your thoughts

only49

D school want him to continue to walk home from school with a classroom assistant, even when the bad weather heads our way again, only trouble is D is needs more supervision when its icy and snowy and anyone who knows anything about D knows you have to remind them too look out and keep them-self safe and it dont always come naturally as it does with us, both myself and hubby think that he should start coming home on the school bus as he have done before after the october break.

and we think what they eventually want him to walk home by himself and no school transport and to be independent, we want that but when D ready

tkachev

I have sent you a PM Sylvia.

I know my son tried to run into the road a few weeks ago because his brother ran off ahead and he was cross about that.Nanny managed to grab him in time but son screamed his head off and everybody stared at her!




Transport costs money so they are probably doing it to cut costs.But all these changes will cause him anxiety and confusion.

Elizabeth

rondetto

Hi Sylvia, missed you on Angels recently. Now then, my little grandaughter had epilepsy, and we had similar sort of circumstances.
You have to assert yourself and demand help, it's the only way.

ninakang

I totally agree with Ron and co, stick to your guns, Sylvia, you know what's best for your child.

Nx

dreamdaisy

What does D think? He's done this before so it may well be OK. I don't know if he could ever do it alone, but if the assistant knows him, it should be fine. How long does the walk take? DD

only49

dreamdaisy wrote:

What does D think? He's done this before so it may well be OK. I don't know if he could ever do it alone, but if the assistant knows him, it should be fine. How long does the walk take? DD

D says along as the weather ok then he ok with it but if the weather not then he would rather be on the bus.

the walk takes about 10-15 minutes walking and 5 by car

frogmorton

I reckon D might just know best!!

You think they will listen to you? Can they put a 'sensible' plan together which has a back-up contingency for this sort of thing?

Love

Toni xx

only49

frogmorton wrote:

I reckon D might just know best!!

You think they will listen to you? Can they put a 'sensible' plan together which has a back-up contingency for this sort of thing?

Love

Toni xx

i think they like bossing kids and perents about and as we dont agree they cant handle doing something different, it should be about what we all think is best for D and not just them

cebeem

only49 wrote:

frogmorton wrote:

I reckon D might just know best!!

You think they will listen to you? Can they put a 'sensible' plan together which has a back-up contingency for this sort of thing?

Love

Toni xx

i think they like bossing kids and perents about and as we dont agree they cant handle doing something different, it should be about what we all think is best for D and not just them

Hi
Hopefully it will be a carefully planned operation with lots of preparation,practising and shadowing that gets slowly withdrawn.
They are probably looking at his long term independence etc. But you should be able to have the final say on his behalf. You will know if his actions differ when in school and at home. This walking situation is between the 2 and if you have doubts try to discuss them with his key worker maybe agree on a plan.
You could arrange for a family member to meet him half way and gradually meet him nearer and nearer to home until he has done it himself! See for yourself how he manages it.
Each education authority operates differently ....here the transport is part of that care package.....so hopefully they are just acting in his best interests (independence wise)....and not cutting budget corners.
Good Luck *CB*

tkachev

there has to be a system in place where D is certain about that days arrangements and not left confused. Say it starts as a nice day but then rains unexpectedly (You know what these weather forcasters are like)! He may then not be able to catch the bus after all or they go without him and that could cause D one big upset.

Elizabeth

cebeem

tkachev wrote:

there has to be a system in place where D is certain about that days arrangements and not left confused. Say it starts as a nice day but then rains unexpectedly (You know what these weather forcasters are like)! He may then not be able to catch the bus after all or they go without him and that could cause D one big upset.

Elizabeth

In schools where I have worked the children learn to follow schedules, timetables,diaries or pocket reminders, all of which develop with the child/young person to become more age appropriate/user friendly and discreet for use out and about in the community.

If Ds walk home has been developed over a period of time gradually building in more independence they will have worked with him on problem solving in these situations and maybe will have set up a situation in a real life setting (such as the bus not turning up) in order to encourage him to use e.g. his mobile , reminders , ask for help or some other coping strategy with which he is familiar with. This should all have been done with help at first which then is withdrawn then shadowed from a short distance.

Hope that makes sense and reassures you that school will have Ds safety foremost in the plan and it should have been worked out to suit his abilities. *CB*

only49

good morning all

I would just like to say that as i asked for your thought on the matter i will in no way be upset by anything as a friend of mine used to say " are you asking " meaning if your asking my opinion then i give it to you straight, i belive everyone has an opinion and that is only fare we are all different and it would be a boring old life if we were all the same