So depressed

margareth64

Hi everyone not been on for a while. Im falling apart! Ive the Arther in lower back and my knee. Now on the sick with hip pain bursitis the physio said and arther too!! In both hips!!! Feel like crying my gp has me on Tramadol slow release and 15/500 cocodamol and wont give me anything else stronger. The physio is lovely and so nice she has given me excercises to do and they help a wee bit . My work is a big problem im a care assistant night duty in a nursing home its a private one so one ssp of £79 a week!!! Been off since start of Feb so they will prob get rid of me soon. Im so depressed just cry all the time every movement hurts and I cant get comfortable and cant sleep wth pain. My doc stopped alot of my meds I was on Lyrica and robaxin and 30/500 cocodamol he said I dont need them. Been for injections into my back last August ,Didnt help. Sorry about moaning but I ndont no how I can go on anymore.

Poppyg1rl

Hi Margaret,
Please, Please phone the helplines. You need to speak to someone who can listen, let you get it all out, have a good cry if you want to and then point you in the right direction for some help. I know you are in so much pain and not just physically, the worry over job and money can make Arthur so much worse. Please do call them, if you want to chat, PM me any time.
Hugs thinking of you Poppy Xxx

tjt6768

Hi Margaret, Poppy is right, you should ring the helpline on here, it's at the top of every page..
You really need to let it all out hun...
And don't apologise, this is why we are all here, to support one and other.. We really do understand..

Hope you are going to be ok...

Let us know

elnafinn

Hi Margareth

I am sorry to read how you are feeling but very understandable. You do need to talk and like others have suggested, please call the Helplines. They are extremely good listeners, understanding and helpful. Many people on the forum and others have benefited immensely by speaking with them. You do need to talk and a problem shared is a problem halved. Does your GP have any idea that you are feeling so low? I do hope that you will talk with your gp or the helplines. If it was me I would call the helplines because they give you all the time you need and you can guarantee that you will be made welcome.

Gentle hugs
Elna x

hileena111

I can only add to what the others have said.....Ring the Helpline.
One other thing....my physio referred me for acupuncture for my back and thats helping

Love
Hileena

dreamdaisy

The slow-release is OK but should perhaps be topped up with the 30/500 cocos. It's all well and good your doctor laying down the law about what you can and cannot take but YOU ARE THE ONE LIVING WITH THE REALITY. Not him. In my opinion he is not a good doc if he is allowing you to become so tired and distressed. Could you see another, perhaps more emapthetic doc at the practice or are you in the same situation as so many on here with no access to anyone else? It's not right, he is not caring for you in an adequate manner. It seems odd he took you off the meds that were helping: you were coping thanks to them, surely that is reason enough to keep on with them. Arthritis does not go away, it may go quiet but it doesn't leave and reduced meds have led to this situation. It's not on. Talk to the helpine for some further info and support and see if you can find another, more helpful doctor. I am so sorry - I wish you well. DD

suzygirl

Hi, sorry to hear you are in so much pain, it does really lower you. If you have bursitis in the hip, it needs treating it won't go away on its own. I had a steroid injection into the joint and it helped. It has come back now, but it gave me relief for a few weeks. Ask your rheumy for tretament.

caterina57

So Sorry that you are having these problems,I have similar problems to you with OA and also work in Care. I have just gone back after 10 weeks off - Only ssp too! I expected to be finished but after several meetings have been offered a different post part time which is fully office based. Speak to the helpline and speak to your employers. I was a 100% convinced I was going to be finished - but wasn't.
Cath

bubbadog

Hi Margaret, I only joined here a couple of days a go. But I wanted to say it was only because I had hit an all time low because of having 'flare up' and being in pain. And I came across the Arthritis helpline number in a pamphlet my doctor had given me. So I rang it and it was the best thing I had ever did! I chatted to a wonderful man he told me about this site and how it could help me. I chatted for well over an hour and I let out all my upset and anger, it was amazing. I felt so much better after!! So as someone who has been there making that call helped me out of that big hole of depression. Doing it will be the best thing you do today! bubbadog

chris7

Hi Margaret

Am only just catching up but just wanted to add something here and really hope you are having a better day today. Hope it did help a little to get this down and that maybe you will feel able to ring the helpline if you need too. I know they have helped many including me, when things seem so bleak they really do understand.
l leave a few gentle hugs ((( )))
Chris

Welcome bubbadog, sorry you have had to join us but I hope you will keep posting when you can. Hope today is a better one for you too. They are a supportive bunch here.
take care

frogmorton

Margaret

I agree with what some of the others have said - you are the one in pain and you are the only one who can judge how bad it is....there are surgical options for bursitis so it's not as though NOTHING can be done!

I know how vile it is as I really struggle to sleep and I only have ONE!!!

Do you take someone with you when you go to the docs I wonder? I think back-up may be what you need. Also you are not the kind of person who 'grins and bears it' at the doctors are you?

The time has come Mragaet to get tough with 'them' :sad: My heart goes out to you and 'they' have to be made to see it.

Love

Toni xx

julie47

Hi margaret

Just want to send a hug((((((((((())))))))and say I hope that today you feel a little better.

I would also if possible make an appointment to see a different doctor and see if they can help. And as tony suggests take someone with you.

I hope you get the right meds and treatment soon

Take care
Juliepf x

margareth64

Many thanks for all your support. I went back to my doctor and she is sending me for xray she has put me on anti depressants . Alot of people suggested that I take someone with me, unfortunately that is not possible, husband works long hours and Ive got two kids of 19 and 20 that is all ive no other family and im sorry to say ive no friends either. So when I go to doc its just me! Maybe the tablets will help, but im considering changing to another practice perhaps this is better idea??

dreamdaisy

We cannot help you on whether you should change practices or not - that can only be your decision. Your doctor now seems to be taking a more pro-active stance with you - is this because you told her how low you were feeling? Doctors cannot divine information about us from thin air - sometimes we have to spell things out for them because they will not necessarily understand how we are or are not coping with arthritis etc. If you still feel unhappy with this GP then perhaps asking around for other people's experiences at a different practice might help you to make the decision to move. Do you know anyone else who has similar problems to you (am I right in thinking you have OA?) They might know of a more empathetic doctor - but at least yours has now responded to your plight. I hope the tablets help - I found them very helpful a fair while ago. DD

martyn

I have learn't one thing over the last 5 years.
Doctors want an easy life too - They are human after all

I have a bit of advise Either
Make a FUSS
or get someone to make a FUSS for you

Go to the doctor and tell him/her how bad it really is
Write it all down on a bit of paper
- Pain
- Not sleeping
- tiredness
- the crying

Tell it like it is - it hurts, it's ****, your worried about your job

There is another choice of course !
You can do nothing and nothing will happen

Sorry, I seem to be a bit blunt - I do care - been were you have and it's dreadful - For me I had a friend who slammed his fist down on the doctors table saying 'he doesn't need and more pain killers'

Martyn

BTW - Moaning only counts as moaning if you complain about stuff for no reason if you have a reason your not moaning

julie47

Hi margareth64

I am glad you have now seen your gp and she is sending you for xrays. She will then perhaps be able to give you the correct medication.
I hope that the anti depresants help in the meantime.
Take care
Juliepf x