Just been called a liar

PamieAFC1903 · 3. Mar 2011, 19:04

I was just called a liar by someone who I thought was a friend on my facebook.

As you all know I suffer from HMS/Arthritis. Now this girl who has NO medical knowledge, hasn't seen me over bend ANY of my joints, or even seen me when I have been in pain (mainly because the last time I saw her I wasn't diagnosed with having HMS and I wasn't suffering from the pain I am now).

I can't believe someone who thinks they know everything would do that, especially to someone they already know suffers from depression (then again she may think I am lying about that as well). I know her through a friend, and well, I knew who my friend would believe, so I just blocked, deleted and reported the lassie who accused me of lying (blocked and deleted my friend).

If this is how people in Fife act and are as shallow as a duck pond, I am so glad I am moving in 5 months time!. Don't need people like them in my life, I am just glad I have friends who believe me on there.... BTW who is on facebook here?

tjt6768 · 3. Mar 2011, 19:09

Don't do bumface hun...
Don't let em get to ya, Karma can be a real bee-hatch

caterina57 · 3. Mar 2011, 19:13

Oh Pamie I am sorry that your "friend" has done this to you - but dont let it get to you, I suppose it is hardfor others to understand - that is why this forum is so good- we may have different kind of probs but we know what Arther in is wildest form can be - dont let it get to you -- Where are you moving to - come to Yorkshire we are all friendly here!

Cath

PamieAFC1903 · 3. Mar 2011, 19:21

Oh Tony don't worry, I believe in karma, she's due to get married to a bloke who went AWOL from the Army so guess what may happen there.

Cath I'm moving to Aberdeen to study there. I can't wait like.

caterina57 · 3. Mar 2011, 19:38

I am on face book Pm me If you want details
Cath

katknapp · 4. Mar 2011, 04:15

Oh Pammie so sorry about your friend,i have lost a few so called friends because of arthur,they seem to think its like having a headache or something and all you have to do is take some aspirin and then your fine!!at least with this you find out who your true friends are,im on facebook pm me anyone,nice to chat to you all and be able to put faces to you all.....no stalkers though please lolxx

mellman01 · 4. Mar 2011, 04:26

Morning Pam well what can I say, been there got the T shirt and tatoos on this one, I like a lot of others on here have had to put up with this kind of s&^t and boy does it sting, as you say what goes round etc, I think the worst one for me was my best mate and his arogant brother turned on me in a pub one night for no reason, made me feel really small still haven't got over it, I guess you don't know who your freinds are till this kind of thing happens, a lot of people who you think are your freinds are as you say shallow on the inside, nothing you can do about them except keep them at arms length in future, thing is the odd idiot will get through your defences so don't be suprised if the odd sheep turns out to be a wolf some times if ya get me drift, it's all a learning curve, this illness set us all on a course into new and sometimes challenging waters regardless of choice, you have to go with the flow and deal with it one step at a time.
It may well be thier turn in the future then they will understand what you have had to suffer with.
Thing is you have to de clutter your life and sort through so many things and adapt to this illness this sadly will includ so called freinds, don't worry though were on here so feel free to moan vent rage at us, after all were all in this together.

PamieAFC1903 · 4. Mar 2011, 07:55

Thanks everyone, it is hard to believe so many people would turn on you when you have a problem.

tkachev · 4. Mar 2011, 08:30

Hi Pamie
I am on facebook. PM me if you would like.

I haven't yet had this said outright but I have had a few rubbish comments in my time.
Recently a couple of ladies came over to my car parked in disabled bay to ask about it as their sister had R.A and was getting a mobility car. So have I got R.A, I say. Well she is much worse than you they scoffed. Note I was sitting down during this conversation and had one crutch with me. I really wanted to hit them with my stick but I might have hurt my shoulder in the process.

Elizabeth

PamieAFC1903 · 4. Mar 2011, 09:12

Probably Tinks, I'm getting somewhere even having my depression, anxiety, pains etc

Elizabeth, some people just think their families are worse off than others, I know its actually happened in my family, where my aunt n uncle proclaimed to be worse off than us, yet both them work and only my mums works etc.

I will pm you with the link to my profile Elizabeth.

rugbygirl · 4. Mar 2011, 09:16

sorry to hear this Pammie

I am on facebook too if you want my details just PM me and I will let you have them.

THere is no one to be judgemental about anyone or anything. Unless you really know what this is like then you have no right to voice an opinion. Even then us sufferers dont know how each person copes with this disease because we all suffer so differently.

They are not worth bothering about if they are like that hun. Stick with the people who care.

seamonkey · 4. Mar 2011, 09:36

Some people! similar things have happened to me with friends and even family. i have lost alot of people who i used to think of as friends i do still have a couple of friends i know are here for me and for that im greatful. I hope you are happy with your move when it comes and that your studying goes fine, you are very brave taking that on when you are having trouble, well done you.

Seamonkey

tkachev · 4. Mar 2011, 12:17

Hi Pamie,

What upset me was that I have been bed ridden in the past and anyway it's not a game of who has worse R.A as we are all in this together. They could have asked me for some helpful advice!
Cheets for the link.

E

lupin15 · 4. Mar 2011, 13:00

Hi sorry to hear this has happened to you. I am also on facebook...again no stalkers please.

BoleynBlue · 5. Mar 2011, 06:13

Hi Pammie, friends like that are friends you definately dont need, you did the right thing to block them.

NinaKKang · 5. Mar 2011, 08:59

Hi Pammie

I'm on FB, look me up if you like. I've had several comments over the past couple of years about my RA, mainly along the lines of "Well, you don't look like you have RA". I used to get angry and retort that they had no idea how I was feeling or what I was going through and just because I didn't moan about it all the time, it didn't mean I wasn't suffering.

But now I just try a sarcastic line along the lines of what's already been said on this forum. Sad as it seems, you won't stop certain people thinking like this, you might as well save your energy for something else. What's the worst they can do? Nothing.

Nxx

rugbygirl · 5. Mar 2011, 10:19

Hey Pamie

Just wanted to say hi and to see how things are going with you. Hope you are feeling better. Look after yourself and know that we are all here for you.

katekelly · 5. Mar 2011, 15:21

Hi
Also had comments usually when I'm parked up now when I'm asked if my badge is mine I answer " Unfortunately yes!"

I'm on FB as well and is friends with a couple of ladies on here on there too (Did that make sense?).

PM me if you want to get my details.

Kate xx

suncatcher · 5. Mar 2011, 17:44

Yep I've had this to. They don't understand but if they were true friends they would listen and accept your word don't think this person is a true friend. With this disease you really find out who your friends really are it sorts the wheat from the chaff. B*****y painful though. hugs Joanne

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