Scared of using my stick on the streets

barbara12

When I go out I normally have to get a taxi...if OH is working, but yesterday I was drop off at the bus stop by my neighbour...and while waiting...I had all soughts of abuse...mostly to do with having a stick.. gangs of youngster shouting and calling me names I wont mention....and threatening to take the stick off me :shock: what on earth is wrong with these people....when I was young I remember helping people like me with there shopping bags .....

mellman01

Bloody hell Babera that's awful what kind of world do we live in these days I don't know what to say this is awful, have you spoken with the Coppers and the local plastic policpersons.

barbara12

Hi Mel
Where I live there are no buses, so I have to go on the estate nearby.....its so scary....I wouldn't mind but i was born on the very same estate...and everyone knew one another....but now it has gone down hill...I did speak to our local bobby...but him being not much more then 20 himself...I dont think they realise how awful it can be.
A couple of years ago I would have had my say and retaliated...but not anymore ...

prefabkid47

Unfortunately so many kids today have it drummed into them their rights and never their obligations and also with no respect for authority or other people.
Much of the blame has to aimed at the parents and to those connected with these civil rights/liberties (the latter more concerned with the guilty rather than the victim).

joanlawson

That's really shocking, Barbara :shock: You must have felt very vulnerable standing at the bus stop with all that going on. Were there any other people there with you? I hope that you weren't alone. It's a very sad state of affairs when youngsters have so little respect for other people. Maybe no-one at home has shown them any respect themselves; perhaps that's how these kids end up the way they are, but it doesn't excuse their behaviour.

barbara12

You are right...the parents do need to take some of the responsibility...I have raised two sons, and now two Granddaughters and neither of them would treat there elders like this.
These kids are our future...god forbid ...I just cant get my head around all this.... it will have to be taxis from now on.

dachshund

Hi Barbara.
i'm so sorry that happened to you people have not got any respect for anyone these day's.
is there a friend who could go with you.
take care. joan xx

frogmorton

prefabkid47 wrote:

Unfortunately so many kids today have it drummed into them their rights and never their obligations and also with no respect for authority or other people.


My girls regularly come home with homework from their 'citizenship' lessons

they cover all sorts of areas such as civil rights AND responsibilities. In fact my youngest 13 and half was doing a piece on the 'wasp' a device invented to move groups of young people on from outside of shops.

In order to do the piece she had to think of the argument from several sides, the kids, the shopkeepers the children and teenagers and police.

I think this is compulsory as part of children's education these days....

Barbara l am so so sorry those kids were so horrible to you....this is not acceptable behaviour as far as l am concerned.

I wish l had a useful suggestion to make??? There was a time l woudl have suggested you aply for DLA and take a taxi or something, but that's so hard to get these days isn't it? :roll:

Love and HUGs

Toni xx

charrisse

I'm afraid that kids are not the only ones who have no respect for the disabled!
When I go to visit my daughter the taxi driver will come upstairs to my first floor flat and collect my suitcase and the same when I come home again. On this last trip when I got home the taxi driver moaned and groaned and eventually after I had said that he was the only one who had refused my request in years, took my suitcase and deposited it at the porch entrance. When I then said that I really would have liked him to take it upstairs he came out with a string of cursing at me saying that he was a taxi driver and not a B delivery man! My first reaction was to refuse to pay him so he made an effort to snatch my £20 note from me but failed. So then he grabbed my back and went off to his cab with it saying he was going to call the police!
At this point as I was soo tired after travelling all day I just paid the fare and left it at that. I think in hindsight I could have well called the police on him.
Needless to say after dragging my case up the stairs it has taken several days to get over it.
I have never been treated soo rudley by a taxicab driver before. They are usually so helpful and obliging and I always like to give them a decent tip for their trouble...Just hope I don't bump into him again!! :shock:

traluvie

Barbera..

That is awful..
Would loved to have beaten em with my stick
Some kids have no respect and it makes me sick to my stomach.. it costs nothing to have manners and respect..
I will not let my kids be rude or disrespectful.. if they are they will be punished..
Sorry to hear they have made you feel the way you do.. i wonder how they would like it if the roles were reversed???

constable

Barbara, that is terrible and you must have been scared. Why do the parents not teach their young ones the respect and manners that they should have. I can only think that those type parents do not have any respect themselves.

I've bought my girls up to show respect and manners when out and about. Also their school teaches that as well. They go to a school which has another school within it. Purely for children with disabilities etc. The main school is expected to interact with the other pupils. And I think that is really good for showing respect for others.

I am so sorry this happened to you Barbara, I wish I could have been there to.


