Not happy.

tkachev

OH has taken 2 of my precious children off to a car show in an open topped Roller with no seat belts. My son is autistic so might climb about(daughter has been told to keep an eye on him as telling OH is a waste of time) and I am just terrified. Hopefully it will rain so the top will go back on as that will feel safer to me although the seat belt issue is just as bad.

Elizabeth heart-in-mouth.

barbara12

Awww Elizabeth
You wouldn't be a mum if you didnt worry, I do hope they have a lovely day and come home safe and sound...and best of all tired.
You try and distract yourself with something, although I know its not easy.

tkachev

Oh dear I suppose this isn't the best place to come to for a bit of quick reassurance! Sunday is always quiet on here....


Elizabeth

barbara12

tkachev wrote:

Oh dear I suppose this isn't the best place to come to for a bit of quick reassurance! Sunday is always quiet on here....


Elizabeth

Im here..

tkachev

Thankyou Barbara sorryImissed you had post. I just feel so worried..I know I shouldn't but I was expecting him to take a different car. I just needed to offload......They looked so vulnerable and the traffic is awful round Heathrow where they are going.

Mind you my daughter will let him know if it gets too scary.

Elizabeth

tkachev

I have the newspaper but finding it hard to concerntrate....


E x

barbara12

Elizabeth I know how worried you must be, we take great care of them, then others take charge...and its scary...I used to worry my self sick when they went on school trips.

constable

Hi Elizabeth,

I can understand how you are feeling. But be strong I'm sure if anything was going wrong your OH would ring you.

Us mum's always worry over our children even when they are in good hands. And for you that bit more.

Hubby has taken my two out to a steam show, also a big reinactment show with big cannons, pole cannons etc. My little one can't stand loud noises.

Just try and keep yourself occupied, that's what I am doing. And I do feel for you.


Karen xx

tkachev

OH is flippant and not bothered by the same things that concern me. I think it is a male/female thing. Whereas I always worry about coats and drinks he will send them off to school without either. He got caught out during those storms on Tuesday , son asked for his coat, I called out good idea it is going to rain and OH said forecast was sunshine and wouldn't let him take it!!!Don't know what weather forecasts he watches???
Funnily enough I trust carers with them. They have a whole check list to honour.
Karen I know we need to rest and have time for ourselves but you do wonder what can go wrong. He wouldn't ring me. I trust my little girl to keep an eye more than him!

Elizabeth

constable

I think regarding your OH not worrying about the things we do. My OH is exactly the same, probably is a male thing. If they want to do something they want to get on and do it, forgetting concequences. But they always have their heart in the right place. Not that that is any concellation to you. When are yours due back?


Karen xx

tkachev

You are so right Karen, they just want to get on with things.
Probably home 5 ish. I'm just grateful he didn't want to take one of them on the back of his Scooter. That day will come.

Elizabeth

constable

I'll be honest I don't know when mine will be back. Trying to watch the men's final, not even sure of the score though.

What we mum's put ourselves through. If there is such a thinkas reincarnation I want to come back a man and give that a try.


Karen xx

kneegirl

I am thinking of you Elizabeth and hope everyone gets home safely xx

tkachev

Aw thankyou Kneegirl.
Don't think I would take my kids in a car without seat belts and I have tried to put my foot down but just get ignored as fussing. Maybe I will state this is the last time! In an accident they would go flying and that concerns me so much.

No way would I ever want to come back as a bloke! Karen hope you okay...saw your post on fb. Hugs ((( )))

Elizabeth x

tkachev

They are back in our car now(with seatbelts) and getting a McDonalds so no cooking for me.Thanks for your messages.It was lovely to have spmeone to talk too.

Elizabeth

elnafinn

Dear Elizabeth

I am so sorry I did not see your message. My heart would have been in my mouth too. Thank goodness all has ended well and you can now relax.You will be so pleased to see them, well the children anyway!

Love and hugs
Elna x

barbara12

Elizabeth
Im so glad they are home safe and sound....and I hope they enjoyed there day...unlike you...now you can relax.

frogmorton

My Hubby used to be a member of a classic car clib and regularly brought cars home with no seatbelts...very scary the kids always wanted to go out in them....l totally sympathise Elizabeth.

So glad all ended well

Love

Toni xx

PS hope the mcds was nice

dreamdaisy

Seatbelts are a modern thing. If it was a classic car then no, it would not necessarily have had any but, let's face it, many generations spent many years riding around without wearing any - I know I did. I can understand your worry, tkachev, especially about your boy but males live diferently to females, some of them thrive on apparent risk/danger, it's in-built and as you so rightly pointed out your lad cannot anticipate or plan for danger. As it turned out all was well, so I hope you are feeling a deal better about it now. DD

tkachev

PPPeter wrote:

I would think if I had an opened topped roller I be able to afford to get seat belts fitted, you cannot enjoy it if your dead.

hi Peter

The car belongs to Grandad so we only borrow it otherwise yes I would have them fitted.

e X

constable

I bet after you worrying so much about them, they had a really good time. Isn't it always the way.

Karen xx

tkachev

yes Karen they seemed to have had a good time, at least I ve not been told otherwise. Like Toni said they always want to go in them, they don't really think about danger and accidents.
DD I remember being sat on my mums lap, no seatbelt in the front seat of our Vauxhall Viva, 4 more kids squeezed into the back. I never got put in the boot though.

E x

constable

I remember coming back from holiday in our friends car(capri) There were nine of us plus luggage. Dont know how we did it, do remember when we got to mine I opened the door and fell out to the ground.

Those were the days

Karen xx

tkachev

Just glad they didn't have a mini!

E x

constable

LOL

I wonder how many people you would get into a mini. But for me I think I'm passed trying that kind of thing now, but would be interesting dont you think.

Karen xx

liesa

on saturday evening we went to a school reunion went to the school in the 60's and early 70's, we watched an old cine film of the school, and in the good old days we used to do a procession of school flooats through the town in Brighton horror we had kids on the back of a flat bed lorry with small sides, these kids were all waving and standing up walking from one side to the other this was for around 5 miles then back again... dont ever remember hearing any fell off...lol

on a more serious note, my 3 year old grandaughter Summer.. has been in my car soooo many times and is very old for her age, i belted her in on thursday as she and the other grandkids wanted to come collect my daughter from a work placement, all in the back belted i didnt lock the door... suddenly as we went around a fast flow bend in the road i felt an enormous gush of air and quickly looked over my shoulder and asked who opened the window to see the door fling wide open!!! thank God we had already picked up my daughter as she managed to grab the door and shut it but if she hadnt have been there i think without any doubt we wouldve had a very nasty acccident.... Summer was looking so guilty, she knew immediately what she had done... so i must never accept a young child to think grown up thoughts and must LOCK the doors MYSELF!!