MEDICAL TODAY
psyart
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Hi - hoping some of you can come into my pockets at short notice??
have got my medical this morning and am feeling very apprehensive :oops:
had to go london yesterday with daughter as she had an interview for Royal Marsdon hospital - which she got - but am feeling really rough this morning
maybe thats a good thing - had really bad night with pain so want to cry
DD and Cris - hope you feeling better :?: :?: and anyone else who has been bad :?:
Iris - have re read you advice you sent last time - its in my head but wheather I will remember when I get down there :?: :?:
hope some of you will be with me and will let you know how it goes :!: :!:
Louise xxx
have got my medical this morning and am feeling very apprehensive :oops:
had to go london yesterday with daughter as she had an interview for Royal Marsdon hospital - which she got - but am feeling really rough this morning
maybe thats a good thing - had really bad night with pain so want to cry
DD and Cris - hope you feeling better :?: :?: and anyone else who has been bad :?:
Iris - have re read you advice you sent last time - its in my head but wheather I will remember when I get down there :?: :?:
hope some of you will be with me and will let you know how it goes :!: :!:
Louise xxx
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I hope it isn't too much of an ordeal for you psyart. The timing is probably good tho! Many congratulations to your daughter, it is nice to hear some good news. We will be with you in spirit. Let us know how it goes, if you can. DDHave you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben0
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Hi hope all goes well with you at your appointment, and congratulations to your daughter Junexx0
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Hi Louise,
Great news about your daughter. I wish her well.
Will be there for you flower. Hope it goes better than you think. No wonder that you are shattered after yesterday. Plus all that bellow pumping you have been doing!!!
Lv, Ix0 -
Hi louise
will be thinking of you too and hoping all goes well for you this morning.
Hey very well-done to your daughter
Love
Toni xx0 -
good luck with your medical and well done to your daughter.
hope today goes well x0 -
I will definitely be in your pocket Louise!
don't let them rush you... !
Take it slowly and answer in your own time....hope the notes help.
(((hugs)))
Iris xxx0 -
Good luck today, Louise.
No room in your pocket so I have my rollerskates on and hanging onto your coat tail
Carol0 -
Hi Louise
I will definitely be in your pocket, I hope it all goes really well for you.
And congratulation to your daughter, what a wonderful hospital to work at.
Let us know how you get on
Love
Barbara xxLove
Barbara0 -
Hi louise am I too late for your pocket :?:
Wish you the best of luck with your appointment and congratulations to your daughter.
JuliePF x0 -
Hi Louise
Sorry, like Julie I am too late for pocket duties (last minute larry as always) but thinking of you and hoping it is a positive appointment.
Love Tilly xxx0 -
Well, done and dusted by now, I hope. I hope you coped OK. DDHave you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben0
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Hi Louise,
I was in you pocket cus someone text me and told me to be. I wasn't about here but rushed off the bellows to get in at the last min.
Really hope it went ok and you are resting up now. ((((( ))))) Love Cris xxx0 -
Hi Louise,
how'd it go?
hope it wasn't too tough on you flower.
Iris xxx0 -
Hi everyone - sorry so late replying - had granddaughter this afternoon so had to get myself sorted after this mornings ordeal :!:
i got myself in to a state before went in - really worried about it and worried as took daughter in with me - who I have been trying to hide my really bad times from :oops: :oops:
I came out in a worst state - daughter told me off for getting so stressed about it
the whole thing made me feel embarressed, debilitated, demorolized - she said she was a doctor but didnt know what psoraitic arthritis was :?: :?: so she put down psoriaisis arthritis with out the psoriaisis :x - she didnt ask what amount of pain killers i was on - she asked what a normal day was like for me and i said it depended on how i felt and if in pain :!: - she asked what time i got up every morning - i said it depended on what the night was like so she aske why :!: i said it depended on if i had a painful night :!:
she asked how often I did housework and i said it depended on how i felt and if i was in pain :!:
she asked why i was on mild anit-depressants - i explained about being on meth for 16months and how the side effects of nausa and fatigue etc got to me :!: she asked why did it get to me :!: i said that suffering from nausa and horrid side effects like fatigue etc for 4/5 days a week was not easy to live with - she said oh i see :!: :!:
she did a bit of a physical examination but nothing much - just putting hands and arms out, lifting legs etc.
she asked me if i wanted to say something but i had got myself into sucha a state that i couldnt say anything :oops: :oops: i did ask if i could have a copy of the report but she said that it wasnt sent out until after the decision was made :?: :?:
when we came out i think i was in more of a state then when we went in :oops:
jodie said why didnt i say more and i said that i felt that they were accusing me of trying to fiddle the system and because i found it so demorolizing then i just couldnt cope very well with it :oops: - does that make sense :?:
i am not trying to fiddle anyone - i just want some support until i can hopefully get myself sorted after the visit to the hospital to see the consultant - if i'm lucky :!: :!: is that so wrong :?:
i just felt that the questions asked were not really about my condition - - she never once asked if i was going back to the consultant or what treatment i am on now - even though i told her that since stopping the meth the new treatment wasnt working
sorry its so long - just trying to get it out of my system :!: :!:
thank you and loads (((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))) to you all for being in my pockets - i did think about you all when i was in there :!:
dont know what tot do now - just wait for letter i suppose but dont think it will be what i want or need - but then is it ever with this horrid thing :!: :!: sorry - think i am rabbling now :oops:
love to you all - louise xxxxxxxxxxxx0 -
I'm sorry you had such an awful day. I can understand what you've been through as I've been through it for ESA benefit. I wish I could say that I had a good result, but I didn't they refused me. They just sent a brief report with the refusal, but I phoned up to say I was appealing and they sent me through the complete report. It was really a tick box form with comments. Mine was incorrect, the 'doctor' answered some of the questions without asking me and some of the answers were changed. That was last January and I'm still waiting for the appeal!
