not a good week

nearlybionic
nearlybionic Member Posts: 1,899
edited 21. Nov 2010, 15:39 in Living with Arthritis archive
Hi
Hope you are all doing ok. I`ve not been on much this week, so not caught up with all posts, sorry, as I have done 2 days (half) at work this week and it has wiped me out!
I am diasppointed at how tired and how much discomfort I have been left with after just 2 short days. :( My boss has referred me to occy health, but not heard anything yet. My chair etc were sorted for me when i went back to work just after my THR, but although it is supposed to be ok for me, my hip, back and groin are very sore after sitting there for a while. I need ot move around more often, but it is difficult when the phone keeps ringing! And then at the end of my `shift` , driving home is bad. I`m sorry to moan, but I am feeling sorry for myself and in pain.
I am worried about this, as my hours will increase over the next 3 weeks, and I am not sure how I will manage. Everyone at work is being helpful, but they are soooo busy, I don`t want to make things worse. I thought that things would be a lot better by now, and do wonder if this is as good as it is going to get?
Thanks for reading , if you haven`t given up by now!! Just needed to let it out.
NB

Comments

  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    I know this is easy for me to say, but give it time. You have had major surgery followed by a major setback: there is a big difference between sitting around at home twiddling one's thumbs and thinking 'God I want to be back at work, this is soooooooo dull.' and then discovereing the reality of being back at work. Just ease yourself back into it as best you can. It will take time, things will get better, of that I am sure. I wish you well. DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • tjt6768
    tjt6768 Member Posts: 12,170
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi NB, hope you're ok?
    I am surpised at Occy Health not being totally on the ball with things. They really helped my OH after being off for 15 month after being diagnosed with heart failure.. Hope they get thier finger out soon and things start to get better for you.

    Tony :mrgreen:
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  • frogmorton
    frogmorton Member Posts: 29,781
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Oh Nearly

    I do hope this sint as good as its going to get.
    i went back to work 9 weeeks after my back op (single parent at the time - no choice at all!) and suffered so much at first but was always recoivered by the next morning. eventually things did improve. How are you the next day?

    Oh and are you still taking your pain meds?
    Love

    toni xx
  • speedalong
    speedalong Member Posts: 3,315
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi NB,

    I can totally identify with all of this - exhaustion, pain again and how it makes you feel ... I'm exactly the same at the moment.

    Would it be possible for you to have a walkabout phone so that you an walk up and down and talk? Not sure if enough space in office or whether this is practical - but too much sitting is dire. You are probably too tired to go for a walk before driving home and just want to collapse in the car, but perhaps if you got to work even 5 to 10 mins early you could have a walk before having to sit at your desk.

    Is there anyway you or your boss can chivvy occy health - perhaps they could give you a cancellation or mark you as urgent?!

    YOurs-in-the-same-boat,

    Speedy
    I have had OA since mid twenties. It affects my hips and knees. I had a THR on the left aged 30 and now have a resurface-replacement on the right - done May 2010.
  • julie47
    julie47 Member Posts: 6,041
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi there NB

    Sorry things are a bit difficult for you at the moment at work.
    Your employer seems to be a nice person trying to get things to make it easier for you and your work colegues sound understanding too.

    I am sure itis a big effort for you and this extra effort will makeyo feel tired and fed up.

    I keep my fingers crossed that things get easier for you soon ,
    don't know what else to say except probably give it time.

    Take care
    Hugs (((((((((((((())))))))))) and here sit down and drink this

    a nice glass of wine.

    Juliepf x
  • nearlybionic
    nearlybionic Member Posts: 1,899
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi
    Thanks everyone for your replies.
    (and empathy from Speedy xxx)
    I am still taking pain relief , Naproxen twice daily and paracetamol. And Amitriptiline if needed.
    The day after I still feel sore, but I am keeping going as I seize up if I sit for too long and my lower back locks. (I`m an old crock at 41!!)
    We used to have cordless phones in old offices, and have talked about them again this week. Not sure if they will get them again. I am going to check up on Occy health next week when I am in again.
    Before my hip dislocated I could `forget` I had a THR at times, but not any more, my socket and pelvis are always letting me know its there. This is what I was hoping would improve.
    Thanks for the very good Idea about a glass of wine Julie, I might just do that later!! Cheers!!
    Have a nice evening xx
    NB
  • chris7
    chris7 Bots Posts: 2,696
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi NB

    Sorry you are feeling so tired and sore, but you have done so well to get back to work after having such a bad time. I hope you have a restful weekend and that next week doesn't seem quite so daunting. Do call in when you can.
    take care, just leaving some hugs. ((( )))
    Chris x
  • skezier
    skezier Member Posts: 11,333
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Nearly,

    I don't know how I missed this and I am sorry.

