How do you answer the question how are you.

devonann

How do you answer how are you.Someone asked me this and when I told her I wasnt well she said well we all have something wrong.Why ask if she didnt want to know.And how should I answer when the question comes up again.

barbara12

Hi and welcome if you are new to our lovely forum
This is an age old question on here, some people ask because they care, some because they think its the right thing to do.
I haven't found the answer yet.....plodding on is what I come back with.

Poppyg1rl

Hi Devonann,
Some people ask just to be polite and don't want an in depth question, some ask because they really care and want to know. I guess the thing to do is, if it's a good friend asking me then I tell the truth and if i feel like a moan, I go for it! If it's someone I don't know that well, then I just say I'm not great, I don't go into details unless they ask.
Hope that helps, love and hugs xxx

parrotman

I usually reply ' Blooming ' ! Which could mean blooming good or blooming awful !

Regards John

valval

my boss asks most days and as a rule i so ok thanks . i know 9 times out of 10 i feel crap but no one realy want to know that and do i want them to know the truth val

cat75

hi,
i'm not the most sympathetic person so i don't expect any back so i usually just say i'm fine.

catherine

traluvie

Hi Devongirl,

If people close to me ask how i am i normally say"the usual" which to them means i not great but ok.. if i having a bad day i normally say so they can understand if i am not myself..If it someone i happen to just know.. i just say"i ok thanks".. It would depress me if i said i felt rubbish everytime someone asked how i was lol.. so rather not keep sounding like a stuck record lol..

constable

Hi there,

People always ask this question but not expecting a negative reply. I always reply with a" bad thanks and yourself". To say not bad, i think I am leaving it open if they are genuinely enquiring they will ask further.


Karen xx

frogmorton

Hi Ann

this one comes up from time to time.

I find it best to avoid competition!!! (some only ask to tell you about themselves )

I say fine thanks how are you?

To me it is a good mannered form of greeting to ask, but no-one really cares!!!

Having said that there are those who REALLY REALLY do those who then say...No REALLY how are you!!!

I treasure those people because they mean it and always make sure their interest is reciprocated.

Love

Toni xx

julie47

Morning devonann

I think it is just used as a greeting most of the time, "hello how are you"
and people expect you to say fine thank you.

Sooo thats what I say.... I am fine thankyou and you?

Juliepf x

dreamdaisy

It's a routine social greeting, it doesn't mean that they want chapter and verse on your latest meds/appointments/side effects etc etc etc -that's what we are here for. I always say 'I'm fine, are you?' My short answer is usually met by a brief one from them and the conversation moves onto more interesting areas. DD

dachshund

Hi Devonann.
people ask me i say not too bad then they talk nonstop about how they are feeling i think they live on their own and needed somone to talk to.
joan xx

Starburst

I s'pose it depends on who's asking. If it's a friend, a family member or a casual acquaintance, the answer is always "fine thank you, how are you?". If someone asks "how are you feeling today?", I would probably still say that I was ok and move the conversation on but I might mention that I'm tired or not feeling quite 100 percent. In person, I'm not great at talking about how it affects me. Even in my appts, I'm a bit rubbish. They ask how I am and I automatically say that I'm fine. Then, I feel my mum prod me (gently, of course!) and I get 'the look'.

elnafinn

I usually reply with OK, still putting one foot in front of the other, still breathing, good, could be better, people do not really want to know at great length how I am and I have no wish to go into detail either. I do not mind listening to them though if I have the time. I have always been more of a listener than a talker although my hubby would disagree I only tell my close friends and family how I really feel and sometimes do not even wish to talk to them about it, other topics are so much more interesting to listen and talk about.

Elna x

bubbadog

Hi Guys! I usually say 'not to bad' or 'alright'. So that way they know I'm still suffering but managing to plod along! Sometimes I want to say 'pretty crap!' but I bite my lip and be polite! Which is hard for me when stupid people who know me ask how I am when they know I'm not a 100% fit!