Another one of them days

cpontefract

Dont you just hate it when you wake up to arguing in the house, you just know its gonna be a bad day!!!

Woke up to my mum shouting down the phone to the lad who lives with us (long story, but hes my sister ex-boyfriend, he moved in after having problems with his mum about 8 years, & major-ly takes the mick). My mum dotes on him, & he cant do anything wrong in her eyes. He gets brought cups of tea and his dinner to his bedroom etc. :eek: I know right!!

So after all the screaming she left (to pick him up from his girlfriends, again :eek: )
Me and hubby got up, and went out shopping (only gone half hour) & was nice to stretch my legs. As soon as we walked in through the door we got hit from all angles, the garden needs cleaning, the dog poo needs picking up, look at the mess here blah blah blah.

Ever since I was put in my first plaster I have always said i have no problem with cleaning up round the house, as everyone else works, but i have to do it at my pace and spread through the day. But i really am beginning to think (again) that my mum just doesnt believe me when i say im in pain and sore. So looks at me and just says 'yeh?? so am i). My mum has no medical problems shes just overweight (same as me, yet I seem to have inherited every previous family members illnesses). So anyway I went and cleaned up the doggy poo (they are my dogs) then took hubby to work. by this time i was sooo worked up i didnt have a clue what was going on. I needed to get my picture done to apply for my bluebadge, put £2 in, which the machine swallowed, it would take my other £3, and i could feel myself getting upset, so i just left. Just got up and hobbled out, went to the car and just drove home.

Im not sat in my room, weeping with self pity, still listening to arguments and doors banging. I just wish I had won the Euros last night and could drive (coz i couldnt run) a million miles away from everyone... or even to the in-laws. They are so understanding, and caring, just wish my own mum and dad were the same.

Anyway rant over.... sorry for blabbing on, Im gonna make some notes to remember for when I go to the GPs on Monday..... oh and the bedroom door has just gone and i've been told I was asked to get milk and bread when I went out, first i knew!! Wheres that big hole for me to jump into...........

madwestie

Oh Claire, it sounds like you are havingthe osrt of day that would have been best had you stayed in bed with your head under the covers.

This is the best place for you to blab, rant and just generally let it all out we all understand.
Do your in laws live a long way away? are there any friends you could visit it sounds like you need to get out of the house for a while.

Have you tried getting your mum to read the arthritis leaflets.

I am sending you a big hug and a Kiss from Maddie (my little westie)

Tracey

cpontefract

awww thanks Tracry.
The in laws live about 2hours away, not to far, but dont wanna impose at the mo as their doing their house up.

Friends.... well id love to say yes, but I got in some trouble a few years back with the police, and its fair to say they pretty much all turned their backs on me! My best mate lives in Southampton (about 4/5 hours away) and is a police man so its hard to catch him on his time off as hes also in the Navy!

My mum always says she understands what im going through, but shes a bit of a drama queen (as horrible as it is to say about your own mum) she likes to make things worse than they already are.

Im doing some looking into moving out, looking at what benefits etc we could get. Its so daunting, when theres noone who will sit down and say you will get this, this and this ... but Ill get there!

Thanks for the hugs and kisses Maddie! Im about to join my 2 dogs on the sofa xx

madwestie

Claire,

When i was looking into DLA i contacted an organisation called DIAL they deal with all sort of disabilty related things including independant living, they may be able to help you
It does sound like getting some space of your own would help.
I have met some lovely friends through walking Maddie we now all walk really slowly and not very far (as i walk with a crutch now)and sit down often but we can all have a good chat and laugh which helps.

I hope the day gets better for you

Tracey

cpontefract

Thanks again Tracey! Just looked up DIAL and there is a branch about 20 mins from my house!

Shall give them a call after my doctors visit Monday morning!
xx

kneegirl

Big hugs Claire - email me if you want to chat - I try to be a good listener and certainly keep things to myself.

Just looked at DIAL - looks good but my nearest one is Scarborough

xxxx

cpontefract

awwwwww thank you so much Kneegirl

I just know my mum will end up giving me 'the talk' tomorrow
just gotta keep my cool & keep my point across, for example everyone going out and leaving washing on the line, then huffing when they come home coz its still there..... ummmmmmm I cant pull the line down!!!

But thank you very much! Ill keep yous all updated xx