Karen xx

barbara12

Thanks everyone
Im 61 and I thought i would feel like this when im in my 70s or 80s, but since arthur came to visit it dosnt take much to make me feel vulnerable, but I wont let them get the better of me.
charrisse Im so sorry you had to go through that with the awful taxi driver...what on earth is going on in this country, I do try to think that there are still lots of good people about, and this forum proves it .
Love to all of you.x

mellman01

There’s something wrong with the fabric of society I think, the Taxi drivers attitude is part of it, we came back from Africa in 91 3 weeks of adventure didn’t meet anyone who wasn’t nasty until we came into Heathrow and the bus driver of the coach was a right w*&£er a right grumpy b%$£*rd, I almost said if he didn’t like his job then why doesn’t he f%&$k off and find one he likes.
We have been desensitised by the constant stream of twats that are dragged up on estates where there are few whole families and the people breed like rabbits and expect the state to pay for everything and the schools to do their job of raising the little thugs as well, then to top it all of Liberty and such “human rights” pressure groups grab the metaphorical dog by the tail and wag it by giving the little sods more rights than their peers so the whole pecking order gets turned on it’s head, they remove “barriers” and effectively create juveniles who have no social boundaries and then run amok.
Then the human rights lot defend them in court by blaming everyone else for these little b*&%d’s crimes like it’s everyone’s fault but the parent and the child.
I watched a program the other night on homes for delinquent kids and there was the problem staring me in the face, this one little s(*t was using a band saw and lost his rag F’in and blinding and throwing wood at the turning blade, so what did the carer in charge do?. Tried to distract him away from the saw by being calm and nice to the thug, low and behold the thug just ignored him and then went on to annoy the kid nearest to him and the idiot carer just whaffled on to himself while the kid did his own thing still F’ing and blinding, all he needed to do was smack him on the ear with his palm and the message would have come though loud and bloody clear but you can’t do that so the wrong message got even deeper engrained into the kids head, ie the old git has no authority and can shove it up his chuffer.
So long as there are no boundaries no real punishment and no well earned reward then the pecking order and the respect of others and other peoples belonging’s just gets replaced by the view that there are no limits and it’s OK to do what you want to what or whoever you want when you want, and if you do they heap more attention on you each time you act up!.
Sorry spleens leaking!.

tonesp

What is wrong in Britain I used a stick here in Spain for months No hassle just offers of help Even from the kids

mellman01

God only knows, I think us being an island is all a cunning plan. it's kind of like a modern day Alcatraz only bigger and with no chance of parole!.

tkachev

Charisse,
It is best to stick with a regular company so they know you well and are aware that you need help with your suitcase. If he worked for the same company you could complain. I'm sure his boss would be unimpressed by his behaviour.

Barbara I find some groups of kids tend to egg each other on, trying to impress each other with how uncaring they are.

The only consolation is they will be old one day and their words might come back to haunt them.

E x

frogmorton

Ah yes Elizabeth

what goes around comes around

and Barbara...look what you've done?! Set Mell off

Love

Toni xx

kathbee

Thats just terrible Barbara
I have used a stick for the past 13 yrs or so due to
RA and OA, luckily I havent come across any form of
abuse for it.

I did get called Madge when I was on my mobility scooter
at the coast (Madge being off Benidorm if you arent familiar with
the programm), but the young fellas were being friendly.

Charrise,
I would def complain about this driver's attitude.
Its not good enough, who do these people think they are.
Maybe, just maybe, they might be in need of help themselves someday
through no fault of their own, although if that guy carries on like that
he might be beaten to a pulp and it will be his fault.

Kath

hileena111

Oh Barbara
I'm so sorry you had to go through all that.....you must have been really frightened. I know i would have......like you I woulnt have been a few years ago before arthur came to stay.
I dont know what the worlds coming to.
Love
Hileena

valval

it such a shame that some of the youngsters of today have never been taught self respect let alone respect for others.
most people are to buisy looking after number one my oldest has twice come to the help of pensioners who live oppisite when they have been burgled he also speeks to all those he sees on his post round he is quite a old fashiond posty and will do any thing for any one just as he has been taught the only problem i have is stopping him giving away the shirt off his back. so please do not parcel all young as the same they are like all of us different some we would love to hit others give a hug i hope you do not let what happened stop you living your life as you wish that would be letting them win.
you should have got cabbies firm and number and reported him to his bosses there was no need for it ask before you take cab next time val

barbara12

Thanks everyone for your reply s
I have got the num of our local bobby.....the thing is he is on a push bike...or foot...so I dont hold out much hope....
I think I will fold it away in future till Im on the bus...
I do feel sad that some young people are brought up with no respect ...but there you go
Dont get me wrong, I dont blame the youngsters...