Im exhausted I just cant take much more

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theresa4
theresa4 Member Posts: 696
edited 6. Feb 2011, 04:58 in Living with Arthritis archive
Well here I am again moaning away after being absent for some time I just need to let go a bit.

Our construction business is struggling and we are having major financial pronblems as a result of it.
My OH is bad tempered all the time as hes worried sick
I cant help anyone because Im always exhausted and in pain and feel generally ill but Im sick of taking antibiotics which give a week or two relief before it kicks up again. I have been in pain everyday for as long as I can remember just soem days more tolerable than others.
I made a joke about my life insurance being enough to pay off all the debts and get rid of the weight (me) from everyones necks and leave enough for everyone to live comfortably (only not sure I was joking)

just typing this makes me realise I need to make a GP appointment again.

Thanks for listening
Theresa :cry:
There are many things in life that will catch your eye, but only a few will catch your heart...pursue those. --Michael Nolan



Theresa xxx

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  • Wonkylegs
    Wonkylegs Member Posts: 3,504
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    HI Theresa

    first of all a great big hugs from me ((((((((((((((((((())))))))))))))))))

    glad typing things out helped you. It often does help somehow!

    have you thought of ringing the Arthritis Care helplines people to talk through your arthritis related problems? sometimes it is easier talking to them than it is to hubby or friends.

    sorry things are not good for you right now, quite a few of us are there at the moment :roll: but hopefully there will be a way through for you.

    loads of hugs
    WOnky xxx
  • stickywicket
    stickywicket Member Posts: 27,719
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    Theresa4 you're right. You do need to make an appointment with your GP and say how tough it is for you right now.

    I agree with Wonky that it'd also be good to talk to the Helpline. It can be all too easy to 'soldier on' for too long. It becomes a habit.

    Talk to friends. Talk to us. Talk to anyone but don't be too brave for too long. It aint good for you.
    If at first you don't succeed, then skydiving definitely isn't for you.
    Steven Wright
  • valval
    valval Member Posts: 14,911
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    get to docs stress make things much worse and you have plenty of that hugs to keep you going val
    val
  • ratface
    ratface Member Posts: 62
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    Hi Theresa, sorry you are feeling so down.

    And yep, sounds like you do need to see your GP and let them know just how low and exhausted you are feeling. We battle through the pain and tiredness but eventually need to get help, all of us!

    (Had a grizzle for no apparent reason while sitting waiting to see the rheumy nurse the other day - so I will bring it to someone's attention myself if it carries on) You are definitely not alone.

    With regard to your OH's construction business - Until recently I worked on various construction sites for a large company as a Site Secretary (about 20 years) various sites. During that time I have seen at least 3 periods where projects have been non existent or thin on the ground. Eventually it does pick up - just hang in there it's has to get better.

    Regards,
    Rat Face
  • frogmorton
    frogmorton Member Posts: 29,506
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    My Dear Theresa

    I hope you have taken your advice and made an appointment to see your Gp asap. Chances are this is not till next week.

    You know you can always ring the helplines on here - i did and bawled for so long they had to wait for me to be able to speak. I did in the end and i felt a weight had been taken off me.

    When they are not around there is always the samaritans to call on - you would be suprised how many do and how much help they give you. you need never feel alone - others understand how you are feeling.

    Theresa - can I just say....none of this is actually YOUR fault

    Love

    Toni xx
  • katie5
    katie5 Member Posts: 242
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    I'm so sorry you feeling so bad but everyone here is a massive support - you're doing the right thing by talking (typing) about it and as everyone has said it's not good to bottle things up. Please phone the helpline they are wonderful and very supportive.

    Try to relax which I know from experience isn't easy when you're so stressed but remember they are lots of people who care about you. Hope you go see your GP and have a long chat.

    Take care big hugs

    Katie x
  • traluvie
    traluvie Member Posts: 2,579
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    Hi Theresa..

    Just wanted to send you big hugs from me (((((((x)))))))

    We all have our moments when things just get too much, you are not on your own luvie..It is an awful time in our life when things sometimes seem like they are just not going to get better.. They do though,no matter how impossible it may seem..
    I hope by now you have spoken to maybe the helpline or made an appointment for GP and this has made you feel that little bit better..
    You just need to take each day as it comes, and focus on feeling better yourself.. in time you will see that light at the end of the tunnel.. it may take a while luvie.. but i'm sure you will get there..
    You are not on your own.. You have your family and friends and all us here..
    Thinking of you

    Tracy
    xxxx
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  • chris7
    chris7 Bots Posts: 2,696
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    Hi Theresa

    Sorry to see you are having a painful and worrying time there. I am glad you did feel able to post about it and hope you do get some help from your GP. I just wanted to call in and leave some gentle hugs (((( ))))
    keep in touch
    Chris
  • tjt6768
    tjt6768 Member Posts: 12,170
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    Hi Theresa just wanted to see how you were, I sincerely hope that you are ok hun....

    Keep on posting, it does help to let it all out.. And you probably know that we are good listeners (well, readers :wink: )

    Best wishes
    e050.gifMe-Tony
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    Cleo - 1996 to 2011. RIP
  • skezier
    skezier Member Posts: 11,333
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    Hi Theresa,

    i am sorry your feeling so wished and things are getting to you a bit just now. I know construction is a bad one just now but hopefully it will pick up a bit soon. Your oh is being made to feel teasy by that and you by pain but somewhere you and he must make a bit of time to talk to each other away from the problems if that makes sense?

