Why do I keep getting upset so easily ?!

pols090607

Can I blame that on this awful disease

Last Thursday I ended up crying at my hospital appointment and today a week on I have just ended up crying in front of my daughters teacher ! (My daughter having a bit of a wobble at school adjusting to her new class).

I feel so bloody fed up of not feeling able to deal with certain things without crying, what is up with me !!? I wish I could be like other people and be really strong

jordansmum

hi pols i think you can blame it on the desease(sp) it has to be so hard to live with as well as bringing up a child so don't beat yourself up maybe a friend or someone you can turn to would be of help so that you can have a good cry and get your frustrations out, but if you are feeling really low you should see your gp.I know when i feel upset i come on here and soon feel much better just knowing that you are not alone in your situation is of great comfort keep well xx jenny

pols090607

Hi Jenny - thanks for replying.

In general I feel ok, I know I don't feel depressed or anything, I just tend to get upset easy !!! I end up coming away from places feeling really embarrassed with myself :oops:

Maybe I should look into getting a book on being more assertive and confident !

How is Jordan anyway, enough of my moaning (and weeping :roll: )

jordansmum

oh he's fine abit stiff but he bounces back , i know how you feel though i can never speak to anyone without filling up with tears i think it is nerves and i to then feel very embarassed :oops: i'm sure people think i'm mad but if you need someone to talk to you can pm me at any time .

dorcas

Hi pols,

you are strong!.... we all have to be.. just to be able to live with arther as a constant, nagging partner. :roll:

Having chronic pain wears you down both physically and emotionally, and sometimes it just 'sneaks out' at unexpected times or when triggered by worries.

Don't be hard on yourself! crying at a doc appointment has happened to a lot of us (me included!) and although it's embarrassing it isn't always a bad thing as you do get listened to!.

The other thing to remember is that peeps do get depression... not surprising really when you consider the impact arther has on our family and working life and relationships..... so if you feel you need to talk to someone about how you are feeling phone the helpline peeps... they're great at talking things through and helping you to get a perspective on things.
... or you could speak to your GP in case it's the meds you're on that are having this effect. :?:

love n ((((hugs))))

Iris xx

angel1

So many people see tears as a weakness, and they are absolutely not. They are, in fact , a safety valve, and very necessary when dealing with life changing events.

Please don`t be so hard on yourself. Yes, it can be embarrassing breaking down in front of complete strangers, but it`s the mind`s way of saying "This is all a bit too much for me at the moment". Most people are sympathetic when you explain, briefly, that you have an illness which is causing you great distress.

If, however, you feel that it is getting out of hand, maybe a chat with your GP would help. A short course of AD`s is often useful too.
Please give yourself some "soft" time.........Ange.x.

sharmaine

Hi pols

I get really emotional just like you do. I just don't seem to able to reign my emotions in like I used to.

Mind you it must be tough dealing with pain from arthur and juggling being a mum etc. I think you only need to worry if you're crying everyday.

You probably need a rest and some tlc.

I hope you're feeling a bit brighter. Give yourself a little treat and get your daughter to give you a nice big hug.

Take care
Sharmaine

elainebadknee

Hi

Its cos youre human, cos sometimes things just hit that spot they shouldnt and at least it shows you have emotions....On other hand you could be fed up to back teeth and soemtimes its an outlet aint it?

Elainex

beowolf

hi pols
nice to meet you. I seem to have exactly the same problem as you at the moment but to be honest I've given up worrying about it cos it's just the way it is right now..... and I feel better after I work full time still, as a cleaner in a bus depot and the blokes are used to seeing ne on a bad day with tears streaming down my face...they leave me in peace and then when I've mopped up, my face that is they joke and try to make me feel better...guess i'm really lucky. It's really not a matter of being weak, please don't ever think that..... just remember you are coping really well in a difficult situation....well done you

beo

woodbon

Hi, Yes, me too, I get weepy over things. Sometimes its depression, because I can't do the things I used to do or want to do, sometimes just sheer frustration, as every thing seems to break, or get knocked over or I can't do something that used to be easy.

Maybe too, its the tirdeness which isn't just because I'm not sleeping as well but the tiredness from having to do normal housework or something and it knocks me out and I can't do anything else. Seeing the doctor is a good idea, as it could be that one of your medicines isn't suiting you.

Take care and try not to worry too much, your not alone and we are here to listen, someone will always give you a reply. As someone else said, too, the Helpline are very good at listening and also have information if you need it. Glad you decided to join us and I hope you find it helpful. Lots of love Sue

dreamdaisy

Is it any wonder we get so low? When we wake up we have little idea how the day is going to progress. We are fighting for sleep, fighting for energy, fighting a pernicious disease with all sorts of horrible meds. I think it's marvellous that we all cope as well as we do. Is it worth finding out if you can take a Naturecalm tablet, or something similar? It does take the edge off anxiety - but whether you can may be dependant upon your meds. I use them very, very sparingly and they do help. DD

skezier

Hi Pols,

I find frustration and disappointment sends me to tears..... If the pains really bad I find I cry easier than if its not. Any criticism will make me cry as well.... maybe not at the time but I honestly think it an be laid at the door of this bone thing.

A long as you don't feel like crying all the time ( i mean all day) and its intermittent I think it is just the release value letting off pressure.

Crying at the doctors I have done, mostly cus they have helped me! There are days when I don't want people to be nice to me but those are the days when the pain is sky high and everything is a problem.

What the cure is I am afraid I don't know but leaving you a ((( ))) and a hope it will all get easier for you. Cris x

stlucia

Sending everyone lots of hugs! I think we need them at the moment!

xxx

tkachev

Pols I am the worlds biggest cryer. I cry at everything so much so I cannot bear to attend meetings. If I try to talk about something I start crying......Usually I cry before hand to get everything out of my system!You are not alone.


Elizabeth

pols090607

I'm glad this thread has so many replies as it seems to helped us all compare notes and has so many wonderful words of comfort to reflect on.

Thank you to everybody who has taken the time to make a post.

It seems there's a lot of us who get upset, I guess I am only human and this year has been hard going dealing with everything, new diagnosis etc.

I am ok today though, nothing to grumble or whinge about

Thanks again to each and everyone of you

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

barbara12

Sorry Pols
I have only just seen your post, my brain goes to sleep....not me just my brain.
Like Ange says crying is a release, so don't worry about it, living with Arthur would make anyone cry.
Like you say others will read this thread and know they are not on there own.
Take care
Love
Barbara xxx