Harry being a pain - need some suggestions!

jenzie06

Harry is now 4 months old and is a very happy, smiley chap. He's started laughing and last week he rolled over for the first time. But he's being a bit of a pain when my hubbie puts him to bed. He's usually a bit grumbly but ok when I put him to bed but when hubbie tries it Harry screams blue murder. Tonight I went up to the nursery when I couldn't stand it any longer and as soon as he was in my arms (Harry not hubbie) he stopped crying immediately but when I gave him back he cried straight away.
Hubbie is not doing anything differently than how I would do it but Harry is definitely crying for me. I would like to go back to singing in my choir next week but I can't leave hubbie to a horrendous evening of screaming.

Anyone got any suggestions on how we deal with this?

valval

this hard one but he does need to get used to him or you will be making rod for your own back. it will do you good to get out and them good to bond are you breast feeding some times it the smell of milk they want leave an item of your clothing so he can use it when holding the little one so your smell is there good luck val

oneday

hi, how about hubbie does the physical part of putting baby in cot, then you settle him, eg stroke his cheek to get him sleepy? then when baby associates stroke with sleep etc hubbie could do it.

frogmorton

Hi Jen

Tricky one this one isnt it?

He obvioulsy loves his Mum Very gratifying but not so when you need your time off and poor old hubby wants to take his part.

I think wean him off you abit slowly like Only says - he will get to be ok with hubby then over time.

There are those who reckon they should be left to cry but that's not easy in a semi (if you are in one!) Have you thought about taping your voice with you maybe singing a lullaby or reading a story?

LOve and hugs

Toni xx

Who had one little monkey and one angel at bedtimes

tkachev

Me too Toni, one who wanted me all the time for a hundred and one stories and one who slept all night right through and no problems and again with my 2 boys one cheeky monkey and one Angel. Their characters are still the same!

You could persevere until he gets used to it but I know that is not easy.But he is learning that mum will come if he cries.Also you dont want to make your husband feel inadequate. I would go out to the choir and show hubby how much you trust him. If he cant cope he will soon let you know.

Elizabeth