like this happens. life can be all too short.
so hard to get my head around it all but your right one day i will
suzie x0 -
Life is random. You never know what will happen, or when, or where, or to whom. There is no reason behind the events of one's life. We like to think that we control some aspects of our destiny but that is a fallacy. One's life can be turned upside down in a moment. And it very often is.
Don't believe those who say they have answers. They don't, they are just comforting themselves with the thought that they do, that they can explain why things happen. You will work your way through this, and find your own comfort that works for you, in your own time and in your own way. DDHave you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben0 -
dreamdaisy wrote:Life is random. You never know what will happen, or when, or where, or to whom. There is no reason behind the events of one's life. We like to think that we control some aspects of our destiny but that is a fallacy. One's life can be turned upside down in a moment. And it very often is.
Don't believe those who say they have answers. They don't, they are just comforting themselves with the thought that they do, that they can explain why things happen. You will work your way through this, and find your own comfort that works for you, in your own time and in your own way. DD
thank you for your wise words
suzie x0 -
rehab44 wrote:This is my philosophy...
"To laugh often and much,
to win the respect of intelligent people
and the affection of children,
to earn the appreciation of honest critics
and endure the betrayal of false friends,
to appreciate beauty, to find the best in others,
to leave the world a bit better,
whether by a healthy child,
a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition;
to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived.
This is to have succeeded!"
... Ralph Waldo Emerson
If you learn from your suffering, and really come to understand the lesson you were taught, you might be able to help someone else
who's now in the phase you may have just completed.
Maybe that's what it's all about after all...
thank you rehab for your philosophy by mr emerson standards my loved one did indeed succeed and i may well adopt the philosophy myself.
thank you for your wise words
suzie x0 -
I am so sorry for your loss Suzie. There is not a lot more I can add to what has already been said, but am sending you virtual hugs (((())))
Jean and the forum team0 -
Hi Suzie,
I am sorry to read about the loss you have just had. I just wanted to leave you a ((((( ))))) and hope you will find comfort from the memories you will have of them. Cris x0 -
Suzie
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. It must have been a shock to you.
Love Trish xx0
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