To be on the other side

woodbon

Hi, I took my husband, Jerry to have a mole removed on Thursday afternoon. All seems to have gone well but, we have to wait for the biopsy result to be certain.

The experience has taught me just how hard it is to be the one left waiting, helpless to do anything to help. In my own mind, everything that could go wrong would and I am not ashamed to admit how frightend I was and still am until everything is over and a result given. I would have given anything to have had the mole on me and not on my lovely husband, who does so much to help me and always has.

Well, we are, as I said waiting now, but I feel a lot better today, yesterday I slept off the nerves! I think that I have never really realised just how stressful being the one waiting outside is. I hope from now on I am much more appriacative of my lovely husband and understand the stress he feels about me when things happen.

Thats all that I wanted to say, really. To share the experience of the shoe being on the other foot. I'm sure most of you have been where I am but its all new to me! He seems fine since the op but, he did realise, dispite my trying to hide it just how stressed I was! Love Sue

chris7

Hi Sue

Yep it can almost seem so much harder eh? When my sis had her op a while ago, I was hundreds of miles away and worried myself stupid. Especially as her hubby hasn't got the hang of texting and I wasn't allowed a phone at work!! Cos it was a throat op and she couldn't speak for days, I fretted for days that she was putting on a brave face and felt so helpless. :???:

Hope you and hubby are getting over the experience and having a good weekend. Will keep my fingers crossed and hope the results are soon in and all clear.
look after one another.
love
Chris

barbara12

Hi Sue
Its good of you to share this with us, like you say seeing it all from the other side gives you some idea of what your oh has gone through, when you have been waiting for results.
In a way it is good to know, you can now help each other.
I do wish your OH well, and have everything crossed for him.
Please let us know how he is doing.
Love
Barbara xx

constable

I am used to being on the other side, my OH has had so many ops now. The 3rd one I nearly lost him his lungs started to collapse. And they could'nt even be bothered to tell me.

So I think it will be the other side for my hubby.

Karen xx

ratface

Hi Sue,

Hope you dont have to wait too long for the results and hope that the results are good, keeping my fingers crossed for you both.

Ratface xxxx

woodbon

Hi, Still waiting, but that to be expected its only a week today that the op was done!
Karen, I'm sorry you are going through such a worrying time with your husband. I hope that the outlook for him is better soon. I feel that compared to some people, I'm lucky and thinkg could be so much worse. For me it was the first time for a long time that I've been the one sitting and waiting, certainly the first time I've been that close to the person. It's a whole new experience for me. Special love to you, Karan.
Thanks for the support, I'll let you know when I do!
LOve Suexxx

ironic

Hello Sue,
I do hope he gets his results soon it is so hard waiting for them. Fingers crossed that you both will be able to relax soon.
You have a great partnership there and it does bring it home when the shoe is on the other foot so to speak.
Lv, Ix