Feeling low, sorry!

suzygirl

I am sorry to be so negative, but I am feeling so low. I just feel that this blooming rubbish has made me such a nasty, short tempered irritable person. I said as much to my hubby today and he was shocked I felt like that.

I hate it all, I just feel so much loss, friends, work, life, personality, social life etc. I do, just 'get on with it' but, its so hard.

Sorry all to be so negative, I just needed to let out how I am feeling. maybe it will enable me to move on.

I don't normally complain, but some days it is all just too much.

Poppyg1rl

My dear Suzy,
We all feel like that from time to time, you're not alone and you're perfectly entitled and welcome to vent on here, we understand.
Its a bit of a grieving process isn't it? I found myself going through the different stages, denial, anger but ultimately acceptance. BUT for me, acceptance on my terms, for instance, very recently my niece Orla and I 'decorated' my walking stick...with purple/glitter spray paint I'm 39, if I have to use a stick it'll be on my terms
Suzy, you are very welcome to pm me if you would like to talk? I'm not sure I can give many pearls of wisdom, but I'm a good listener, I'd be happy to help. Also you could give the helplines a ring? theyre really good too.
Thinking of you Suzy, sending many hugs and positive thoughts your way xxx

valval

hi suzy i to have been feeling down lately so not posted as much just popped on to see if anyone needed suport. today the pain quite bad so feel it was arther letting me know he was going to pay a visit but we paste a smile on our face and get on with life there nothing else to do unless we sit in a dark room and cry for all we have lost and that just letting arther win. so leaving you a hug and positive thoughts(not sure got many to spare but you are welcome to some) to help you through val

stickywicket

Suzygirl, I'm so sorry you're feeling like this and I do hope it'll pass quickly. Negativity is a very rational reaction to the many losses you mention. We all get times when trying to be upbeat is just too much of a struggle & the pain & losses you speak of just become overwhelming. I personally find I cope with the big stuff then something trivial sends me zooming over the edge.

You are certainly not 'a nasty person'. I don't think you'll find anyone on these forums who would agree with you on that point. 'Short-tempered and irritable'? Your husband clearly doesn't think so or he wouldn't have been so surprised.

We are all swimming against the tide, Suzygirl. There's no harm in stopping to tread water occasionally. We can't all be Pollyannas all the time. Don't be too hard on yourself.

skezier

Hi Suzy,

Sorry your feeling down just no, it will pass flower but sometimes you need some time out and cus this bone stuff really is shift.

I agree your not a nasty person at all and don't think you could find anyone to agree you are. Its just hard to not have the occasional bowl of teasey flakes when there is constant pain and frustration in everything you do.

You hang in there and I really hope you will feel more your self tomorrow. A (((( )))) and a bucket of better day draft. Cris xx

dreamdaisy

We're a beach and the pain is the sea. It never stops, its tide rolls in and out, sometimes it's quiet and sometimes it's stormy and sometimes it (and all the emotions it brings with it) are a tsunami. It can overwhelm us, knock us off our feet (that's not hard, after all) drown us, smother is in the feelings you have described, but then it rolls away again, we regain our balance, pick ourselves up and, as the song says 'start all over again'.

I find that if things are getting too much I warn Mr DD - the usual phrase is 'Stuff hurts, I'm tired and tetchy' then he knows that I am not coping that well and he usually responds by being more solicitous than usual, which helps. It is so difficult to manage our conditions, manage the regimen of pills, manage the day-to-day crud of life and yet somehow others expect us to remain a serene, smiling angel of warmth to all and sundry? I think not.

Mr SG is there for you and so are we. I am thinking of you. DD

suzygirl

Thank you all, you really helped me. I have sort of had a better nights sleep, which is part of the problem, although woke up to yet another migraine. It was so nice to log on this morning and see all your helpful comments and thoughts.

It is so very much appreciated. Try again today, is all I can say!!

Airwave!

Blimey DD, bit early in the morning for all this prosaic analogy stuff, more t required while I let that soak in to my soul.........

How's zat?????

Don't worry, we all feel up and down, none of us can get away with 'normal' feelings.

Starburst

((((Suzy))))

Firstly, you don't have to apologise for feeling low. Never apologise, we all understand. I like DD's analogy. I may have to steal that!

I'm glad you were able to get some sleep. Lack of sleep has been proven to have negative effects on your mood. From what I've seen on here, you are the furthest thing from a 'nasty, irritable person'. You're only human, it's ok to have days when you're not at your best, especially given all the rubbish you have to deal with.

You're right, all you can do is to try again today. Each and every day is a new one.

