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  • dorcas
    dorcas Member Posts: 3,516
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Annie,

    How's your mum? how are you?

    You must be shattered after being in A&E yesterday..
    Your poor mum fracturing her pelvis.... that's a significant injury but hopefully the hossie has made her comfortable and have the pain under control.

    thinking of you all and sending you strength and positive vibes.

    remember we are here for you Annie. :wink:

    (((hugs)))

    Iris x
  • annic4363
    annic4363 Member Posts: 67
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi all!

    Just to let you know I am still here... just!

    Ma is still much the same. The weirdest thing for me is that she is suddenly an old lady - with all that that entails. She is uncooperative, difficult and secretive which makes it incredibly hard to help her.. and if I get accused of 'fussing' once more I will SCREAM!

    As to me, well the foot is sore. It doesn't respond well to all the driving, Also I seem to have done something weird to my hip which is incredibly sore and worrying me a bit. I feel like I just can't afford to get sick myself at the minute.

    Thank you again all of you for your support. It means so much

    Chat soon

    Annie xxxxx
  • dorcas
    dorcas Member Posts: 3,516
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Annie :D

    You're mum's unco-operativeness might be just the pain and frustration she's feeling after her fall. Your mum might also be feeling quite vulnerable as the loss of independence, no matter how temporary, can be frightening....... is she still in hospital? did they have to operate? have they discussed the support your mum (and you) will need now?

    Your poor foot is getting no let up from the demands that are having to be made on it. :roll: maybe the driving is putting a lot of stress on the foot and other joints are complaining if they are trying hard to accommodate the aching foot..... you've had this for quite a long time Annie.... I wish someone would help you with support or treatment. :|

    keep your chin up Annie..... we are still here listening and supporting you.

    (((hugs)))

    Irisx
  • frogmorton
    frogmorton Member Posts: 30,026
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    OMG Annie

    You have been thorugh the mill while i have been on my hols :shock:

    I do NOT know what to say to you :? You poor thing.

    I do undeerstand the mum thing though as I was the only carer for my Mum before she died three years ago.

    Likely she is feeling totally out of control and 'old' herself :( My Mums said she did and was so frightened so your could be too? :( I wish i lived a bit nearer i would give you the day off.

    You take care and i hope you have some good news soon.

    Love and thoughts are with you

    Toni xx
  • ironic
    ironic Member Posts: 2,361
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Annie,

    I think the hip problem is through driving. I get at times when the foot is playing me up. I think it's a tension thing.

    I know what you mean about your mum seeming to age. Pain does that sometimes and she must be frightened. Hip fractures are extremely worrying for them.

    Sending hugs to you both and I hope hubby is getting there too.

    Lv, Ix
  • annic4363
    annic4363 Member Posts: 67
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi All

    Firstly sorry not to have updated you before this. It has been a very difficult couple of weeks. Ma has become increasingly poorly and I have heard today that she has end stage cancer and only days to live.

    I am heartbroken largely because all my life I was a "Daddy's girl" and enjoyed a very close relationship with my father until he died suddenly 9 years ago. Since then I have got to know my mother who has told me she always felt excluded by us.... and now I am going to lose her too..

    Please remember Jean, my Ma, as well as my brothers and I and the rest of the family in your prayers.... And especially I ask that her excruciating pain is over soon

    Axxxx
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    I am so, so sorry. Be with her as much as you can, these last few days are precious beyond belief. I will be thinking of you both. DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • dorcas
    dorcas Member Posts: 3,516
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Annie,

    Thinking about you and your mum Jean ...and your brothers too.

    This is a hard time for you ... but precious too. I lost my darling mum to cancer two years ago...and dad to cancer last year. It's a cruel disease.

    Sending you love and strength for the days ahead and praying that your mum's pain is managed and that she does not suffer. I'm sure your presence is a great comfort to her.

    (((hugs)))

    Iris xx
  • skezier
    skezier Member Posts: 11,333
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Annie,

    I will also remember you all and all I can do is send you a ((((( ))))) and I am sorry your having a really horrible time just now. We are all here if you need us so please if you need to let of steam or just come in and scream we will be here for you. Another (((( )))) Cris x
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Still thinking of you. DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • ironic
    ironic Member Posts: 2,361
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hello Annie,

    I am so sorry that you and your family are having to go through such a terrible time.
    Take strength from each other.

    My thoughts are with you all.


    Ix
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Thinking of you. DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • frogmorton
    frogmorton Member Posts: 30,026
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    oh Anni

    I am so very very sorry about your precious Ma :(

    I lost my Dad 9 years ago and then my Mum three years ago -- I too had got closer to my Mum in that time.

    She knows you love her and if she was close to your Dad she may be happy to be 'with him'. I think mine was.

    Of course I will keep you both in my heart and wish fervently that she does not suffer too much.

    Love and hugs to you

    From Toni xx
  • dorcas
    dorcas Member Posts: 3,516
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Annie,

    still thinking about you, your mum and your brothers too.

    sending you strength and love,

    Iris xx
  • annic4363
    annic4363 Member Posts: 67
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi there

    Sorry not to have updated you.

    My poor old Ma died on 20th September so it has been a very difficult time. To be honest I still feel completely numb. I am back at work today but it still all feels totally unreal. I kept expecting her to phone or something....

    Thank you all for your support during this trying time. It means more than I can tell you

    Chat soon

    Annie x
  • ironic
    ironic Member Posts: 2,361
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hello Annie,
    My deepest sympathy to you and your family at this saddest of times. Take comfort that she is at peace now and no longer in pain. It will be a difficult time for you all, take strength from each other.
    Sending you gentle hugs and please look after yourself. All you can do is take one day at a time.
    Lv, Ix
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    I am so sorry. Please take care of yourself at this very difficult time. DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • jean123
    jean123 Member Posts: 642
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    I am so sorry to hear about your mum.

    Jean and the forum team
  • Wonkylegs
    Wonkylegs Member Posts: 3,504
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    HI & so sorry for not seeing your thread sooner :oops:

    so sad to read all your news and to see what a horrid time you have all been having.

    I'll be thinking of you all

    hugs
    Wonky

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