SO HURT

rosyred

I Just so hurt at what my daughter has just screamed at me down the phone ..

I no she is preggers and has had a few prob with it ..low b/p.. she is now 28 weeks measuring 34 so on...

Last night she had a row with her hubby over what they were havin for dinner!
I wa shavin oliver my granson over night anyways. so she came to me sobbed her heart out and stayed with my other grandson...

Allw as well she went hone left ollie with me .. Dident mind at all he is as good as gold..
Came back topick him up and we were talking about next monday she has to go and have a blood test done for diabiteis.
Thats fine gunna stay over sunday night so im there to ahve the boys monday morning... Also she havin hall stairs landing carpet laid..

So stupid me said haha yea right leave me with it all , chris can drop u off and come back and help me... well she stormed out and went home... then i rang to se eif she was ok and she blasted me down the phone... STOP DRAGGING ME DPOWN TO UR LEVEL
IM SO HURT AT WHAT SHE SAID I JUST PUT THE PHONE DOWN..now feel like crying screaming and what the hell have i done??

She said she had to stay in hospital all day for this test !! i dont know im so hurt i just want to be left alone now and say **** u amy get a life ucnat keep trating ppl like this .but i cantt as i love her to bits and no she is worrrying about something other than she is letting on.. we will wait n see what happens next i supose But what i do no now is cause im so upset im gunna go into a nice flare and feel so bad tomorrow :oops: x

tkachev

Kids eh! never grateful for the things you do. Can Chris come and help you? Are you staying at daughters house or yours?
Im guessing shes upset by everything-baby, arguements, hospital visits. However you are being asked to do a lot and she really should be more thankful, you not being well yourself. You have a right to ask if you are getting any help.
I expect she will ring you soon when she is calmer
You take care Rose


Eizabeth

dreamdaisy

rosyred, you haven't done anything in the slightest bit wrong.. It does sound as tho she has a lot on her plate at the moment, but then so have you in the past few months and if I recall correctly, she wasn't that supportive. Children (of any age) sometimes find it hard to deal with the fact that their parent/s can be 'unreliable' as they selfishly see it. You are mum: you don't have needs, you don't have a personality, you are not your own woman, you are just mum and you are always supposed to be there.

I am sure she will calm down and realise that she has badly erred. Let her make the first move: you rang her, full of concern, and she hurls abuse at you. It's her turn now to contact you. Go and have a good cry, then a cuppa, and watch some silly telly to try and take your mind off it. (Which I know won't work but I can't think of anything else) Take care. DD

frogmorton

Oh Rosie

Dont be uspet chick

She's worried about the posible diabetes isnt she? na dthe effect on her and the baby. she iS big for dates isn't she?

You havent really done a thing wrong and she will realiser it when she has calmned down. Girls need their Mums so i know she will come back to you soon.

If you are worried send her a little card to say you are thinking of her.

otherwise you look after YOU for little while and let her cool down.

Love and HUGS

Toni xx

dreamdaisy

Hello rosyred. I sincerely hope that things are a little better between you both now. DD

valval

hi rosy they all get like this from time to time she will be so sorry and blame the pregnancy just give her a hug and all will be well but you must make sure she knows you are not well and she should not put on you this way also tell her you feel that she is worried about something she prob does not want to worry you but sounds like she needs to share with you and what blood test takes all day??? non i know of that for sure hugs and hope things better soon val

carola

So sorry to hear about this.

I agree with everyone else.

Wait until she contacts you although a wee note to hear may be helpful.

When you are speaking use this as an opportunity to tell her about your pain etc and how it makes you feel.

Good luck and meantime try not to worry, it'll all work out.
Carol

sharmaine

Hi

Our children know what buttons to press to hurt us. Saying this I don't think you have anything to feel sorry about. Sounds as if you help out heaps and are always there for her.

I think your daughter should apologise. You could phone and speak to her calmly about what has gone on. Don't forget to mention how hurt you are by her comments.

Take care and try not to let it get you down. She'll be around in a flash if she knows you've been upset.

Take care
Sharmaine
X

rosyred wrote:

I Just so hurt at what my daughter has just screamed at me down the phone ..

I no she is preggers and has had a few prob with it ..low b/p.. she is now 28 weeks measuring 34 so on...

Last night she had a row with her hubby over what they were havin for dinner!
I wa shavin oliver my granson over night anyways. so she came to me sobbed her heart out and stayed with my other grandson...

Allw as well she went hone left ollie with me .. Dident mind at all he is as good as gold..
Came back topick him up and we were talking about next monday she has to go and have a blood test done for diabiteis.
Thats fine gunna stay over sunday night so im there to ahve the boys monday morning... Also she havin hall stairs landing carpet laid..

So stupid me said haha yea right leave me with it all , chris can drop u off and come back and help me... well she stormed out and went home... then i rang to se eif she was ok and she blasted me down the phone... STOP DRAGGING ME DPOWN TO UR LEVEL
IM SO HURT AT WHAT SHE SAID I JUST PUT THE PHONE DOWN..now feel like crying screaming and what the hell have i done??

She said she had to stay in hospital all day for this test !! i dont know im so hurt i just want to be left alone now and say **** u amy get a life ucnat keep trating ppl like this .but i cantt as i love her to bits and no she is worrrying about something other than she is letting on.. we will wait n see what happens next i supose But what i do no now is cause im so upset im gunna go into a nice flare and feel so bad tomorrow :oops: x

dreamdaisy

Hello rosyred, I hope you feel better today. DD

dorcas

Hi rosyred.....so sorry to read about your family troubles.

As others have said.....when you do speak to each other (I hope it is soon) use it as an opportunity to explain how you feel and how arther is affecting you...and ask her how she is feeling too.
Sometimes sitting down and talking things through quietly and carefully can clear the air and strengthen your relationship.

Iris x

barbara12

Hi Rose
I am so sorry that you are upset, I know your daughter should apologize, but if you leave it to long things could get out of hand, please try and talk to her to tell her how you feel, not over the phone but face to face, then she cant put the phone down.
Hope you feel better very soon.
Love
Barbara x

frogmorton

Hi Rosie

wondering how you are doing today??

I hope you have heard from your daughter and that things have settled. If not then you have to continue to give her time and space.

Love and hugs

Toni xx