A little help...

Poppyg1rl · 2. Oct 2011, 05:09

Hi all,
I wondered if I might ask for your support this afternoon? Considering all the lovely messages you have already given me on Sticky's thread I do feel a bit cheeky asking :oops: I've been up most of the night in pain with the blasted shoulder :sad:
I have been asked by my cousin Mairead to be Godmother to her little baby son Finlay, I'm deeply honoured, but the journey is a good 2 and half hours away and with my shoulder it'll be a bit of a trial. I have my trusty sling for my arm to rest in, but ive an irrational fear I'll drop the baby or something! :???: looking after Orla Friday was tough but wonderful, and I was asked to be Godmother as soon as Mairead became pregnant

so I can't let her down.
Please would you think of me around 3.30pm? I'm hoping the painkillers and wheelchair will give me a rest afterwards for the party, but the rest of the family haven't seen me in a wheelchair either and I'm dreading that bit too...
Thanks for reading love and a one armed hug () X

bertyboy · 2. Oct 2011, 05:24

i will be there with you Poppy these are important things to attend , hopefully the joy of the day will see you through , and all will be pleased to see you they will see the chair yes but its the person beaming out being godmother that they will be seeing the important thing do have a lovely day xx

stickywicket · 2. Oct 2011, 06:01

Definitely with you, Poppy.

I totally understand where you're coming from with the wheelchair. After years of using one for long trips or just short ones when I've been bad, I still hate having to take to one among people who normally see me walking. I think it takes real strength and guts but, Poppy, you've got that by the bucketload.

Anyway, if you stay in the chair it'll make things easier as you can rest the baby on your knee (Keeping your feet on the footplates to make your knees that bit higher up) rather than supporting him just in your arms. Hold him with the good arm and if this is less convenient for the priest that's tough. He will be far more able to adapt than you.

I can't wish you a lovely time as I suspect it will be more of an ordeal but I hope you can manage to enjoy the good bits - without too many repercussions tomorrow. Take care.

mig · 2. Oct 2011, 06:03

will be thinking of you.Mig

Ankyspond · 2. Oct 2011, 06:11

There with you all the way. X

dorcas · 2. Oct 2011, 06:17

Hi poppygirl

I'll be thinking about you this afternoon and sending you positive vibes.

I understand the wheelchair 'embarrassment'; for some reason it feels ok to go out in a wheelchair amongst strangers???? I guess it's because they have no preconceptions.
The first time I went out to a family gathering I felt so conspicuous. :oops: .. but everyone was so supportive and after the first few minutes I relaxed and just enjoyed myself!.....and I was able to stay longer than I would have if I'd been hobling along.

It's a wise move poppygirl to use your wheelchair

as sticky wisely said 'if you stay in the chair it'll make things easier as you can rest the baby on your knee rather than supporting him just in your arms.'

have a lovely time! and let us know how you get on.

Iris xxx

suzygirl · 2. Oct 2011, 06:33

(((Poppy))) I will be with you in spirit. I really hope you enjoy the day, and find the wheelchair to be a help. I know how awkward it is to be in one, it has it plus and minuses, it is definitely a talking point!!!

Have a lovely time

dreamdaisy · 2. Oct 2011, 06:37

Count me in too. I have been thinking of you and will continue to do so, but extra-specially hard this afternoon. I can understand your fears about the babe, and the uncertainty about the chariot, but I reckon friends etc could feel more awkward about it than you. Brace yourself. ((((((())))))) And some love. DD

jillyb1 · 2. Oct 2011, 09:27

Poppy , please don't feel awkward using a wheelchair as it can really help you to enjoy your outings more instead of having to rush away early due to extra pain and discomfort . I tend to feel that I am still me ; in or out of a chair so any awkwardness is the other person's problem , not mine ! We also joke about my wheels quite a bit ; they're known in the family circle as my scopemobile ( yes , very un pc ! ) , and it is just accepted that to be properly mobile ~ I arrive fitted with wheels ! One thing to remember is that the gorgeous baby ; the reason for the whole day ; doesn't see you as a person in or not of a wheelchair , but simply as a wonderful , loving Godmother . Jillyb

tjt6768 · 2. Oct 2011, 09:34

count me and Ra in too. Hopefully you are well on your way there now.
Have a wonderful time.
I can DJ at the party if you like
Ra can work the doors, wouldn't want any undesirables in

valval · 2. Oct 2011, 10:36

nearly time so i just made it you will be fine just be your self you will not drop the baby you might fall over and hurt your self(we all do) but baby will be safe in your arms good luck val

julie47 · 2. Oct 2011, 10:46

Poppy I am thinking of you
Sending you ((((((hugs)))))

Juliepf x

Poppyg1rl · 2. Oct 2011, 15:13

Hi all,
Am totally shattered but happy to report all went well

I managed to stand at the font and my brother (Godfather) had his arm under my elbow supporting me so baby was not dropped! baby Finlay didn't even cry bless him

the party was good and I was able to stay quite a while, my immediate family surrounded me at the table and nobody asked or commented on 'Betsy' my wheelchair, I wanted the day to be about baby Finlay, not about me, and thankfully baby was the star of the day

thankyou for all your support and kindness it really did help my love to you all Xxx

tiggernut · 2. Oct 2011, 15:24

Hi Poppy,
So glad it all went well. That's the thing I worry about with babies it doesn't take long before the shoulder goes dead.
I was holding my great nephew back in July and my shoulder ached for days as I held him for ages too gorgous to put down lol!
I hope I get a grandchild before I really won't be able to hold it.As it is I wouldn't be able to give a bottle feed as my hands are so bad I can't hold the bottle!

Anita

stickywicket · 2. Oct 2011, 17:30

I'm very pleased it went well, Poppy, and that baby Finlay didn't end up in the font. Good on your brother for helping out, and your family for 'protecting you' at the table. Now, tomorrow you are officially on 'rest duties' so please don't try any heroics.

Tiggernut - - I went to the USA when my grandson was 2 months so's I'd have a chance of holding him. I went back when he was 8 months and I still could as long as someone else was sitting beside me ready for any sudden movements. Last April, when he was 20 months, I didn't think I'd stand a chance but by then he liked sitting on knees for looking at books and, if he did wriggle off, it didn't matter as he was mobile. (Boy, how mobile!) So, things might be better than you think.

tjt6768 · 2. Oct 2011, 18:22

Hi Poppy. Glad that the day went well hun. Bet you really are shattered. These things really take it out of us, that's the case with me anyways.. I get so exhausted just from being at parties etc... I hate sitting there not being able to have a boogie though..
My dancing days are limited to the little dancing man on my signature now though, lol..

Hope you wake tomorrow with no aches or pains and have a wonderful day

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