    I so hope you have made the appointment with the gp and flower tell them how bad your feeling and be honest with them as they can only help if you do.

    really hope tomorrow is a better day and leaving you a (((( )))) cris xx
  • theresa4
    theresa4 Member Posts: 696
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    Thank u all for your replies. I'm booked in with gp next Thursday . Went out with my friend yesterday Sat down. Can't getvback up thought things were bad but I was wrong it's going to be a very bad day today :(

    Theresa x
    There are many things in life that will catch your eye, but only a few will catch your heart...pursue those. --Michael Nolan



    Theresa xxx
  • tjt6768
    tjt6768 Member Posts: 12,170
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    Have a very stay day today hun.. Look after yourself as much as possible....
    Be well :grin:
    e050.gifMe-Tony
    n035.gifRa-1996 -2013 RIP...
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    Cleo - 1996 to 2011. RIP
  • ironic
    ironic Member Posts: 2,361
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    Hi Theresa,
    I am so sorry that you are under so much stress flower. The economic climate is a big worry but as Ratface said it does come back, so hang on in there. I work in the construction industry too and it is rough at the moment.
    How is the rest of the family? If I remember rightly you have a newish grandchild.
    I am glad you have made an appointment with your doctor. Take one day at a time and try to take your mind of things whenever you can. I am making a list of seeds I need to get. I hope tomorrow to start off some sweet Peas.
    Lots of gentle hugs,
    Lv, Ix
  • theresa4
    theresa4 Member Posts: 696
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    Hi all I'm still floating around drugged to the eyeballs pain is finally subsiding or my nerve endings are numb from dihydrocodeine. I've not been able to Play with my granddaughter as she is so big now And very heavy she is crawling now and walking with furniture so sweet.
    As for the business we have been in this position before but the bank is less thAn supportive this time which is A major worry.
    I just want to be normal I'm putting on weight cos I can't walk I feel so ugly and fat and hate that I limp and can't wear my heels or drive Or walk my dog. 6 years and back to squAre one again. I cried myself to bed last night going up the stAirs my hubby is thinking of making me andownstaira room if we ever sort financials out.
    Well think I've moaned enough for the day again

    Theresa x
    There are many things in life that will catch your eye, but only a few will catch your heart...pursue those. --Michael Nolan



    Theresa xxx
  • caterina57
    caterina57 Member Posts: 1,424
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    Hi Theresa
    So sorry that you are having a tough time of it at the moment, but I am sure that things will soon pick up for you. Sounds like your hubby is a kind considerate guy thinking of making a downstairs room for you and it sounds like you have got a supportive family and cute grandaughter, The lighter nights are coming and it has to get warmer soon.

    Mind you we all get down don't we, that is why this site is so good it offers support and you can rant all you want. I live on my own, never been married and have no kids, so at times I can find life a bit lonely. Particularly at the moment - I have been off work sick 8 weeks and dont get paid only get SSP so I know where you are coming from when you say you are worried about finances.

    Anyway take care and I am sure that things will get better soon

    Cath
  • barbara12
    barbara12 Member Posts: 21,281
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    Hi Theresa
    I am so sorry you are going through all this, many of us can relate to what you are going through...even the finacial stuff.
    Please carry on talking to us, then at least you are unburdening yourself, this will help a little.
    And when you see your GP try and explain all of this, I know its not easy, but please try.
    Sending you lots of hugs ((((((()))))
    Love
    Barbara x
    Love
    Barbara
  • puffin
    puffin Member Posts: 67
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    Hi Theresa,
    You now have an appointment with your GP and also have this forum as an outlet but I wonder whether your husband has a listening ear apart from you. Reading you have a grandchild, you must have a son or daughter. Are they being supportive by listening and able to give some practical help?
    I am also wondering who might help your husband convert a downstairs room for you if this becomes needed. (You could always think of this as a winter arrangement until you find out what you can manage when the warmer days come.)
    Perhaps a visit from an OT might help. He/she may be able arrange for the furniture shifting for you if there was some other input from them. (I had an assessment of my furniture for example, and a couple of men came and raised the bed and the settee on shaped blocks.)
    Hope your GP offers help this week.
    Puffin
  • theresa4
    theresa4 Member Posts: 696
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    Hi puffin
    Yes I do have kids 4 two adults 2 teenagers so not much help there :( my hubby is very stressed and takes it out on me cos I can't support him in the business or emotionally any more I was his rock .
    The room downstairs he can do himself but he needs time and some Money which we have neither at present. Hey ho :)
    My gp is great so I can talk it all out with him I'm going to ask about anti Inflamatory gel as I can't take diclofenac due to stomachreaction. Can't go on with the level of inflammation and pain in ankles toes knees shoulders fingers wrist and elbows and can't go on takin dihydrocodeine at full dose daily. Spent most ofday high and confused.
    Anyway thank you all for taking the time to read my posts and caring it feels a little less lonely with my online friends x
    There are many things in life that will catch your eye, but only a few will catch your heart...pursue those. --Michael Nolan



    Theresa xxx
  • stickywicket
    stickywicket Member Posts: 27,719
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    Just keep plugging away until Thursday, Theresa4, and then make sure you tell your GP the lot. Don't get up on Thursday morning and decide you're not that bad....it's a bit better today....no need to mention all that to him/her. Something needs to change for you. Be gentle with yourself until Thursday.
    If at first you don't succeed, then skydiving definitely isn't for you.
    Steven Wright