I hope that things are better for you as you don't know they may award you benefit. Try and relax as much as you can as if you get benefit, that will be great, if not, you can appeal and quite a lot of people are awarded benefit when they do. You can get help, but hopefully you won't need to! I expect you feel very tired now, so I hope you rest tonight. Love Sue0 -
Aww Louise......What a horrible day.....sorry I'm only catching up with this and missed pocket duty :oops:
Was she qualified do you think she doesnt sound it.
What a stupid woman.
Hope you are recovering a bit now......I cant get over what an awful appointment that was
Love ((((()_)))))))) Hileena0 -
hi Louise,
Who are these people and how dare she! Some doctor eh?! Stupid, stupid questions.
Don't let it get to you maid, wait and see what is said in the report and then appeal if you have to. Its just another example of how stupid its got!
Leaving you a ((((( ))))) and please don't let it get to you. Love Cris xx0 -
Louise
Hope you feeling mighty better today?
These medicals are awful. Having been through them myself I know that they make you feel like a fraud and a beggar.
I obained a copy of the full medical report as I am appealing mine and some of the things the 'professional medical assessor' states is just not true and I have not obtained any answers from any of the authorities about this.
The medical is done now so try not to dwell on it (easier said than done!) and deal with the outcome when it arrives - it may be good news. Keep positive and be kind to yourself.
Carol x0 -
thank you!!!!
i am better today but now anoyed that i didnt say more yesterday :!: :!:
but if the decision is going the way i think it will then i will definatly appeal :!: :!:
i just thought these people were suppose to be professionals :?: :?:
thanks again - sun out today Cris - you working on those bellows :?: :?:
Louise xx0 -
Hi Louise
Start making notes {of things you think you should have said} and anything else...for future ref.....appeals whatever
Glad you are a bit better today
Love
Hileena0 -
Hi, You seem a lot more cheerful today! I expect you feel a certain amount of relief that you've had the dreaded medical. I think we all hate that. You never know things sometimes turn out better then you think and even if it doesn't the appeal is still their for you, so its still all to play for! Love Sue0
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Hi Louise,
Been working the bellows all night..... I need a sale this week end Its lovely isn't it a real blue sky and a bright sun Mind bit coming in from the bay so will go out and have another go later
Flower I know its not easy but you must just put yesterday behind you. They will decide what they decide and if you have to appeal we will all be behind you to do it. I think its so wrong all this. We need additional pressure like a hole in the head but its not worth dwelling on...... See what happens when they get back to you but don't let them mess your life up between now and then.
Sending you a cuppa and got a bit of hevva cake if you want it? Luv and a ((((( ))))) Cris xx0 -
Louise
Its hard aint it? I think they deliberately try to throw you off kilter to put you on edge, in fact im convinced....Mine put me at ease completely saying she too suffered knee problems and i thought "here's someone who knows where im coming from here" but when she wrote the medical report boy did she tell porkies!!But after getting refused n gathering myself together i appealed, that started end of March this year and only last week got decision overturned in my favour and got backdated funds from DWP.....
At least you had your daughter with you, thats a witness, bugger it if she's family, you fight and you go through the process and you'll get there....If i can you can deffo..
Elainex0 -
thanks guys for the words of support xx
today is not a good day - was awake last night with pain - as ususal but the meeting keep going through my head as well and today i feel so guilty :oops: :oops: . I didnt do my self any favours on tuesday and have let myself down :oops:
has anyone else felt like this :?: DD - could do with your words of wisdom to shake myself out of this :!: ideal time for me to tell them how bad days are for me especially at the moment as treatment is not working but i couldnt :?: :?:
are these emotions we have to go through :?: this illness is bad enough - so many questions and emotions we go through without more on top
Oh and Cris- heavy cake with bucket of tea would be brill me hansome :!: :!:
Am I being silly :?: :oops: honest answers please :!: :!:
louise0 -
Hi Louise,
please don't you feel guilty about that medical on Tuesday!
These medicals are degrading and disheartening. they are not designed to be supportive or fair, and so they leave us feeling that somehow we are exaggerating..... or worse still... frauds. :roll: :x
Don't let it get to you.... I felt the same way after my medical; that somehow I hadn't expressed myself properly or evidenced sufficiently how bad this awful condition has affected my life.
I firmly believe now that no matter what I'd have said the outcome would be the same. These medicals are there for one purpose... to reduce the number of ESA claimants and save the government money. They do not care about the impact on us nor how we feel about the whole demeaning process.
you are not being silly.... !
you are one of many Louise to be left reeling, having experienced first hand the process of being fed in and spat out by an unfeeling and bludgeoning system.
chin up! and fight on!
Iris xxxx0
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