wow at long last

only49

hello everyone

i got some good news i thought i share, some of you may remember i have had a battle on my hands to fight for what i believe my son needs at his school and it has not been easy i can tell you but as so many people have encouraged me, and believed in me to them i will say a big thank you, i could not of done it without you all.

in june this year there will be a school trip, which involves some nights away from home for my son, and as a family we have sat down and talked it through, and made the right decision for my son and that is she very clearly said he didn't want to go, so i emailed the teacher to let her know, and has replied and i am glad to say finally we have got a teacher who working for the best interest of the kids, and not themselves, and what they think is good for them, and also respecting us parents, and knowing that sometimes its not easy.

at last we can now start to more forward and work together as we always wanted, at last we got what we wanted, even if it has taken this long time and now only re enforces we must all trust our instincts and follow them what ever road it takes us down.

jillyb1

Lovely to get some good news , Sylvia , it just goes to show that the people who know what's best for children are their family ; the ones who know them best of all ! Jillyb

dreamdaisy

That is good news only49 - you know your boy best of all and from all you have told me about him I cannot believe that he could have handled being away from home in such a way, one night with family perhaps but with the school? No, that's not for D. It is so good the school have listened to you - well done. DD

mellman01

What's the problem with the lad?.

only49

mellman01 wrote:

What's the problem with the lad?.

he autistic which means he got a learning disability

only49

dreamdaisy wrote:

That is good news only49 - you know your boy best of all and from all you have told me about him I cannot believe that he could have handled being away from home in such a way, one night with family perhaps but with the school? No, that's not for D. It is so good the school have listened to you - well done. DD

well D D thats didnt last long ( meaning the school ) just had a phone call claiming he had said them he wants to go, my apologies but i do know him and i have talked to him and i feel he is being pressurized into to going, when i know he not happy, and to if i was him and i know i am not then i would do the same, if anyone knows anything about him would feel the same as me, i know if i was a child i would want someone when i needed someone to rely on and be there for me through thick and thin (as they saying goes ) i would want someone like me.

dreamdaisy

Oh dear, that did not last long indeed. I wonder if he has said 'yes' without really comprehending what the 'yes' actually means or entails. The school should realise that for D this is a huge, huge step and one that, I suspect, he is not yet ready for. I think you may have a tussle on your hands, only49. I am so sorry - and I have no doubt that you will stick up for your lad. DD

barbara12

Hi Sylvia
I remember way back when your battle began, I cannot understand them, if they are thinking about whats best for your son, then they need to listen to you his MUM.
I really do hope you get this sorted, its is all more stress for you.
Let us know how it all goes
Love
Barbara xx

frogmorton

Sylvia

All will be well, if he has been coerced he will be able to say what he wants to you and you will be able to sort it.

Love hugs and my support

toni xx

only49

thank you thank you all so very much your never ending support is most welcome.

tkachev

Hi Sylvia, it is highly likely they phrased the question in a way he did not understand.If he is not happy don't send him. My son goes away for 3 days in May again but it is a special school and the staff are all qualified for special needs and this makes a difference. I don't trust many people with my son unless they are trained even his grandparents lost him once, at night when he wandered out the front door and was found by a passing stranger next to a canal!

Elizabeth