MADELEINE MCCANN BOOK

scorpio

Just bought this and i am struggling through it............it is a harrowing narrative of the horrible events in Portugal

please buy this, it will help keep the search alive (as all royalties go to the search for madeleine fund)

i am sorry to spam the site, but as a father i feel choked about what has happened and hopefully one day she will return to where she belongs (Home with her family)

frogmorton

Ah Scorpio

so very sad.

I hope taught all parents not to leave their kids alone :sad:

I was actually thinking about downloading it to my (new) kindle....dont know if that reduces their 'cut' to fund the search.

Love

Toni xx

barbara12

Hi Scorpio
I have looked at it, but to be honest I dont want to read something so harrowing...especially to do with children.
Like you say wouldn't it be wonderful if one day soon they have her home.

dreamdaisy

If they had acted in a responsible manner they would never have lost her. I feel far more for the families of Ben Needham and James Bulger - just a second or two inattention from the parents and the child is gone. The McCanns left three children, all aged under four, alone. I am sure their pain continues and will haunt them for the rest of their lives but I find it impossible to sympathise with them. DD

pheebs

Hi,

I agree with DD - I find it very hard to sympathise with parents who could leave alone 3 children under the age of 4 especially in a strange country. If the McCanns were parents from lower down the social ladder they probably wouldn't have had nearly as much support.

However I do feel for little Madeline and the what she must have, or perhaps still is, going through.

Pheebs

joanlawson

Which parent can honestly say that they have never made a mistake in the course of bringing up a child :?: The McCanns have paid a dreadful price for their mistake, but whatever we think about their actions, the important thing is that the search for Madeleine should continue. I am doubtful that she will ever be found, but miracles do happen.

dreamdaisy

Of course all parents make errors, 'tis the nature of parenthood, but that was an error that did not have to be made, that is why I struggle with feeling compassion for them. They are educated people, they probably read a few baby books whilst waiting for Maddy to be born, which one said that is was OK to leave very small children alone whilst you waltz out for dinner with friends? That is the bit I wrestle with.

Children change your life. You become responsible for tiny scraps of humanity who, when very small, look at you with eyes of infinite trust and wisdom. Broadly speaking children begin to become a little more independant after the age of five, more so by ten, frightening things from another planet between thirteen and twenty, then they are (usually) ready to go and forge their own lives. Madeleine has been denied all that 'cos mummy and daddy went out for dinner.

jillyb1

DD , you have expressed so well what I struggle to put into words ! As a parent of 3 lovely children ( now 3 wonderful adults ) , I never dreamt of leaving them alone ; either at home or on holiday . Cannot imagine how an intelligent person can possibly feel it's ok to desert their vulnerable babies for the sake of food and vino . Jillyb

alanthemanc

DD. Couldn't agree with you more..... these were 2 well educated people, from middle class backgrounds who took a risk they shouldn't have done.
If they were a couple from a sink estate, the public would have had them thrown in Irons, and given 20 year sentences. Who says there is no class division in Britain today.

tjt6768

Wasn't going to comment on this one as I may start ranting and that's not what the original post was intended for..
I am afraid that I am well and truly on DD's side with this one though.
I do truly hope that one day that little girl will turn up safe and sound, personally I think the chances slim to none.. It is a sad state of affairs but I for one would never have left my kids like that for the sake of some poncy wine and a bit of grub.
Please please correct me if I am wrong but was something said about them doping the kids up?? I hope that I am wrong on that...... :shock:

I will leave it at that, I hope that my opinions have not upset anyone, that wasn't my intention, hence the hold off on the rant, lol..

valval

dd and tony you both said much better than i could how i feel about this.
if it had been some one from a council estate there other children would have been taken from them as well i do feel for any children taken for what they may have faced or still be facing they were either taken to be adopted by rich couples who can afford to pay lots of money for a child, or to be sold into the sex trade.
you have to hope it adopted but why did they not take the others never have understood that it all seemed very off at the time could not read this book would be to hard val

julie47

Here Here to DD

Juliepf x

joanlawson

Please note that in my previous post I did not mean to excuse the McCanns for leaving their children alone. I would never have left my twins alone in that way; in fact, I think I was over-protective of them if anything.

I think that the McCanns accept that what they did was wrong, but the backlash against them has hindered the search for Madeleine in many ways, which is very sad. Whatever our opinion of the parents, we have to hope that one day they will find their daughter again.

Joan

barbara12

Joan I understood what you were saying, its so easy to criticise others.

joanlawson

barbara12 wrote:

Joan I understood what you were saying, its so easy to criticise others.

Thanks Barbara. I remember losing my daughter, when she was only three, on the beach when we were on holiday. I only took my eye off her for a split second, but she disappeared in a flash. I can remember the sick feeling and sheer panic of realising that I couldn't see her anywhere. Luckily, she was found playing behind some deckchairs after about five minutes, much to my relief. I think they were the longest five minutes of my life.

Joan

barbara12

Joan I have had that happen with my sons...off they have trotted down to the sea, and then come back up the beach in another direction, like you say those few mins feel like a lifetime...my worst one, and dont forget it was the 1970s was having a babysitter at butlins.....I go cold thinking about it.

NinaKKang

Like most of you, I agree that the McCanns leaving their little children alone was an insane thing to do and they will regret that decision forever. Having to live with that for the rest of their lives will be punishment enough for them - can you imagine the endless "What ifs?" that are going through their minds daily?

We lost our middle daughter at the airport a few years ago when we went to India. She was 2 and a half and got lost in the crowd. She had been holding onto her little sister's buggy and I suddenly looked down and she wasn't there anymore. I felt like screaming and I still miss a heart beat when I remember those few moments before my hubby found her.

She's 9 now and still gets anxious in crowds, I know she does, she looks panicky and scared and we automatically reach out to her to reassure her. I'm not sure that's ever going to go away.

So how little Maddy is faring, snatched away so young, I just can't imagine.

Nina X

rugbygirl

This is one subject that is guaranteed to make my blood boil. I have three wonderful kids and i would never have dreamt to leave them alone for one second. Once the eldest had left senior school it was much easier to let go but even now I struggle to think of how anyone would deal with such an awful tradegy.

My heart goes out to Maddie where ever she is and I hope that they do find her but am worried for how scarred this little girl would be if she was found.

I am all for them finding her but I refuse to pay a penny for what is the biggest mistake of those parents lives. They will have to live with the fact that they chose to go out to dinner without their children rather than taking them with them.

Yes the parents were on holiday but arent the children on holiday too. Arent holidays the time when all rules and routines go out of the window and kids get to eat ice cream for breakfast and eat about 9 at night before going to bed about midnight only to start it all again.

The biggest bug bear of the lot is the fact that the site where they were has a baby-sitting service within the complex and you are then safe in the knowledge that the children are all looked after. I know this to be a fact as my step son went out there a few weeks earlier and took his kids with him. He was offered the service but he refused it because it was the kids holiday too.

They need to open their eyes and realise that they made the mistake and they should deal with it. Sorry I have no compassion for these people.

valval

one of the reasons i turn over when she comes onthe child i feel for but the mother well i have no words for her at all. i would never pay for a paper or magazine that prints her words and makes her money val