Crying Wolf????

wendgro
wendgro Member Posts: 296
edited 15. May 2011, 10:38 in Living with Arthritis archive
Has anyone got a hypochondriac for a neighbour what do you do give lip service???

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  • frogmorton
    frogmorton Member Posts: 30,026
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Yep and YEP!!!!

    It's actually a member of my extended family and by the heck does it DO my 'ead in!!!!

    Patience and tolerance Wend :wink:

    Love

    Toni xx
  • barbara12
    barbara12 Member Posts: 21,281
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Yip one of my family as well....I bite my lip has my mother would say....and dont forget they really do believe that they have these illnesses.
    Barbara x who's lip will be bleeding tonight.. :roll:
    Love
    Barbara
  • stickywicket
    stickywicket Member Posts: 27,764
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Oh wendgro, this is a tough one.

    For some reason such people, knowing and/or seeing you have a chronic disease yourself, assume there is nothing you like better than for them to rehearse all the symptoms of their own imagined illnesses. They can’t believe that, actually, we prefer to try to get away from ours as much as we possibly can.

    In my younger days I was kind and sympathetic. No longer. To be honest, I’m not sure it really does them any good to be encouraged in their delusions. Also in my younger days I knew lots of these people. Kindness and sympathy only attract them. Now they all seem to have b#ggered off and left me with just the normal, sensible types who are good fun to be with.

    Whatever you do, don’t let them keep you standing on one arthritic leg for hours while they waffle selfishly on.
    If at first you don't succeed, then skydiving definitely isn't for you.
    Steven Wright
  • cpontefract
    cpontefract Member Posts: 73
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    yep, again family members and other people.

    Try and just ignore it these days lol have enough problems of my own to fight with!

    Actually went to the hairdressers a few weeks back and she was more concerned about moaning about her aches and pains than cutting my hair, ended up and a terrible cut and had to pay someone else to sort it out
    Claire
    Keep Smiling :D
  • carola
    carola Member Posts: 786
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Aye, however I try to heed my Gran's saying, "Your pain, is YOUR pain".

    I guess maybe MY pain seems tiny to some people and huge to others,

    I try to remember that it is all relative ..... and then maybe mutter under my breath as they walk away haha!
  • jillyb1
    jillyb1 Member Posts: 1,725
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Elderly auntie , and unfortunately she is staying with us at the moment for 2 weeks ! Drives us up the wall , round the bend and back again . Jillyb
  • wendgro
    wendgro Member Posts: 296
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Loved having your replies glad that you all know what I am talking about. It's true whatever you say they have it or think they have it. In my neighbours case she never comes round to my house and says "how are you do you need any shopping" she only ever comes with another new symtom these concerns range from diabetes(my husband has diabetes) severe constipation, piles, urine infection, and loads and loads she looks things up in a book then usually has the symptoms.She is at the GP's every week then moans because he won't give her anything pills etc.The best solution I found is to avoid her, her husband is just as bad I would like to say throw the book away and be glad you are still active and well, that you can walk without pain and do all your household chores without help, because there are an awfull lot of us who can't do these things.Said my peace now I must stop moaning it brings :| me down to her level
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Apparently it's a genuine illness, but I have to admit I cannot take that view. I recorded a Channel 4 documentary about hypochondria and watched it for about ten minutes before I had to stop and delete it. A more self-absorbed and selfish bunch of people surely could not exist. The amount of their own time, their families' time and their GPs' time they wasted was frightening, as was the way people danced around them and gave them credence. Utterly astonishing. I wonder if a cure would be to give them what they dread? Would that take away the fear and apprehension they struggeld with or would they then invent a new concern? My money would be on the latter. DD
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • wendgro
    wendgro Member Posts: 296
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    I have thought of that would bad news really shut them up? the trouble is people like that rarely do get bad news.
  • dreamdaisy
    dreamdaisy Member Posts: 31,520
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    They are always physically healthy - it's a mental disorder so I suppose that if they fear a heart attack and you give them a heart attack they will still fear getting another heart attack. There's no pleasing a hypochondriac. I know it is a matter of the mind playing tricks but I still cannot help but think that selfishness and insecurity is at the root. Bad girl, DD, you is a bad girl.
    Have you got the despatches? No, I always walk like this. Eddie Braben
  • elainebadknee
    elainebadknee Bots Posts: 3,703
    edited 30. Nov -1, 00:00
    Hi Wendgro

    Oh gosh this reminds me of a lass i used to know...Whenever she used to go to doctors, never came out with a normal cold, symptoms etc...Always had to have something the doctor has never heard before, always told she was worn out terribly and it was always something undiscovered...In the end you switch off dont you, well i did? Dont think people realise what a bore they can be....Like at hydro pool, i dont ask anyone whats up with them unless they decide to tell me, we go there to get relief!

    Elainex
    wendgro wrote:
    Has anyone got a hypochondriac for a neighbour what do you do give lip service???

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