Am I normal

resusjan

Hi,

I'm quite new on here (diagnosed RA a few months ago). Just wondered if its normal to be teary, emotional, continually anxious - is this part of RA and should I tell my rheumatologist next time I see them or am I just a hormonal 42 year old??

Ankyspond

Hi,

You are very normal, read my post last night I rant about feeling very teary with the flare I am having at minute. Could be the meds, arthritis has a way making us feel very low with the pain and frustration so don't worry. Hope you feel better soon. Xx

frogmorton

You are normal!!!

You might be still adjusting to the diagnosis and be feeling emotional because you are unconsciously or consciously anxious about your future.

Best thing l can suggest is make sure you get enough rest (more than before ) eat well and healthily, exercise IF you can, do something good for YOU every day....

and keep talking. Particularly to those of us who understand and good freinds and family.

Love and ((()))

Toni xx

suzygirl

I think its normal. Being diagnosed with a chronic illness is a life changing expereince. It brings with it pain, frustartaion, limitations and uncertainty.

Talking to others who understand is a great help as you realise you are not alone.

Take care

YellowFish

Hey,

I feel exactly the same! I have found myself blubbing in the most unlikely of places - on the train, in boots at the pharmacy counter, outside work on a Friday evening out of sheer relief from having made it through the week!

It's hard! I think the most difficult part is when you realise you can't do the same things. At 29 I am finding that really difficult, especially as I am (was?) a particularly active 29 year old always dashing around on my bike. I suppose that's a bit like grieving - grieving for the things we can't do anymore?

For the first few months I approached life with a grim determination that I was NOT going to allow this to stop me doing anything I used to do. Over the last few weeks I've realised that's unrealistic - of course it's going to affect me! I'm not going to do myself any favours if I ignore what's happening and don't give myself a break. As I've begun to accept this, the tears have started.

The tears are OK! We are suffering and it's good to recognise our suffering and feel compassionate towards ourselves. Take it gently.

You're not on your own

YellowFish.

dreamdaisy

I think it's completely and utterly normal. RA (all the As in fact) muck not only with the body, but also the mind and emotions. I think my tears are mixtures of stress, grief, anger, fear, horror, denial and pain. Yesterday's tears were different tho - all joy as an old friend told me he is going to marry the girl he adores. Those tears were lovely and I thoroughly enjoyed them.

You do need to make those who are looking after you (consultant and GP etc) aware of this, showing them a brave face all the time does not help you. This is a difficult time for you and your reaction is completely normal. DD

dorcas

Yes indeed you are normal :!:

I think it's a good thing to be able to let go and have a blub... it helps to get rid of some of the tension and frustration. Keeping feelings boxed in, isn't good for mind or body.... so 'allow' yourself to cry when you need to... without feeling guilty about it.

As you can see from your replies... we all experience the same feelings; so you are in good company :!:

At least you know too that you are not alone..... so keep posting!

Iris xxx

valval

arther messes with your head that is for sure but as you will find we help each other through and give advice when needed finding out in not in your head is a buz but then you come down hard with all the ups and downs val

resusjan

Thank you so much everyone, I really appreciate all the replies. They came at a great time as I have just got home from a particularly stressfull 12 hour shift in A & E. Nothing I could do to avoid it unfortunately but came home and told hubby I was so tired I felt like crying. I've also just spoken to my dad which made me even more emotional as he lives so far away and I miss him loads.

I've got an appointment with my GP on tuesday and also got a letter from the rheumy consultant yesterday asking me to go in and see her, so I'll definately take all of your advise and tell them how I'm feeling emotionally as well a physically.

Thanks all for replying to my post - you're all a hugely valuable supportive bunch xxxxxx

barbara12

Hi Of course you are normal...we all go through lots of different emotions...and dont forget we are always here if you want to get things off your chest....rant away..

frogmorton

Hi Jan

glad we helped a bit all of your feeling are so normal. Glad you are telling your Gp and that the rheumy cosnultant wants to see you so you are getting the help you need.

Things WILL get better

Love

Toni xx

traluvie

Normal??? What does normal feel like lol :roll: i forgot..

Regarding is it normal to feel as you do then yes it is..
I have days when i can handle things really well and you'd think nothing was wrong, and other day when all i want to do is cry..
As others had said, it is an emotiona rollercoaster... we are here to support eachother on them days, so feel free to post as we understand how you are feeling..