Take care.
Sophie x

sharmaine

Hi Suzy

Just writing to say don't apologise for 'feeling low' - I think most of us have experienced what you're going through. I had to give up my job because I couldn't cope with the commute and it took me a good year to get used to being at home and coping with arthritis a tkr etc.

I think you learn to adjust and the forum is a good place to get tips; advice and sympathy because we've all been there.

Arthritis is bad enough and not sleeping because of it makes it ten times worse. See you GP and explain what you're going through. Many of us, I think, take amytriptiline before bed (I generally take mine between 7-8pm) and it really helps me to sleep. It is a relaxant and it's a joy to have rest without waking up because you can't get comfy. If you can sleep you have the energy to cope with the day. Two years ago I invested in a memory foam mattress topper and this helps too. I bought some memory foam pillows but I just can't get on with them. It's like sleeping on a rock.

Take care
Sharmaine
XX

tillytop

Hello Suzy

Just logged on and seen your post and I am so sorry you are struggling. I can't add anything to the wise things which have already been said, other than to say that I really do understand having had, as you know, a bit of a "meltdown" myself in the past couple of weeks.

Thinking of you Suzy - and do we need to launch that pirate ship again?

Loads of love and ((()))s

Tilly xxx

stickywicket

For Suzygirl's sake I hope not, Tillytop, but I get my sealegs on just in case.

tillytop

Sticky!

Tilly xxx

barbara12

Hi Suzy
Im so sorry you are having such a bad time, the others have said it all really, you have been so good at supporting others , so try to get some me time.
And please dont apologise for having a moan...sending you lots of hugs (((()))) to be going on with.

80squeen

Hi am so sorry you are feeling low-I know just how you feel I think! I cant really add to what others have said other than to add my support and to say dont apologise and we all know how you feel! Takecare regards Josie x

suzygirl

Hi guys thanks so much, you are great. I have had a better day today once my migraine meds kicked in. Got the house more back to normal today and I heaved ahuge sigh of relief. Then as it was so sunny, hubby lit the bbq and I enjoyed a cold beer or two!!!

We had a good chat and he said I hadn't been snappy or irritable considering I had slept on a mattress on the floor for 2 weeks!! :shock: He was amazed I had even thought that, which made me feel better. Then I have logged in here and seen everyones lovely encouraging words of support.

It is so tough dealing with this pig of a beast and all the frustration. We all need to help each other through. Thanks for being there for me.

Hope you are all having a great start to the weekend.

bubbadog

Hi Suzy, Glad things are good, And I wish you a great weekend and if you ever low again you know what to do! Take care and ((HUGS)) Amanda, (bubbadog).

tillytop

Evening Suzy.

Was so pleased to read that things had improved for you yesterday - and that the house is now back to normal. As you say, what a relief! And I'm glad you felt able to talk to hubby about how you were feeling.

Have been thinking of you, and hoping today has been another better day for you.

Lots love and ((()))s,

Tilly xxx

suzygirl

Thanks Amanda and Tilly, it is so nice to have my house back to normal!!

Poppyg1rl

It is so good that you and your OH had time together to discuss how you were feeling. Im so glad that you're feeling a little better, always remember we are here for you. X

suzygirl

Thanks poppygirl, I appreciate your support when you are going through so much yourself. I will take you up on your offer of PM.

tillytop

Hello Suzy

Really hope that you are starting to feel better now the house is back to normal.

Thinking of you.

Lots love Tilly xxx

ironic

Hi Suzy,
Oh I am glad you sat down and had a good talk with you OH. It is good to clear the air so to speak.
Pity the weather has changed yet again. Never mind perhaps next weekend will bring on another BBQ.

Gentle hugs,
Lv, Ix

skezier

Hi Suzy,

Really am glad you and your oh has a chat about it all. Its so helps if you each know where the other one is and really glad he is the kind of guy who is willing to talk openly, I honestly think thats how it should be.

Leaving you a bucket of better day draft and a ((((( ))))) with a giant hope that tomorrow will be a good day fr you. Oh and a small packet of cat treats might be handy for you as well as a cuppa with milk Cris xx

bubbadog

Hi Suzy, Glad things are looking better, if you ever start feeling low again and need a shoulder just PM me and we can talk. Amanda, (bubbadog). xx

suzygirl

You are all suchh lovely and supportive peeps and I so appreciate it. I am feeling better, just very tired, so am planning on taking it easy this week!!

Cris, thanks for the cat treats, Izzy says ty!!!

I just hope that I can help you as much as you have supported me.

(((hugs))) to all.