Medical Assessor coming thursday

liesa

I'm feeling really depressed right now and crying over anything... the assessor coming i think is the cause of it,
i remember reading others stories on here as to how they got on and to be honest it scares me... i havent seen any stories of those who have had their DLA reinstated
to be honest i just feel like saying ... well wont say what i was thinking...

can anyone offer me any advice that may help me please?

donjohn

Hi Liesa

Sorry to hear that you are so upset. I can't offer any advice on this one unfortunately but I am sure there are some others out there who will. I am just posting to sympathise and hope that things get a bit cheerier soon.

Best regards

Donjohn

rugbygirl

One thing I have picked up is treat this assessment as if it were your worst day. Dont say that you can do certain things because you have good days and bad days. If you give them any glimmer of hope they will run with it and you wont get anything.

Dont let them imtimidate you. After all they are only human and doing a job. Dont tidy up because someone is coming otherwise they will think that you are able to do everything.

I hope things work out for you. Look after yourself and know that we are all behind you.

I for one will be on pocket duties to help you through

liesa

thankyou Jaki xx

with 2 great danes... if i tidied up it wouldnt last 5 minutes anyways...
one of my girls has offered to come sit woth me but we dont have a definate appointment so cant have her in all day as she has 2 young kids
xx

liesa

i feel like cancelling this... i have never felt so nervous about having arthritis before! how i have to describe it all.... my brain doesnt work at the best of times so having to remember everything i have problems with etc makes me nervy....

dreamdaisy

Get yourself a list sorted of the difficulties you face on a day-to-day basis. Start the list from the moment you wake, then take yourself thro the day and note what is tricky: washing, dressing, lifting the kettle, cooking, washing up, anything that presents a problem. I have not yet had to face anything like this, so I cannot offer any wise words, but you need to be the one in control here, so get that list started (taking the view that you are having a bad, bad day) that will give your mind a focus, hopefully calm you as you begin to realise that yes, life is flaming tricky and you need this and that kinda help etc - I am sure it will all go well and they will be pleasant people. Be strong - you know we are behind you. DD

liesa

thanks DD... it just seems such a waste of time and effort, we know it will be dismissed again and then i will have to go to tribunal... i cant be arsed to do anymore, its making me worn out!

elnafinn

liesa wrote:

thanks DD... it just seems such a waste of time and effort, we know it will be dismissed again and then i will have to go to tribunal... i cant be arsed to do anymore, its making me worn out!

Hi Liesa

Try not to think of it as a waste of time - if you tell them about your worst days and worst days only, you may well not have to go to tribunal. If you do unfortunately have to attend a tribunal then at least todays "interview" will be a learning curve as to what may happen during the tribunal so treat it as a practice run.

I do wish you well with it all today.

Elna x

barbara12

Hi Lisa
I will be thinking about you, the others have given you some good advice,
Good Luck and will have everything crossed for you.
It is certainly not a waste of time...you are fighting for what is rightfully yours.

julie47

Hi liesa

Just seen your post and I want to wish you luck for today. I hope the assessment goes well.

Juliepf x

liesa

ALL DONE....
feels like a waste of time... he was nice enough but i wasnt there to make friends so only said what i had to.... when he checked my shoulders i could smell his aftershave, it made me feel so sick... had to cover my mouth... wasnt overpowering just a different movement did it...

he asked me to lie on the sofa and asked me to raise my right knee he said 'can you not get it any further or is it your weight stopping you?'
rude ****!!
well we will just have to wait and see but wont be holding my breath

thanks everyone for your support xxxx

rugbygirl

This guy sounds like he was trying to frighten you into pushing yourself further than is absolutely necessary.

I would keep a note of his name and if you are turned down for it, make a complaint about him. I mean there is no reason to insult your weight. When you have arthritis you cant move as much as you would like to be able to or as fast so there is a problem with losing weight.

I was certainly there with you and I hope that you get the DLA you deserve.

Look after yourself and dont give up fighting for something that is right for you. After all its the ones who get it and dont deserve it that they should be focussing on and taking their benefit away not the ones who deal with things like Arthur.

It makes me so made sometimes.

Take care and I hope the result is the right one

dotty123

I'm glad its all over for you, it sounds horrendous to be inspected like this. It must feel like being told to sit on the naughty chair or see the head mistress... I can't believe the government are treating people like this, making those suffer even more is an insult.
I am in early stage OA and already suffer with my hands and cannot do certain things, I haven't nor will I apply for DLA because whats the point. I can still get by ... painfully

Take care and I will keep my dodgy fingers crossed for you.. if i can lol

liesa

thanks xxxx

i tried for it 22 years ago and was turned down over the years apart from now i have been turned down 3 times, it was through making friends on a palindromic rhuematism site a few years back that one lovely lady was a benefit counsellor in scotland and she sent me via emails what i had to write in all the boxes, she only worded it differently from what i said, i got it after that at the lower rate only care component then they called me just after i had my knee replaced as my renewal form had stated so she called me on the off chance to ask if i was on the waiting list, but had just come out of a 9 day stay after having my knee replaced so they gave me next rate and mobility higher rate, so they give it and take it when it suits, im just glad i hadnt swapped my old banger automatic vauxhall vectra estate for a motorbility car cos if the mobilty had been stopped i would have lost my car...
so we will just have to wait and see now....

i felt he was intimidating me... the door went i answer... i said Dr... he said 'Liesa' like i was his friend... so that put me on my guard straightaway!