    Sending you a ((((( ))))) and a hope it will all get easier for you flower. You have had a rough time but maybe they can make one or two small adjustments and help make it easier for you. Fingers crossed oh will help, you juts hold to the thought this isn't it and it will improve. Another ((( ))) and a cuppa. Cris xx
  • mp1952
    mp1952 Member Posts: 425
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi NB

    I know exactly what you mean... I felt OKish at home 13 weeks after my THR, but it was a different ball game completely when I went back to work and had to do different movements (or sit in one place for more than 15 minutes)..

    I hope you can get some rest and recouperation over the weekend..

    Take care

    Marion x
  • valval
    valval Member Posts: 14,911
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    hi nb so sorry you are finding it so hard but to be honest going back after one week off bad enough so please do not worry about how hard you are finding it do not rush things and rest when you can at home and get easy to cook meals or takeaways anything to make life easyer for a while hugs val
    val
  • dorcas
    dorcas Member Posts: 3,516
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi NB :D

    so sorry you're having a tough time with returning to work. :(
    and I hope that occy health will get into gear and reassess your phased return to take account of the pain and discomfort of sitting at your desk for such long periods.

    There is nothing to stop your employers extending or changing the phased return agreement/ hours/ workload. They have a clear duty to respond to your needs as you are covered by the DDA.

    I had to have adjustments made to my phased return last year as I too had issues when I returned to work.....

    it's really not difficult for them to put in place a plan that will provide you with greater support, but you might have to make it clear what would help you .

    Hope things will get better for you soon and that the pain in your hip eases.

    (((hugs)))

    Iris xxx
  • ironic
    ironic Member Posts: 2,361
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Nearly,
    Sorry that you are suffering so much. I just hope that things do get easier as time goes on. Not much help as I have not had a replacement. You must feel so tired through it.

    Sending you a hug,
    Lv, Ix
  • coco67
    coco67 Member Posts: 2,374
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    hi nearly

    i hope you are ok, sending you a bucket of healing hugs and energy. your doing well it will just take time.

    coco xx
  • nearlybionic
    nearlybionic Member Posts: 1,899
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi
    Thanks for all the lovely comments and support.
    I am feeling sore today especially when climbing the stairs. This is probably not helped by me slipping on wet leaves on the pavement :roll: I hate this time of year!!
    As a result my sciatica is playing up and I have awful pain going down from back to feet!! Great eh? I have taken my painkillers and am hoping for some relief as I am designated driver for taking the kids and friends to cinema to see harry potter (I am not watching it, just dropping off, I couldn`t manage the seats for hours!!)
    I will try to have a restful day apart from that.
    Take care all xx
    NB
  • dorcas
    dorcas Member Posts: 3,516
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi NB,

    sorry you've now had a fall on top of everything else. :roll: I know what you mean about the slippery leaves!

    hope you have something effective for the nerve pain. :?: and please be careful about being the one on driving duty.. hope it doesn't aggravate the sciatica even more.

    rest when you can and fingers crossed the pain eases today.

    Iris xxx
  • skezier
    skezier Member Posts: 11,333
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Nearly,

    Sorry you have slipped as well flower... have you got anything for the nerve pain? Ordinary pain killers don't often work for that.....

    You said have said I would have taken them and watched it :wink:

    Rest up till you have to go and try and get comfortable. Leaving you a ((( ))) and a hope it will all get easier for you. Cris xx
  • dachshund
    dachshund Member Posts: 9,084
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Nearly B.
    i'm sorry you are trying so hard and you still have the pain.
    i hope it will all settle down soon for you.
    take care.
    joan xx
    take care
    joan xx
  • nearlybionic
    nearlybionic Member Posts: 1,899
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Cris. Iris and Joan
    Thanks for your messages. I took a higher dose of amitriptiline last night on top of my usual meds, which resulted in me being almost comatose last night!! :oops:
    I have been out with my daughter doing a bit of Christmas shopping today, which was nice ot have a bit of mum and daughter time, but I am paying for it now. It feels like my joint is too high up in the socket, with broken glass in it. Ouch!! Sound familiar ??
    So a restful night and day off tomorrow.
    Have a good night all xxx
    NB
  • dorcas
    dorcas Member Posts: 3,516
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi NB

    Glad you had such a lovely day with your daughter :D

    ..and I hope that the terrible sounding broken glass pain in your hip passes with a night and a day's rest. :shock: :|

    thinking of you NB :wink:

    iris xxx
  • barbara12
    barbara12 Member Posts: 21,281
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi NB
    Sorry I missed your post, you are trying so hard my love, and we are all behind you, I really do hope that it gets easier for you, hopefully the OT will be able to help, you try and rest up as much has you can.
    Lots of love
    Barbara xx
    Love
    Barbara